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-Kitten

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So woah I haven't posted in ages.
Anyhwho, my fiance and I always had issues. A lot toward sex also. He can't orgasm with a woman only his hand it's been like this every time and me and him tried many things and like in my past posts here I am saying he lied about anythignt hat had to do with his issue.
I accepted to be his fiance thinking we could have a life together and I know in a few years I want a baby so this past year of being with him and accepting all this is hard knowing I'll never have a normal sex life and it'll be hard to have children.

So he tried doing what anyone I met told him to do and this was stop jacking off and porn and have sex until he is kinda forced to cum with me but it never worked to be honest once again he never really tried he says if he doesn't jack off he will get acne and lose his sex drive............yeahhhh.......fucking right. Whatever.

Point is he lied and I just found out two weeks ago maybe less and we didn't have sex since ( we went from having sex to almost daily to about once or twice every two weeks if im very lucky i'll get it twice in a week and it's not good like it used to be) now since i know there is no hope to get him to cum when we had sex today i came very fast since it was soo fucking long and my natural thought was to push him out tell him to jack off and left. I don't know I feel so strange and wierd about it... before I would always keep going hoping he can orgasm and I'll be lucky and have another orgasm. Now I'm all like "oh i came let's stop" and it makes me feel so strange to think like that it makes sex super short and he gets all wtf at me just leaving and sex is just not gonna be fun since i know i'll do this every time i don't see the point to keep going i'll get bored so easy knowing he feels nothing.

Our relationship is dead we don't kiss, we have NO conversation, and sex doesn't happen that much anymore.
So what i'mma ask for is does nayone have a way to make me forget about his issue so it can be less wierd between us during sex afetr i orgasm and then as always if anyone knows a way to make a man that has issues to cum be able to do so..

hope this all makes sence.
 
I kind of understand. I have the same problem. I've only been able to come twice from sex. Not sure what my problem is, I've never slept with a DUFF or an extremely loose girl (hot dog in a hallway..).
All I can say is stick with him if you like/love him.
 
^^ yes if your relationship is dead, why are you getting married? especially with a problem like this?
That is defiantly something way different. I mean whats the point of even having sex anymore? its only for you really. I understand you want to be there for him with this kind of problem and love him but.. He wouldn't fallow through on not watching porn and jacking off to it. He needs to be able to feel that with you.
In all honesty, I think getting married with this unresolved issue. Is a bad idea.
 
Well i was his fiance for a long time its been a long engagment... so im trying to bring our relationship alive.
and why do we have sex? i have no fuckign idea to be honest. its only for me but seriously i could just make my self orgasm if he gets nothing out of it... it feels really lonely during sex for me if that makes any sence...
 
-Kitten said:
hope this all makes sence.
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I don't want to be rude, but.. no.
Is this the same guy that cheated on you, that probably infected you with some STD and so on?
If so I cannot really understand why you (both of you) are keeping this relationship "alive"
 
It sounds like this is not just sexual problem, but an issue involving the whole relationship. It sounds like neither of you really are into the relationship and are just carrying on because you are so used to it. I'd get out of the relationship. It may do both of you guys some good. Maybe even taking a break from each other then coming back together to see if that helps.
 
^I second that :/

Regarding the fact that he can't cum, I understand it must be really frsutrating for you but it's not necessarily that bad. I mean I don't know, in total I've probably cum about...3 times with guys (and been sexually active for about 3 years). But trust me, it really doesn't make me like sex less, it's still great. So don't assume that because he can't that means he doesn't enjoy the act in itself anyway.
 
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