Women having other things that start with a "P" ya know.............

[Hear Me Roar]

I've been friends with girls in hope of getting with them,
I've been friends with girls, cos I thought they were cool and wanted to chill.

Heck... I've had girls ask me out after being friends, for a while and guys.

I don't personally see any issue. Friends are friends whether you want to bang them or not.

I suppose, if its like a weird stalkery kinda friendship, inappropriate behaviour etc... then its bad. You may want to bang your friends... but if you ever do, the feeling has to be mutual and realise 75%of the time, its going to ruin your friendship.

 

[duckeee]

This seems to be solely HIS PROBLEM. He seems to have impulse control issues and it's he who thinks he deserves to be paid in sex for simple favor for a friend.

So in my opinion you should do nothing. You can tell him that it makes you uncomfortable to be hanging with him and so you have decided to get some space. It's not YOU who has to explain yourself, it's him who needs to learn how to deal with his hormones. And also it seems he needs to learn how to treat women in general.

Seriously though. It might sound pretttty cocky but it's not your fault you are hot. There are millions of hot people in the world and yet civilization has found a way to function without constant dryhumping acts being committed everywhere all the time.

OMG! this is the third time ive wrote this and keep hitting the wrong button to reply!

Anyways,
I'm NOT saying that this is how every guy is. Definatley NOT! But this is how i've been felling with the guys in my life right now.
they all know where i stand, everything is out on the table-
i'm not leading them on, i'm not flaunting my shit around, i like to be taken seriously and with respect.
and i guess i am dealing with a real douche if i can't call my FRIEND to help me with a matress without expecting to be slapped in the face pretty much because he wants more and i said No... doesn't seem right when at the end of the conversation everything was ok. Seems like even if i was thinking about it, which i wasnt, i'm definately not now! And hes got alot of growing up to do. ANd considering hes 45 chances are unlikely
I guess what it boils down to is that i've never had to "dismiss" or end a friendship over this and it sucks!! And i'm having to end 4!!??
I don;t know how to go about this other than tell them i can't be friends with them, and when they call avoid them?

 

[34-dihydroxyphen]

There are millions of hot people in the world and yet civilization has found a way to function without constant dryhumping acts being committed everywhere all the time.

Unfortunately. Wouldn't civilization be much better if people just dryhumped all the time?


For the record, when a girl asks "Can you come over and move my mattress with me?" it is usually code for "Come over, let's fuck!" Perhaps your friend was simply being romantic when he asked if he could sleep over afterwards?

 

[footscrazy]

Also, I don't understand what's with all these girls saying "I can't relate to other girls" and being insulting and whatnot. Yes, there are some girls who you can't relate to, just like there will be some guys you can't relate too. Maybe you haven't made the effort to make female friends?? It isn't about the gender - it's about the person. Not all girls start drama. I don't see why the gazillion girls that I hear "I don't get along with most girls, I only get along with guys" - why don't they all just become friends? Since they are all drama-free and whatnot???

I have to admit, the girls who say 'I mainly get along with guys, because girls are 'prissy' or are 'drama queens' annoy me too. I do think it's ridiculous to generalise a whole gender like that, and at some level, I have to agree with Lysis when she says

If you can't get along with females at all, it's probably YOU not THEM. And, you need to take a hard look at why you only befriend men (the men are usually straight too..not gay men).

Obviously there will always be an exception to the rule, but there are women of every variety out there, drama queens, prissy ones, super cool ones, those who hate drama, ones that don't bitch, are laid back, and don't expect you to call every day. And every other variety under the sun. When a girl says she doesn't get along with any girl, it does suggest to me there's a problem with that girl, simply because there's so many different types of women out there that it's so unlikely to not get along with every single one of them, unless there is some reason that girl is uncomfortable hanging out with females. I feel like in many cases, the reason why some guys are less likely to get their 'undies in a bundle' if someone 'says something that offends' - is because there's a payoff for them to put up with that kind of shit. Whereas another girl has no reason to hang around someone who is no fun to be around.

 

[Noodle]

from what i have gathered, lesbians put up with it in a different way

 

[gildingthelily]

This seems to be solely HIS PROBLEM. He seems to have impulse control issues and it's he who thinks he deserves to be paid in sex for simple favor for a friend.

So in my opinion you should do nothing. You can tell him that it makes you uncomfortable to be hanging with him and so you have decided to get some space. It's not YOU who has to explain yourself, it's him who needs to learn how to deal with his hormones. And also it seems he needs to learn how to treat women in general.

Seriously though. It might sound pretttty cocky but it's not your fault you are hot. There are millions of hot people in the world and yet civilization has found a way to function without constant dryhumping acts being committed everywhere all the time.

Thank you for you're advice duckeee! :D

 

[atara]

eh...the "I can only stay friends with men" women are fooling themselves, and they are quite annoyingly naive. My sister is one of them, although if you ask her, she thinks she's the friendliest person alive...get into her group though and her male friend pays attention to another girl, and she is nasty as shit. Usually, these women are attention-needing clueless people who can't understand that all the men are hanging all over them, because they have either been friend-zoned or the guy is just waiting for his chance to get it in. None of these women can relate to other women, because they are difficult to get along with, it's usually THEM with the issues, and the thought of another girl getting the attention from their male "friends" sends them into a nasty frenzy.

If you can't get along with females at all, it's probably YOU not THEM. And, you need to take a hard look at why you only befriend men (the men are usually straight too..not gay men).

Sure, you can have male friends, but if you can't for the life of you get along with women, then it's probably you, not them.

Agreed!

I would like to add: if you are posting about people's supposed inability to have female friends, and you yourself declare this inability, you are a hypocrite.

 

[shahab6]

Since guys are very sexual in general, if they found u attractive, they want to have sex with you. This makes it hard to be friends,unless the girl is ugly..

 

[MyFinalRest]

It's ridiculous to say one can only get along with a certain gender. It all comes down to certain people.

But, if these guys just want to fuck and offer nothing like a relationship on the table, then don't fool with them. They are just being fuckers.

But, if there is an attractive guy who really is your friend, there is no reason not to date him because he started as your friend. Friends first is a great way to begin something.