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How do I find out if a girl has a boyfriend?

Psyduck

Psyduck

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Ok, so far for the provocative title.

But, how do I figure out whether or not a fresh person has already a boyfriend. I cannot ask it straightforwardly, that would seem suspicious; it's too direct. Are there some standard "tricks" to figure this out? The question must be double-layered such that I can (of course) afterwards deny that I really asked the question. :) If they have a boyfriend or whatever, it's not a big deal. I'm just going to continue talking to them and be friendly. But I rather know these kind of things as soon as possible, since I don't want too much "friendly talks" and become a friend-friend (I already have too much attractive women as friends). But neither do I want to flirt with someone if I am not sure about her relationship status. The place where I meet the person is always a "serious environment" (i.e. no party, or a bar, or loose situation,...)
 
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I edited the title of your thread so that it actually reflects what is in the thread.

To answer your question, I am often asked "are you here with your boyfriend" or "who are you here with?". I prefer the first one. Because I'm not always with my boyfriend, but that doesn't mean I want to hook up with someone else, you know.
Variations of that would work depending on the situation.
 
There's nothing wrong or even suggestive about asking a woman if she has a boyfriend. It's all in the tone. I mean think about it, women ask other women and men they're not interested in about their relationship status, and as such don't always equate curiosity with interest.
Sneaky little side-step ways of asking without really asking are more of a tip-off, imo.
 
I don't get why you can't ask that. That makes no sense to me. Too direct? Suspicious?
You're asking how to be weasley, and you complain about too many women being "friends" with you. You need to evolve your thinking and you'll bang more of these girls. It'll be good to be a little more direct.
 
The thing is that I need to see the person daily afterwards. And I don't want it to be akwkard. So, I prefer to know beforehand if it's ok that I am going to change the neutral atmosphere into an "I am intereted in you" atmosphere, and start flirting.

If she has a boyfriend, it would not be the end of the world. But I still need to see the person on a daily basis. So everything needs to remain cool.
 
If you see her on a daily basis you probably talk with her on a daily basis, right? Like trooper said, this isn't really a suggestive question. Especially if you already know the person.
 
If they have a facebook account then you can find them on it and check their relationship status. If that info is private then you will have to friend them, but if either of you don't have facebook then it doesn't work.

My trick is to watch how much they text on their phone. Most girls with boyfriends are constantly on their phones texting back and forth.
 
What the f are you guys talking about, of course asking a girl if she is here with her boyfriend is suggestive, no matter how you say it.

hmm, excuse me? Do you want a million dollars? I know I don't... just saying.

Ask her, i'll probably be a little awkward though.
 
If you want a roundabout way of going about this whole thing you could just try to seduce her and if she cries after the sex or making out then you can probably be sure there are some complicated relationships going on behind the scenes of this girl.
 
Don't ask her if she has a boyfriend. If you like her, make your interest clear, in a manner that's appropriate for the situation. Then ask her out. If she has a boyfriend, she'll tell you. If her answer to your asking her out is "no" for any reason, and you're going to see her again, don't act hurt even if you are. Be a little disappointed but smiling and warm.

While we're on this topic, don't ask her if you can kiss her, either. If you're out with her and want to kiss her, just go for it.

Same thing.
 
CoffeeDrinker said:
If you want a roundabout way of going about this whole thing you could just try to seduce her and if she cries after the sex or making out then you can probably be sure there are some complicated relationships going on behind the scenes of this girl.
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lol, where are you getting these stuff from?
 
If a girl has a boyfriend and doesn't intend to cheat on him, I find they usually fit "my boyfriend" in the first 5 minutes of talking.

I would usually just ask...OR do what they do - say something like "oh wow, that's pretty cool, your boyfriend must really love you" talking about a cool habit of theirs.
 
Wait for her to mention a bf then say "Oh so you have a boyfriend?" after she says "yes" say, "are you sick of him yet?". That allways gets a laugh! I've had some pretty surprizing responses like "yeah hes a total dickhead" which to me meant she was welcoming me to pursue her anyway, haha.
 
why do you care if she has a boyfriend? are you looking to be her boyfriend when you just met her? if not it doesn't matter if the job is taken, you're just trying to bang her.
 
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