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[Relationship advice] showed my hidden drug collection to girlfriend of 4 years

Sorry to here things ended but you guys really have totally different lives and viewpoints and it was pretty much doomed to end at some point anyway. My advice would have been to do what you do and if she asks tell her but otherwise don't mention everything what you're doing and when you're doing it. Honestly, if you want to continue to use whatever you please, you really need to be with someone that "gets" that whole scene and isn't soooo drastically different in that regard. At least, take solice in that. Good Luck man!
 
Don't give up too much of yourself for anyone. It's sad to hear things ended, but sometimes people are too different to be happy together. I'm speak from experience. It might help to share the pain. I gave up my piercings, a huge part of me that I suffered for and earned, then my spirituality, and hanging out with friends, all for my fiancee. After awhile you become bitter and broken. No matter how much you care about someone, sometimes you must let it go. There's only so much of you that you can give up before there's nothing left. Good luck. Sometimes it's just meant to end.
 
I couldn't agree more. I believe part of the problem is that you don't have anything to really put this in perspective. If and when you meet someone else that likes everything (or almost) you do and participates and totally loves everything about you, you'll really "get" it. You'll realize that this relationship just wasn't meant to last but to learn from. You'll see, believe it and then you'll say, ahh ha. I do wish you the Best!
 
Well, just be careful.
I can tell you from my own experience that, because of all this crappy society pressure, people seem to think way too easily and you're out of control. The ones who "care" about you may even end up doing something against your will to try to make you stop.

Be careful about what you tell her and make sure you seem to be under control. And never use your drug usage as an excuse.

I've had people thinking I was addicted just because I had one bottle of 10mg oxycontin.
 
I have gone to drug counselling and talked to a guy on my level it was amazing to meet someone with more knowledge than me, know one i know even knows who shulgin or hoffman are.

He has basically told me psychedelics are not a problem, but he prepares for them, in a 3 day step. with the third being to integrate the expierence as they are tools not for fun.

he told me to pack up the valiums as hard as it is and the weed, and he said there is no denying its going to be difficult time for you but just keep yourself occupied.

I was also told to stop going on forums such as these because it will keep my mind on drugs.

me and my ex are havign space atm, i still pray for hope she will take me back, many say she will over time once she has seen a change, but i am just anxious everyday and i dont know if im setting myself up for my hope to be destroyed and then i relapse.

i am doing abstinence for me, but also for my family, friends and my ex girlfriend to try and win her back..

.

Just feel so alone, minutes seem slike hours, keep waking up really early crying, and then calling her or texting her mum and these are big mistakes i have learnt now and so i have stopped. and so i just have to wait in torture and try and focus on my own life
 
Dude I was in this situation
Cept the dude knew, then decided he didn't want to do drugs anymore and I said fuckit.
I'd never stop smoking pot for someone. Anyone who drinks but says I can't smoke is fucking hugely misinformed and seriously misplacing a lot of worry
Be Yoself man!
Trust me Ina few weeks, hang wit ur friend, u forget quicker than u think
Good luck.
And benzos- a week of use gives me a few days of rebound anxiety ... Ive never gone longer cuz i dont want to deal w benzo addiction but from what ive heard a Couple weeks to a month u get worse symptoms and Valium has an 80 hr half life so it's easy to get addicted even with longer breaks. U can die from benzo wd- seizures and the like. Always see a doctor for a taper in that situation.
 
livetheopiatedream said:
Dude I was in this situation
Cept the dude knew, then decided he didn't want to do drugs anymore and I said fuckit.
I'd never stop smoking pot for someone. Anyone who drinks but says I can't smoke is fucking hugely misinformed and seriously misplacing a lot of worry
Be Yoself man!
Trust me Ina few weeks, hang wit ur friend, u forget quicker than u think
Good luck.
And benzos- a week of use gives me a few days of rebound anxiety ... Ive never gone longer cuz i dont want to deal w benzo addiction but from what ive heard a Couple weeks to a month u get worse symptoms and Valium has an 80 hr half life so it's easy to get addicted even with longer breaks. U can die from benzo wd- seizures and the like. Always see a doctor for a taper in that situation.
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Jims story goes

Just so everyone knows, I got friend zoned, i am her 'best friend' but you cant stay friends with someone you love, atleast not at first.

Life goes on, iv learnt alot, thankyou for your advice sade and everyone else, it has been very supportive.

I plan on studying psychology, sociology, reading tikhal, pihkal w/e I can, experiment, then when I am ready and I want to become a drug abuse counsellor, I had apparently one of the best in the region and he said he hasnt met anyone with as much knowledge and expierence as me, so why not use that to my advantage, I would love to help people who have been in my situation
 
Hey, just read your posts with biggest interest. And I think it's a really complicated situation. I can relate cause I've been through something pretty similar.

On one hand it is your choice. Giving up something you want to do just because your gf (or now ex gf) wants you to do so. That alone would truly ruin a relationship. She will notice that it's not your choice of heart but a forced one, and you will become bitter and angry because she is able to tell you what to do. If you want to do what you do and she's not cool with it it may really better to seperate.

But when I hear how you smoke weed daily, pop benzos even in combo with alc (bad combination) i get really concerned. Smoking weed occasionally isn't a problem, like drinking some beers or doing stims a few times a year, but mixing benzos and alc and toking daily isn't recreation for me any more. You should really reevaluate your use not because your girl wants that but because it could be turn into a habit right now. you say that you are obsessed with collecting them. May that be a excuse to have them all around just in case? 12 different drugs is a lot and it doesn't sound healthy.

I hope you are reconsidering your use not because of someone else wants it but because it may have become a problem for you.
 
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