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i don't know what to do.. i ruined my friends life because i talked to his girlfriend that was on his facebook account and told her EVERYTHING that happened that night, needless to say she called his work and told them that he was on drugs, so he got fired from that job, he told me that he has $4 to his name, and no job and girlfriend now. I feel like total shit now because i just ruined this guys life that let me stay with him for a night and he looked out for me, and i just fucked him. i talked to him on the phone about 30mins ago and told him how bad i feel about everything. im not in a position to help anyone because i have nothing to give, hell i have $3 in my pocket until i get paid, this shame from all that shit is getting to me.. i just hope i dont go do anything stupid because the way i deal with shame and guilt is to stick a fucking needle in my arm.
 
you didn't ruin his life, that chick did.... you were just unknowingly her tool. its sorta like "guns don't kill people, people kill people."

if you do feel bad though you should stay sober so that you can give him good friendly companionship while he's recovering from this. it would be a total kick in the nuts if he lost his job, his girlfriend, and his best friend was too high on dope to hang out with him, y'know?

life IS tough in alabama man lol

i'm rootin for ya d's... remember this isn't your fault
 
Its not your fault it seems. The girlfriend seemed like she had some problems. It is a tragic situation no less, but shouldn't place this on your shoulders for the choices that the ex made. I'm suprised he didn't try and fight it? I feel like with most of the jobs I had if a girlfriend called I'd deny it and tell them we broke up, so shes just being vindictive
 
DexterMeth said:
Here in San Diego. ... One of the best zoos in the world. Come visit sometime.
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I would love to come visit and see a wild Daxtar in his native environment. The zoo seems pretty sweet too. San Diego as a whole sounds awesome to visit.

D's said:
needless to say she called his work and told them that he was on drugs, so he got fired from that job, he told me that he has $4 to his name, and no job and girlfriend now.
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D's don't beat yourself up that girl sounds insane. Who calls someones work and tells their superiors that they're on drugs? Either she's 14 or she's like absolutely psychotic. Nobody freaks out that hard and decides to mess up someones stuff like that.
 
Don't beat yourself up over it Ds :( In the end she was the one who was just using you to get what she wanted. There's no way that you could have known what would happen, or that it was her on his Facebook. My good friend's ex did basically the same thing to me and it took a while to realize that it really wasn't my fault :|

What did he say when you called up to apologize?
 
What's goin on everyone ?? I jus got back to Boston , went to rehab for two months and then lived in a half way house down in FL - glad to be back here got an apartment, making mad amends *cringe* life is good tho., missed u all
 
My dad is a fucking ass hole, and maybe he'd understand I don't tell my problems to him because whenever I do he just finds a way to blame it on me and make me feel bad or guilty about it, and then proceeds to making fun of me after. Fuck you dad.
 
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My dad is a fucking ass hole, and maybe he'd understand I don't tell my problems to him because whenever I do he just finds a way to blame it on me and make me feel bad or guilty about it, and then proceeds to making fun of me after. Fuck you dad.
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Sounds like things will ease up for you once you get out on your own. Seems like similar to me a lot of your frustrations stem from or around your parents. Getting away can really help give you and your parents a break, allowing for you to build a better relationship in the future if you choose.

I've had a lot of trouble with my parents this past year but honestly in the past month or two things have gotten so much better. A lot of it is me sucking it up and dealing with their shit, which is harder said than done, but both parties have had to work at it.

I really do understand the strain of being made to feel guilty or bad about sometimes even the smallest of things, and how much it can hurt. Its really not a good feeling to have someone who you feel should love you unconditionally and support you no matter what make you feel so bad. However, even though it was shitty to hear, my dad was right in a way when he told me that it was my own fault for allowing myself to feel guilty. Now I'm not saying you are in the wrong, but the older you get the more you have control over whether or not you are going to allow the things they say to guilt you. Its hard work to try and brush things off your shoulder that would normally make you feel guilty. I'm still working on it, but i has benefited me to work on it like I have. I feel I have more control over my feelings and I'm not allowing it to take control of my life like it used to.

Best of luck to you bro. I know it can be very frustrating to deal with parents.
 
badfish45 said:
My dad is a fucking ass hole, and maybe he'd understand I don't tell my problems to him because whenever I do he just finds a way to blame it on me and make me feel bad or guilty about it, and then proceeds to making fun of me after. Fuck you dad.
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Today makes two years since my father passed away. And for a majority of his life I was a punk ass little shit to him. Why don't you just man up and try to see eye to eye with him? Or regret it someday.
 
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badfish, Your dad sounds similar to my father. My dad is extremely outspoken and some of what he says may seem to be assholish (w00t new word =D). He really does mean the best though. It's taken me a while, but I've learned to tolerate the rude comments as they really don't matter in the grand scheme of things. I'm sure your dad means the best, he just has an odd way of showing it. <3
 
I hate WDs but I <3 my Dad

I think Spork is right. Parents generally have the best of intentions, but it's hard to remember that they're people that make mistakes and are doing their best to help you. After the 5th day of Heroin WDs so far, my Dad told me that he knew what I was trying to do and that he was really proud that I was taking this shitty situation head-on and of my own volition.

He brought me out to a nice dinner, got me sleeping pills, vitamins and whey protein/bananas so that I can gain a lot of the weight I've lost. I need to re-build my health ASAP. My Dad has even offered to help me pay to go see my shrink again (which I'm going to take him up on), lined up a massage to relax me (esp re my RLS).

I went cold-turkey and it's killing me, so my Dad has sorted me out with some Weed - so I can try to eat/sleep more. Also, I'm using it as a very weak stop-gap until I can get some Bupe/Benzos from my doctor. I love my Dad!

So 5 days clean everyone... Wish me and all those trying to slay the beast of addiction luck!
 
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TAOW!!!!!!! Sounds like you've been doing the right thing, man! Congratulations!

I just started work in a treatment center. This is something I've dreamed of for a LONG time. Life is good. It ebbs, it flows and then you get yourself another day, another lesson and another perspective.

They weren't kidding when they said 'lost dreams awaken, new possibilities arise'. Shit man... I can now start building a stable foundation to live comfortably with my future wife and son. It took a lot of effort, pain and plain old white knuckles but, even though the 'right thing' isn't the easiest, quickest or softer thing... It certainly yields its benefits when patience is practiced. :-)
 
^That's so awesome, OD! I love to see people that I love having their dreams come true! <3 :) You deserve this!!
 
I know how it is but sometimes I just really can't handle him because he just breaks me down on purpose. I know we see things differently and I try to understand that but it seems there's always a lack of understanding from him.

I've since calmed down, but that post was just one of my rantings... I do that when I get angry and don't want to be breaking things and such. Shoulda done it in the vent thread.
 
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