What to expect from NA?

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I have to start attending Narcotics Anonymous meetings this week, as per the agreement I have with my mother. Basically, I have no where else to live, and have to stay clean and go to meetings while staying at her house.

I've never been to NA, nor does it sounds like something I would be into. But, I have to go and would like to know what to expect. Do I have to talk? How awkward is it going to be? etc I have a buddy to go with, but we can never arrange a time to go together, so I am forced to attend my first meeting on my own, something I did not want to do.

Thanks!
 
^this. you don't have to talk, you may get some unwanted sexual advances, and there will likely be someone there selling drugs

Cynical much?

I would recommend that you keep an open mind. At the end of the day, NA/AA is really just a group of men and women who help each other get and stay clean/sober by sharing their experience, strength, and hope with one another. It's that simple. It's all about peer support. In the beginning, I'd recommend that you do more listening than sharing. Find a temporary sponsor by listening to experienced members share and finding someone whom you identify with. A sponsor can guide you through the program and be someone you can call when you want to use.

If you find NA to "triggering" you can try AA. Plenty of addicts go back and forth from AA to NA. Remember, alcohol is a drug, too.
 

Good idea. I think it's great to learn as much as you can at SMART Recovery (or similar cognative behavioural therapy) and then bring up these ideas at AA/NA. Typically the regulars welcome the change-of-pace.

If you find NA to "triggering" you can try AA. Plenty of addicts go back and forth from AA to NA. Remember, alcohol is a drug, too.

This is good advice as well. Personally, I find NA triggering as hell, but AA not triggering at all. And I used to both drink and use drugs (I am an alcoholic and an addict!). I don't like seeing people nodding out in NA meetings, and I feel uncomfortable knowing that there's probably opiates in at least a few pockets (if they aren't also there to buy...). AA meetings aren't like that, or at least if people are drunk they hide it really well. You will get a lot of alcoholic addicts a the meetings, too, and typically they are also people who prefer AA.

I would only suggest not going to "closed" AA meetings if you don't at least have a little experience drinking a lot, or at least don't openly say that you're only a drug addict.
 
well NA/AA are both religiously based. Basically some of the things said in this thread are true... e.g cigs, and there are some people who try to sling at meetings. But they are both good support groups for addicts and of course like OD said you have the 12 step program, which basically sums up everything there. I can't really speak to say which is triggering and which isn't but RedLeader pretty much summed that up :) It's your choice and I wish you the best of luck with staying clean.
 
The hardest part is actually to allow yourself to receive the support avaliable at these meetings. Many of us have never dared let love in. But if you do, there are some awsomeness to be found at NA.
 
drug dealing and sex offerings ...man have much to look forward to when i go

I don't think you'll have to go to prison Thursday.

well NA/AA are both religiously based.

We have to be careful when we say things like this. "Spirituality-based" is probably a better term (anybody who gets the same creeps from the word "spiritual" as from "religion," I'd encourage to properly research the difference). I know that the meetings toss around words like "god" and "higher-power," but the intention of the program is to leave this up to interpretation. Yes, some meetings can feel very Christian, and of course many people are going to try and project their interpretations of "higher-power" onto the group, but nobody should feel pressured out of a meeting for any personal belief (or lack thereof). Even the most religious people at the meetings would rather have an atheist there who wants to get sober than to see a devout believer there but not giving a shit about breaking the habit. Everybody may have different higher powers, but they all have a common devil - one that finds victims through alcohol, pills, needles, and so on. Bond over the darker side of it all and develop your own individual compliments.

I actually think that a lot of the religious reputation that AA/NA/xA has is due to people painting a premature picture of it. Perhaps a little because of the actual program, but a lot because of all the "I don't want to go to AA because it's so religious."

Point is, courts (or other substitute enforcing bodies - work, parents, the tanned and firm one that shows up at the Tuesday evening meetings, etc) make people attend these meetings. It would be awesome if courts gave credit for SMART Recovery, Celebrate, and so on, but they don't and people need to try and make the best of what they have to do. Think of it like going to an art museum. You can still heavily appreciate and learn from faith-based art regardless of your own personal beliefs, right? Appreciate that other people are using what they like to get clean (they're people too and they've been through the same hell as you...you do want to see them get better, right?) and just mentally pass over any content that might not be applicable to your own situation.

If you are required to go, don't torture yourself over it. Try and make the best of it.

As for the sex, I've personally never see anything at a meeting, but I've heard tons of stories. That's going to be much more common at NA meetings, where most people are kicking opiates and rediscovering their sex drives.

P.S. badfish - I just quoted you to start my conversation, and am not suggesting you said anything wrong. :)
 
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