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How to Spot an Ego maniac?

StAy HiGh

StAy HiGh

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How does one spot an ego-maniac? Someone who has an inflated sense of sense, illusions of grandure, obsessed with self and thinks they are above everyone. You know, someone who secretly feels the worls revolves around them. These people, in my experience men, tend to come off confident, ambitious, type A, very attractive, seem to have it all together, know the right things to say, and are veryy charming. They win you over and everyone else over- master manipulators in a way.

If you know about psychoanalysis, youll know the ego is a persons sense of self. We all have an ego, but certain people have an inflated ego and their existance revolves around perserving their sense of self. They are constantly thinking about themselves and are unable to put others first or see things from another's pov. They will be perfectionists, wanting everything perfect and looking perfect. Some people are snotty and really into themselves, but im not talking about that... this is different, its a deeper rooted self centeredness that masks itself for a long time. These ppl often appear normal at first, like completely normal confident ppl who have it all together. Egotistical ppl may not even know their problem if that has always been their way of thinking. Secretly, theyre the most insecure ppl..obsessed over what others think of them and are constantly chasing perfection. Perfectionists notice every little flaw within themselves and although they appear confident they really and far from it. They will want everything on a neat nice little schedule to control their lives as much as possible to ensure every detail goes according to plan.

I recently discovered my now ex-boyfriend is an ego-maniac :o. He came off as a really sweet, funny, ambitious, hott as hell, smart, and charming guy. It seemed like he had his shit together, he had a plan, was a hard worker and a big dreamer. He wowed me off my feet at first, so much affection, fun, and seemed soo to into me. I did not see the sings then but i see them clearly now! After almost 7 months i realize he was never in love w me, :( hes not capable of love only loving himself. (If u read my other post on here u prob understand more) He was constantly obsessing over his appearance, his schedule had to be perfect and he lived every day according to his planner. I was supportive, affectionate, and loving towards him and this fed his inflated ego so he probably kept me around. We became super close and could open up to eachother about anything but after time I realized his quirks were red flags. Perfectionists want to be perfect and also expect others to be. He began subtly criticizing me about dumb things and began judging my actions. When i stuck up for myself, and didnt coincide with his agenda, we parted ways.

Signs to spot an ego maniac:

*Obsessed with self
*Obsessed with appearance
*Overly sensitive when corrected or constructively criticized
*Lives life on a strict schedule
*Criticizes others (friends, co workers, etc.) and notices their little flaws
*Points out your flaws
*Obsessed with others' opinions about him/her and they feel everyone looks and notices them
*Their way or the highway
*Believes others are envious of him or feels envious towards others
*Fantasys of being a great success (a multi-millionaire, movie producer, etc)
*Talks constantly about him or herself
*Expects perfection

Anyone know someone like this or been in a relationship with an ego maniac? Any other tips on spotting these creatures?
 
It's call a "sociopath" and they are hard to spot. They look just like the rest of us unfortunately. The list you have is more or less descriptive of it, but the number one symptoms of the disorder ( and yes it really is a personality disorder) is that they are incapable of empathy for others, and don't seem to have a conscience. The best ones learn to fake it really well. They can be dangrous people. Letting one of these folks close to you can be a truly ego shredding experience. It took me 10+ years, a psychologist, a psychiatrist and a social worker to recover from my own encounter.
 
Short answer: Do they ask you questions about you or the world around them? Or do they speak only about themselves and their own experiences.
 
I feel like I'm hunting wild deer or something.

Or I'm in a lynch mob.

Where's the fawking torch Seamus, Leess goooo GRRRRRRR
 
Spotting an egomaniac is easy because they're constantly flailing their arms in the air and screaming, "Look at me! Look at me!"
 
I was once essentially diagnosed as a sociopath due to answering no when a shrink asked me if i felt bad about beating/scaring the ever loving shit out of a few people that tried to kick the shit out of me and friends of mine. I said no i don't give a shit it was self defense and if i had let it go on it would have escalated. Since this shrink was your yuppie type i doubt she had ever seen a fight before much less ones with weapons involved so i guess shes only used to a certain level of violence. I have since been diagnosed by 2 different shrinks as having bipolar since i do actually have empathy for people and one of my "violent outbursts" was actually to protect someone else who could not protect themselves.

All that aside sociopaths while they are ego maniacs not all ego maniacs are sociopaths. Ive maybe only run across 2 people who i would classify as a true sociopath with no empathy for anyone and they are not the same as ego maniacs who are all like look at me everybody! Sociopaths even scare me which given my upbringing says alot. It's a scary thing to meet someone with no particular feelings at all. No love, sadness or even hatred just nothing. These are the types to avoid because they would think no more of cutting your head off then i would of walking to the store to pick up a pack of smokes.

Ego manics without the psychopathy are just annoying more then anything else. There are few things more boring then hearing someone constantly talk about themselves all the fucking time.
 
Just look at body language and stuff. How they dress, what they wear, do they talk about themselves, do they ramble on in conversations without thinking about whether the other person is even interested in what they have to say, do they lie and have you caught them in a lie only for them to deny it. A lot of people lack empathy, but the main factor is if they don't feel guilt or remorse, that's what sets them apart from other diagnosis with a lack of empathy.
 
StAy HiGh said:
How does one spot an ego-maniac? Someone who has an inflated sense of sense, illusions of grandure, obsessed with self and thinks they are above everyone. You know, someone who secretly feels the worls revolves around them. These people, in my experience men, tend to come off confident, ambitious, type A, very attractive, seem to have it all together, know the right things to say, and are veryy charming. They win you over and everyone else over- master manipulators in a way.

If you know about psychoanalysis, youll know the ego is a persons sense of self. We all have an ego, but certain people have an inflated ego and their existance revolves around perserving their sense of self. They are constantly thinking about themselves and are unable to put others first or see things from another's pov. They will be perfectionists, wanting everything perfect and looking perfect. Some people are snotty and really into themselves, but im not talking about that... this is different, its a deeper rooted self centeredness that masks itself for a long time. These ppl often appear normal at first, like completely normal confident ppl who have it all together. Egotistical ppl may not even know their problem if that has always been their way of thinking. Secretly, theyre the most insecure ppl..obsessed over what others think of them and are constantly chasing perfection. Perfectionists notice every little flaw within themselves and although they appear confident they really and far from it. They will want everything on a neat nice little schedule to control their lives as much as possible to ensure every detail goes according to plan.

I recently discovered my now ex-boyfriend is an ego-maniac :o. He came off as a really sweet, funny, ambitious, hott as hell, smart, and charming guy. It seemed like he had his shit together, he had a plan, was a hard worker and a big dreamer. He wowed me off my feet at first, so much affection, fun, and seemed soo to into me. I did not see the sings then but i see them clearly now! After almost 7 months i realize he was never in love w me, :( hes not capable of love only loving himself. (If u read my other post on here u prob understand more) He was constantly obsessing over his appearance, his schedule had to be perfect and he lived every day according to his planner. I was supportive, affectionate, and loving towards him and this fed his inflated ego so he probably kept me around. We became super close and could open up to eachother about anything but after time I realized his quirks were red flags. Perfectionists want to be perfect and also expect others to be. He began subtly criticizing me about dumb things and began judging my actions. When i stuck up for myself, and didnt coincide with his agenda, we parted ways.

Signs to spot an ego maniac:

*Obsessed with self
*Obsessed with appearance
*Overly sensitive when corrected or constructively criticized
*Lives life on a strict schedule
*Criticizes others (friends, co workers, etc.) and notices their little flaws
*Points out your flaws
*Obsessed with others' opinions about him/her and they feel everyone looks and notices them
*Their way or the highway
*Believes others are envious of him or feels envious towards others
*Fantasys of being a great success (a multi-millionaire, movie producer, etc)
*Talks constantly about him or herself
*Expects perfection

Anyone know someone like this or been in a relationship with an ego maniac? Any other tips on spotting these creatures?
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You make out like this guy is a monster.

At worst, he sounds like a bit of a princess, or perhaps a somewhat obnoxious narcissist.

Perhaps he's just a well groomed well spoken professional person, with whom you argued and split up with. Is he really so bad, or are you bitter after a breakup?
 
Is posting a list with detailed criteria of ego maniacs in a "guide" on how to spot them considered ego mania? :p
 
they think they know something that everyone else doesn't, and then expect others to sit and listen to them go on and on about how smart and right they are. often they will be extrapolating on a sample size of one.
 
having had an experience of someone like this, they don't necessarily have a totally planned out day or life, and are easy to spot, but are just not worth the drama and dissonance they inevitably bring to a close relationship, next.
 
This thread is rather amusing. I fail to see whats wrong with someone being concerned over their appearance, and future. It's important to plan ahead, and to have things in order. Perhaps I have a big ego myself? I don't think I do though, I'm always considerate of the people around me. More often than not, I'm too considerate. Just because somebody thinks for themselves, doesn't necessarily make them ego-centered.
 
I agree, hit and miss at best, psychology is good science but a bit of an airy fairy profession. Honestly I think more useful help would come from the average gypsy or mystic. At least they deal broad brushstroke truisms.
Psychologists tend to tell patients what they want to hear and little else.
 
morpher001 said:
I agree, hit and miss at best, psychology is good science but a bit of an airy fairy profession. Honestly I think more useful help would come from the average gypsy or mystic. At least they deal broad brushstroke truisms.
Psychologists tend to tell patients what they want to hear and little else.
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spoken like someone who has never talked to a psychologist. sorry to be harsh but saying that "psychologists tend tell their patients what they want to hear" is just about as far from the truth as could be.
 
You're right, I've not spoken to a psychologist as a patient. I have some as clients though and I have been close with people who have done a course of therapy, on two occasions I had encouraged those people to give it a try.
My experience with that profession has been indirect yes, but very disappointing.
Airy fairy and hit and miss is the best I can say. Naieve, judgemental, indifferent, lazy and unhelpful would more accurately describe what I've seen, albeit from outside the room.
Have you had are more positive experience, or work in the industry?
 
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