I'm not so sure about the thread placement either (maybe DC, Tri?)
Regardless, I'd like to chime in here as myself and my daughter take methylphenidate.
To the OP...I'm SURE this does happen to some degree. I'm guessing you're speaking of older children middle or high school age? Can't imagine doing something like that to a small child.
My AD/HD went undiagnosed as a child. My mother did the best she could, but she totally ignored all of the signs. As young as age 6, my report cards always said the same things..."disrupts other students, needs to apply herself, doesn't pay attention, doesn't finish classwork", etc... the older I got the worse it got. My mom was asked to come in for conferences repeatedly, and she always had excuses as to why she couldn't. Turns out she just didn't want to deal with it bc it was painful for her to admit there was something wrong. She and I had a long talk when I got diagnosed about 7-8 years ago.
I'm a female, in my early 30's. When I was young, nobody heard much about AD/HD, especially in girls. The only things anyone heard about were the stereotypical hyperactivity, behavior problems, and all that stuff. I remember there seemed to be one or two kids every year from about third grade on up, who would get sent to the nurse's office every day for medicine. They were always boys, and the ones who always got in trouble...I bet some of you remember kids like that growing up? Maybe you even WERE that kid.
Although my outward problems were certainly hard for me (being unable to sit still, always tapping my foot or my pencil, constantly asking for restroom breaks), they were nothing, NOTHING, compared to my emotional and social problems. I was very socially awkward through my elementary years. I had a horribly painful desire to be liked by the other girls and my teachers, but I just wasn't. I was always the last one to be chosen for teams, I got my feelings hurt all the time. I remember my dream back then was to be "Student of the Week". Never happened, for many reasons. (Wow, this is bringing back lots of painful memories; my chest hurts as I type this post, which is turning into a ramble ...sorry.) I ALWAYS felt different from the other kids, and was bullied alot. I put up with it because I wanted so badly to fit in and be liked....but I just didnt, and wasn't.
In the 8'th grade, I became friends with a popular girl. She was the kind of girl who was always getting into fights (and winning lol), was sexually active, and smoked pot and drank. My friendship with her alone, earned me more respect. She was the person I got drunk with for the first time. We drank Milwaukee 's Best, and it was like magic. All my fears and pain left me. From that moment on, my life's purpose was to drink as much as possible. It was the one thing I was good at.
Then came the drugs and promiscuity. I found out having sex with people made them like me. Imagine that!
I will stop my life story there...Again, sorry for rambling.
After I got diagnosed I threw myself passionately into learning all I could about AD/HD in girls. Numerous studies have shown that girls with untreated AD/HD appeared to be strongly disliked and rejected by their peers: most of the time for no apparent reason. I found out so many things that explained pretty much my entire life.
It was very painful when I saw my daughter suffering as I did. she is now on ritalin as am I, and doing great.
As I said, I'm sure others abuse the availability of these meds. For myself and my daughter, they have been life savers.
Sorry For the abrupt ending, but my phone is going dead lol. I know I got way off course, but I guess I needed to get it off my chest.
thanks to whoever takes the time to read this jumbled mess!
