Ready to give up..

[The Warden]

I seem to have bad luck. Either I'm not their type, I meet them at a bad time in my life or theirs, they don't feel the same way, whatever the fucking excuse, I've heard them all.. It just seems like I'm never going to meet the right person at the right time.
I've been let down by every girl or woman that I've dated or had feelings for.
So what's the point in trying when I'm only going to be disappointed or be a disappointment? I'm tired of wasting my time and getting my heart broken.

 

[Disraeli_Beers]

Reality check: almost every romantic relationship in the history of the human race has failed.

Then there is that .01% in which one partner dies before the relationship disintegrates.

Relationships are great, but they almost inevitably end. I've found that life is a series of integrated processes which usually have some kind of discernible beginning and end. This isn't a bad thing, it's just the way it is. All we can do as humans is participate to the best of our ability and accept the end when it comes.

Also, wasting time is just a matter of perspective. We learn, in large part, through failure. If we didn't fail we'd still be primates, or maybe amoeba... I dno...

Point being: keep trying, keep failing, keep loving and always keep living. This too shall pass, may as well dig it while you got the chance!

 

[Foreigner]

^ I agree with your perspective, but I think the OP is suffering from unrequited love more than he is from endings.

It's easy to be laissez-faire about romantic interests when you've had them or you're in one now. But for some people it hasn't happened after a long time and it starts to get depressing.

 

[Lysis]

Unrequited love. No fun at alllll. OP, I'm sorry you're going through it. I hope you're able to move on from this girl. Honestly, it's not worth your happiness or sanity, and there are others (plenty!) who will reciprocate and stop making you feel this way.

 

[Max Power]

I seem to have bad luck. Either I'm not their type, I meet them at a bad time in my life or theirs, they don't feel the same way, whatever the fucking excuse, I've heard them all.. It just seems like I'm never going to meet the right person at the right time.
I've been let down by every girl or woman that I've dated or had feelings for.
So what's the point in trying when I'm only going to be disappointed or be a disappointment? I'm tired of wasting my time and getting my heart broken.

Every failed relationship is just one step closer to the right one. It's like climbing stairs. You don't get to the top in just one step. It takes awhile. It's a learning experience just like everything else. Look at each one as a way to grow and hone your skills. You learn from one another and move the eff on. Besides, you shouldn't be approaching every relationship with 'oneitis', thinking "ZOMG THIS IS TEH ONE". Easy way to get your heart broken. Just have fun, don't be so serious about these things.

 

[The Warden]

It's complicated. Not ending, but like lysis said unrequited. We're just going to take things slower than we are now. We moved way too fast. I'm used to it, but she's different than every other girl, so that's why I want her and not someone else. I hope this weekend doesn't throw a wrench in the works. Was about to go waaay off topic so I deleted a couple of paragraphs..

 

[bronson]

I hate to say it, but when there is no fun in the chase, and only stress, it's usually a good indication that it honestly might not be worth it. Moving on takes time no matter, but is still healthier than chasing the unattainable. Like you said, try taking things a bit slower, and give it a little more time.

If that still leaves you with the same results and feeling bad, break away. There are plenty of people out there, and sometimes some time single isn't the worst thing while you're waiting for someone great to come along. Worst come to worst, just take some time to focus your energy on yourself instead of others. From my past experiences, it's the easiest way to move on from a situation like this.

 

[pofacedhoe]

sometimes a positive attitude can send out vibes that come back way later. i dont just mean having a smile on your face today but that always helps.

are you hitting on girls that are out of your league, or are you going for women you know are not available (this is a common theme among gay men- to go after those they cannot get as its easier than dealing with the reality of a real relationship)?

also are you getting laid with these women, then they dump you? if so you are halfway to where you wanna be.

life aint perfect. thing is maybe you are looking in the wrong place, or for the wrong type

 

[The Warden]

I haven't had a relationshop since I was eighteen, I'm twenty five now. I've only slept with four girls (including the one I'm seeing now) so I'm obviously not the most confident of guys. I'm not going after girls that are out of my league because I don't want to deal with all the bullshit involved. I occasionally find a girl that's cool and we hang out, only slept with a few, most I'm just friended. Friend zone isn't bad for most of them because after we've become friends I've seen how and who they are and I am glad things didn't go further than they did. I got tired of being rejected and hurt so I followed other's advice and stopped looking; then she friended me on fb and we started talking and seeing each other.
Like poface said a positive attitude can help, but if you read my other thread in tds :why must life be such a challenge for some? you'll see how it can be hard for me to have a positive attitude sometimes..

 

[pofacedhoe]

my theory on positivity is this-

1. you must love yourself or who else will?

2. we are all made of energy vibrating that formed into atoms. the vibrations we send out in the universe cause things/people/opportunites to come back to us on our particular vibration. life wont be perfect but be really careful what you wish for. wishes do come true but only if you really believe they will and put your heart into that feeling and send it out, you have to put some effort in too but there ya go

3. appreciate the lack of real hard suffering in your life- have you had a stroke and are unable to control your own bodily functions needing round the clock care? are you dying of terminal breast cancer? did you watch your twin sister being beheaded in front of you, then pass out and wake up on a pile of dead bodies in a mass grave while pretending to be dead (happened to a coworker of mine from rawanda who has PTSD understandably)? then start appreciating what you DO have. youth, your health, a lifetime of opportunites and a fresh working mind that can change its pattern of thought to something more beneficial to itself.