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Parental overprotectiveness and forcing of religion = trigger

jones-in_J

jones-in_J

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I think that how my mom shoved religion down my throat and was entirely too overprotective about everything growing up played a HUGE part in me becoming a drug addict... I know it's my fault that I haven't looked for counseling or whatever to help deal with my problems and that they continue, but this is pretty much the reason I got started I think and the reason I was turned away from religion when I grew up forced to go to church every sunday... who else can relate? :?
 
i can. i feel self-trapped at home bc my mom has cancer and my parents need me to run their office. considering all they have given me, i feel obligated. however, they blame me for her cancer, i have no privacy, i have to hear these guilt-wrenching prayers about my sickness, etc... I feel like we are so dsyfunctional. i wake up with their ganging up on me, criticizing me for everything in my life, which makes me want to use.
 
That's awful itsok! I'm curious too, how do they blame you? Like "stress did it" or something or was it more like "OMFG THE DEVIL IS GETTING REVENGE" or some shit?
 
I consider myself somewhat sheltered from the outside world growing up, so when I found drugs, it was like turning the kid loose in the candy store. Addiction runs in my family and my family failed to educate me on this until AFTER I started heading down the wrong path. Sometimes those who love us the most end up hurting us the most.
 
From my experience, being sheltered doesn't cause or prevent one from using drugs. Being sheltered in fact may delay it from happening, and cause it to happen rapidly once unsheltered, but no, ones who are going to heavily use drugs will do so regardless of parental intervention. Treatment is another story, however.
 
I can definitely relate jones. Not in the religion aspect but the overprotective parents aspect. I think serotonin101 and I had a similar upbringing in that aspect. It was definitely like turning a kid loose on a candy store.

I was never allowed to go to parties or places with my friends when we turned the age we were able to venture out on our own. I wasn't allowed in cars with my friends when they got their license because she thought I would get in a car accident and die. I feel as though I missed out on a lot of things so when it came time that I was all grown up I just went wild. I threw caution to the wind and everything was up for grabs to try.
 
stardust.hero said:
I can definitely relate jones. Not in the religion aspect but the overprotective parents aspect. I think serotonin101 and I had a similar upbringing in that aspect. It was definitely like turning a kid loose on a candy store.

I was never allowed to go to parties or places with my friends when we turned the age we were able to venture out on our own. I wasn't allowed in cars with my friends when they got their license because she thought I would get in a car accident and die. I feel as though I missed out on a lot of things so when it came time that I was all grown up I just went wild. I threw caution to the wind and everything was up for grabs to try.
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That sounds so much like how I was brought up. Parents who let their kids run wild and get into TOO much trouble and won't give them the time of day ignoring them suck but I think the overprotective ones can have an equally bad effect
 
I relate 100% to this thread title...sometimes the constant, overbearing "guidance", especially in my case where it involved growing up in a very strict Christian family with a father that has been a pastor my whole life, -can end up giving us that little unexpected push in the "dark direction" that they always worked so hard to avoid and protect us from.
 
Yeah there is definitely a happy medium in regards to parenting and protectiveness. I know parenting is hard. Sometimes drug use is actually inevitable.

I was looking back on it thought and I noticed that a lot of the kids who did drugs in high school seemed to get it out of the way as kind of like a "phase/stage" and then were good and normal. Unlike me who opposed drugs hard up until I was out of school.
 
It seems that just about all parental decisions have long-lasting consequences! Drugs end up being a quick way of feeling differently if they are used for that.
 
Thankfully even though i come from a Irish catholic family my mom was not religious at all. Basically she just let me make up my own mind about it and i decided early on i did not like the church, any other religion or any other form of control that needs to block out critical thinking in order to exist. Ive seen it fuck up more then a few people.

Sooner or later we have to stop punishing ourselves and beating the shit out of ourselves with drugs for shit that happened in the past. The sooner you deal with the past the sooner you can bury it and let it rest.
 
stardust.hero said:
Yeah there is definitely a happy medium in regards to parenting and protectiveness. I know parenting is hard. Sometimes drug use is actually inevitable.

I was looking back on it thought and I noticed that a lot of the kids who did drugs in high school seemed to get it out of the way as kind of like a "phase/stage" and then were good and normal. Unlike me who opposed drugs hard up until I was
out of school.
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--Stardust, that was exactly how things went for me. I went through all of highschool/some of college also opposed to drugs; never "got it out of the way" as some of the others did. It all happened at a later time in my 20's, after I had refrained for so long. All I can say is what ashame!!(for myself of course).
 
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