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Sexuality, language and society.

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I'm not going to end up a father, I wrap it up, they take birth control, and finally,.most of what we do is oral or kink play, so preggers is a non issue.

So, some people find it emotionally hard to have sex w multiple friends? Okay, cool
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don't do it. That fails to explain why they are hostile towards people who like it. It's harmless, it don't affect them, what's the issue?

I personally agree that words make no difference. However in this context, the words are loaded, like 'freedom fighter' vs 'terrorist' Which goes back to my above statement.
 
sexual impulses are natural and needed, the addiction to sexual stimulus and gratification are hand in hand dependent: the more the desire the more there is a need of gratification to fulfill. this seems a common concept with many things.

this is were i see the intention of religions strict approach.

but, the more suppression the more there is a desire.

this is the flip side of the coin.


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there are many implications here
 
the more the desire the more there is a need of gratification to fulfill

I disagree. I don't think one needs to clench craving with gratification.
Furthermore, I think-
Here, you're talking about sexual desire. I think there are different types of desires. I think there is affection, and care, and lust, and love. I think there is the desire to experience sexual stimulus, and the desire to give sexual stimulus.
I mean, what constitutes sexual gratification?
Giving a girl a foot rub can be more gratifying than fondling her breasts, for example.
I mean this is the problem I have with shit. Irrespective of my fucked consciousness and fuzzy cognition and apathy towards this, it's just too fucking varied.
I can't give some sort of blanket statement that is true to such a phenomenon. It's far too subjective and complex and all that shit.
There's too little correlation between things to be able to present such a notion that applies to something that simplified and vast. It's too crude.
On another note, to compliment the rest of my useless and OT post, there's a girl I saw rubbing her back/shoulders as to relieve them of some discomfort.
I wanted to just go up behind her and give her a back rub. I wanted to please her.
I so often want to give myself to someone, but not entirely. It's like I want to surrender to them because I assume they're going to do the things I want. When I think of surrendering my entire being, filling somebodies void with my being, I don't imagine they're going to shit on my face and make me eat chilli. I fantasize they're going to attain pleasure doing something I'd like, not something I'd dislike.
This has no relevance to anything, so sorry for the derail rangrz.
Seeing as I've gone this far, can I pick your brain? I read this hypothesis (and some thought has gone into it) and seeing as I'm not studying physics I thought you might be able to give me an informed opinion on whether this might be true or false? I'm just gonna copy the post:

A friend of mine weighs about 115-120lbs and he rails corners on harder duro wheels. I recently tried an 83a wheel which he'd been riding for a while, coming from mostly 78a-80a wheels myself, and I was slipping through all the same corners. His thoughts on the matter are: He needs a harder wheel, to be able to slide it, saying his body weight makes a softer wheel feel "too grippy" and doesn't slide out easily enough (that's just purely taste though...). While we were discussing why I feel uncomftorable on the same duro wheel, and the standard seems to be higher duros for heavy riders, he suggested the intertia from my extra weight (about 160lbs) causes the wheels to break loose, while with his less weight, he can agilely rip through the turn, not putting as much pressure on the wheel to do so.

So my new view on the matter is that a lighter rider can actually get more grip out of a harder wheel than a heavier rider, due to them not putting as much pressure on the wheels through a turn. It doesn't have so much to do with the compression of the lip, the urethane is what really sticks to the road in my opinion, so all this mumbo jumbo about needing more weight to compress the lips of your harder and "faster" wheel is a croc of **** to me. This is coming from my experiences with super soft wheels that didn't grip for ****, but I could sure compress the hell out of the lip in turns, but when trying a harder wheel (different urethane) I was able to grip the same turns full speed, probably could have been going faster. (wheel brands don't need to be mentioned eh? you should get the point that it wasn't the lip that was gripping the road.)

This, for me, has shed some light on Nersh factors or statistics or whatever you call it. I've seen quite a few statements that their higher duro wheels grip more than the lower duros, and the lower duro slip out "ghostly" (at least with Money Hax I saw this) which never made sense to me, and every other company has been saying the opposite, but after getting a set, I think I can see why. The wheel is so big that I believe it over compresses, in lower duros, to where the contact patch bends or convexes so the wheel is no longer making solid contact with the road and you lose grip. Thinking about how this might work, I thought about how my other, much smaller, wheels were interacting with my weight on them. Since a harder duro has less compression depth, I may be asking too much of the wheel with my weight. Even though I can still compress the lips more than a lighter rider, there is still a point in the wheel where compression is not translating to grip anymore, and I believe that distnce is much shorter on a harder wheel. Which is why my much lighter friend can get grip out of the harder wheels, he's not over compressing but just allowing the wheel to remain gripping the road evenly over the contact patch.
 
I can't give some sort of blanket statement that is true to such a phenomenon. It's far too subjective and complex and all that shit.

i can, perhaps, deisres are to be exorcised, not with held, an individual desire is a product of a social want.

wants are escalated through instigation of with held desires, not seen for the implicit value of a practical need.
 
re: the more weight down, the higher traction. This the idea behind locomotives having ENORMOUS ballast, to keep the wheels from slipping when starting with a long train up a hill.

On the flip side, wider also gives more traction on soft ground, as the ground will rip up. This is the idea behind tank tracks (not soft at.all) buuuut, with pneumatic tires, soft makes the spread and thus wider.

Do it empirically, by seeing your best time.

@ DDKs on topic: I too like just giving pleasure and surrender. It's a safe, comfy, nice sensation. Which again, makes me wonder why it's a frowned up activity...
 
desire = want
Desires are to be exorcised? No. They're not.
There are different types of desires. You can desire to do something emotionally, rationally, logically, morally, socially, etc.
You can have conflicting desires, and for me at least, it would be impossible to exorcise all my desires as I might have the desire to kill a fly and the desire to let it live. Either I kill it, or I let it live, thus leaving one desire to be exorcised and the other is now unable to ever be exorcised ever ever ever. NEVER TO BE EXORCISED.
No, an individual desire is not a product of a social want. An impersonal desire is the produce of a social want.
You're born, and you have a desire for some milk. Is that because of society? No. It's because of biology.
You grow up, and you want to climb that tree. Is that because of society? No. It's not because of biology either, not directly at least. It's a personal desire, free of social implications.
Desires are escalated through withholding desires? No. Just because you want something, it doesn't mean you'll want it more the longer you want it. You would have experienced that desire for a longer time, but it won't be more intense.
This again, is just derailing rangrz thread even more, but he's a cool guy.

How nice it would be to give yourself to someone. To surrender your being for their pleasure. In that moment, to be theirs. To not only be the source of their pleasure, but- Maybe people are just jealous because their friends don't want sexual relations with them?
 
I surrender all the.time, well as much as is realistic. :) I think its awesome,and surprise! None of these girls has ever done more then be wickedly enjoyable when I've done so.

Hmm, perhaps some people are jealous, but I think that's not the root issue. If everyone accepted it,I bet we'd find many people actually want it.
 
I'd love it if some of my friends asked me to eat them out and fondle their nipples with my tongue.. But I feel asking if she wants that might ruin the friendship and add a very unwanted awkward dynamic in any future interactions.. If only.. Maybe some people don't want to be pleasured?
 
you mean, experience to know the truth of what is you actually want, using deductive reasoning?

I'm just quoting this for your incoherent babbling

But there's that whole social indoctrination that kissing someone you're friends with means they want to be your monogamous partner
and sometimes they're already in monogamous relationships
and you just wanna pleasure them
and contour their curves
with your tongue
and eat them
'til jaw lock
 
I'm on the to see my best friend. I'm going to kiss her, and nom her, and get bound by her. Then we're going to some art thing together, and no monogamy expected, and no drama after.

It's lovely really. I suggest you just try kissing a friend, I bet you it goes better then you think.
 
It does sound really lovely. If a kiss lead to something like that, I'd have to write you a novella on how awesome you are. After writing one for my hypothetical romantic friend who I am free to love and pleasure..
Enjoy your night :)
 
I shall. il try put a pic of us in SLR. Lol.

Do you not have any cute, affectionate female friends you try? It's not that hard. Rangrz can pull it off, so then can anyone with a pulse.
 
At OP, I think most people are still ashamed of sex. That means they feel awkward when confronted with a situation that doesn't conform to their expectations of it. The fact is that we're societally conditioned (regardless of the root cause) to feel guilt about our desires. And when you feel shame, you hide, like Adam and Eve realizing they're naked (allegory of course).

Stupid? Yeah. But that's the way people at large think.
 
At OP, I think most people are still ashamed of sex. That means they feel awkward when confronted with a situation that doesn't conform to their expectations of it. The fact is that we're societally conditioned (regardless of the root cause) to feel guilt about our desires. And when you feel shame, you hide, like Adam and Eve realizing they're naked (allegory of course).

Stupid? Yeah. But that's the way people at large think.

But what's to be ashamed of? I'm having a hard time seeing what's to be ashamed of...my guy friends (and a lot of my girl friends) are rather proud of getting some tail.
 
It's a bit base, don't you think? Certainly people are proud of doing it - but it's not much of an achievement, really. Well, it is to some.
I can understand being ashamed of giving in to unthinking animal passions. I am only half serious, but the half that is serious; is serious - seriously!
 
Does nobody have any reading comprehension skills anymore?...

I explicitly said that the reasoning is stupid. There is nothing to be ashamed of.
But that doesn't mean that the majority of the population doesn't still associates sexuality with shame.
(And I already talked about how this is likely due to the influence of the RCC anyway. -.- )
 
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