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Who else never had a social life before starting to do drugs?

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Aetherius Rimor

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This aspect of drugs really intrigues me.

I've never had many friends, and throughout highschool the only social events I ever did was D&D once a week with a few other people, and the occasional LAN party. Every other day was spent playing video games, working or learning more about whatever hobby I had at the time (always tech/academic related).

Never liked alcohol, so never went out drinking or anything, and after college my life consisted of Work -> Home -> Hobbies/Gaming/Learning/Sleep -> Work, and weekends were just a longer period at home.

When I started doing drugs last year, in my mid 20's, for the first time I actually have a social life. All the people I associate with are of similar interests, but we all hang out far more often than I've ever hung out with any of my friends, and generally drugs are involved.

Anyone else have a similar experience?

Without the drugs, I'd find it far more productive to just stay home and learn/work and socializing too boring/trivial to bother with.

Struck me as odd, and several other people I've talked to in my social group said it was same for them. No social life, do drugs, have social life.

What do normal people do, that doesn't involve drugs, and isn't boring as hell/repetitive o_O?
 
I was kind of like you in high school, things really changed for me socially when i started using drugs. Really, alcohol was the catalyst for me, i was just using other drugs as well. Now i don't drink anymore and i find my social life is gone except for getting high. Most people want to go out and get drunk but really i'd prefer to get high at home or somewhere quiet.

i find cannabis to be a very social drug, everyone i know smokes it and it's a good way to make friends with people you don't know. With other drugs, including alcohol, i make lots of shitty friends and nothing really lasts. I run through so many friends this way i can barely remember them.

i'm not sure what normal people do, get home from work, watch survivor or american idol and go to bed? lol.
 
I personally feel a lot of it has to do with demographic (where you are in the world). Where I'm at, once school is over, you're either working, doing drugs, or doing drugs while working... (Sad, I know).

Beyond that - it depends what drugs you're doing. Want a cuddly community? Get in with the trippers and such. They're (we're :)) wonderful people!
 
RobotRipping said:
i find cannabis to be a very social drug, everyone i know smokes it and it's a good way to make friends with people you don't know. With other drugs, including alcohol, i make lots of shitty friends and nothing really lasts. I run through so many friends this way i can barely remember them.
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I agree. I find my pot loving friends to be a lot more adventurous than other friends, so that's why. Basically, if I was still smoking weed I know that I would be doing a lot more stuff with a lot more people. If I were to call up a few random people and ask them if they want to go down to the beach and throw around a frisbee, they would most likely say no. Now if I were to call up a few of my stoner friends, ask them if they wanna smoke then go down to the beach etc..., you bet your ass they will be down for that.

I also agree that although alcohol may make you more social, most friendships made under the influence don't last, and the people turn out to be pretty grimy most of the time.
 
Yea that was me. I had friends, well, acquaintances in school, but I never really hung out with anyone outside of school. Not because they didn't like me, but because I didn't like them. High school was just a game where all these stupid monkey-esque people just bullshitted around with everyone trying to impress the other monkey-esque idiots. I thought they were a bunch of tools who lacked originality. Then I started smoking weed and hanging out with the other kids that smoked weed, and I liked it. Finally, people in highschool that aren't afraid to just ACT LIKE A NORMAL HUMAN BEING! Didn't take long for me to work my way to the top of that totem pole. My hilarity definitely helped gain friends with the stoner crowd, that's for sure.
 
Drugs have progressively expanded my circle of friends, I'm introverted in nature so I don't like having a massive group of friends but drugs, when used in moderation, tend to get me having a better connection with some people.
 
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Still being in high school, I have a good amount of friends all across the board. But In my close group of friends
(About 10-15) We are all a bunch of hippies. My high school is huge and i live in a pretty well off area by Atlanta so
naturally my entire high school is in Atlanta getting fucked up on the weekends. But not many people outside of my
freinds use drugs other than Weed, Coke,Alcohol and MDMA... My group of friends and i Are closer than i could ever
imagine and i strongly believe that the psychedelic adventures we embark on, on the weekends are responsible for this Drugs have at one point ruined my life and my relationships with friends and family, but psychedelics specifically have
opened more doors than i could possibly imagine. Every encounter i have with a psychedelic usually comes along with a
new freindship
 
Don't build friendships solely on drug use, as you may find if you decide to get clean, it's increasingly hard to relate to eachother.

Think about what you really have in common with your friends, you may be suprised, just sayin'.
 
I was a little skepticle that perhaps this thread was tOo similar to another one, but it seems like there is some good discussions coming out of it.

Personally, I think that as much as drugs have almost ended my life, they have also saved my life at certain points.

When I was in middle school I got diagnosed with OCD, not the kind you here people say "OMG, I'm sooo OCD about making sure my room is neat" . Mine was more like one of those cases that you see on shows like Obsessed, or other TLC network shows that exploit the mental instabilitys of poor people that can't afford treatment through any other means. I was prescribed sertraline, which helped a little bit, but I was still fucked up in the head, and painfully shy as well.

When I got into high school I did make a couple of friends off the bat, as I shared some common interests in art and music, but I still lacked any real social life. The beginning half of my freshman year, I pretty much spent reading comic books and doing corny drawings on photoshop (not that there is anything wrong with that). I was pretty much alone.

Anyway, for some reason, that I can't recall, me and a few of my friends decided to get an adult of buy us a few bottles of colt 45, and we all got piss drunk for the first time. I remember feeling like, "shit! This is the cure, why didnt I do this sooner". Very quickly me and the few friends I had seemed to move slightly upwards in the high school food chain. We weren't cool by any means, but at least we started to gain a reputation for being obnoxious assholes when we were drunk, and we gravitated towards more people like us that liked to party. At the time, it was very important for me, and at least a few of my friends, to try and be as hardcore as possible, as we felt pretty emasculated as a whole. We worshipped GG Allin and Choking Victim, and started doing more social things. We were invited to a few parties, but we were kicked out of most of them for being unnecessarily rude. So we migrated towards prospect park where we smoked weed and drank beers at the top of trees, and occasionally raided roof tops in china town (though that ended abruptly after a nasty occurrence with some of NY's Finest.)

Anyway, once I got into college, I was once again, terribly alone, and terrified of girls. The alchohol was giving me hangovers, and the pot was making me even more self conscience, so I stupidly turned to heroin. Amazingly, once I started using hard drugs, people seemed to become more fascinated with me. Girls liked me, and guys were jealous of me. I had transformed into the Kurt Cobaine of art school.

Of course, drugs did take their tole on me, but if I'm to be truthfull with myself, I would have to say that all the friends I've made in the last five or six years, have been made under the influence of drugs. That may seem sad, but I honestly don't regret it, because it's not like those friendships are any less "true" or "meaningfull" than those I've made prior to having used mind altering chemicals.
 
I've always had a social life with or without drugs. Using drugs just expanded my circle of friends though.
 
xstayfadedx said:
I've always had a social life with or without drugs. Using drugs just expanded my circle of friends though.
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Yes, I forgot to stress this in my post. My non druggie friends were always amazed when we would go out to a party in a town we really didn't know anybody in, and sure enough I would run into some druggie friends there.
 
Thizz Machine said:
Drugs have progressively expanded my circle of friends, I'm introverted in nature so I don't like having a massive group of friends but drugs, when used in moderation, tend to get me having a better connection with some people.
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I don't built a friendship solely on drug use, but some drugs are helpful in allowing communication, both verbal and physical, to flow with greater ease... Allowing people to connect on a better level.
 
Thizz Machine said:
I don't built a friendship solely on drug use, but some drugs are helpful in allowing communication, both verbal and physical, to flow with greater ease... Allowing people to connect on a better level.
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With the people I share common interests in, it allows us to talk about something different than the stuff we always talk about. You can only talk about the network you setup at X company so many times before it gets boring. Talking about the craziness of a novel view of consciousnesses, and comparing/contrasting experiences never seems to stop though, and provides a great "break" from the usual conversations.

I don't like hearing the same stories over and over again... and that generally happens with most other topics.
 
Happened to me. The more into drugs I was, the more social I was. A ratio formed.

I pretty much got to meet a person from every individual group of people in a 30 mile radius around my house. This is sort of why I developed a distaste for opiates. I hated anti-social drugs and saw no point in doing them. I used substances to help me meet people and talk about things.

Eventually I learned that there were small groups of people all around me that were mixing GHB and Meth to stay up for weeks to socialize/fuck/hustle. This lifestyle was fairly painless. Most of the negatives brought about through overindulgence of meth were extinguished with GHB. I became one of those people for a short amount of time and experienced a fast lifestyle I thought only existed in movies.

But I'm lucky to have gotten out of it before it was too late. The memories are good enough.
 
I went out sometimes before drugs but never had any fun. Always boring parties. Perhaps cuz I had boring "friends". Umm but now I have made friends with people who I like, and I enjoy hanging out with them. I don't even mind hanging out with them when I'm sober, but I do prefer being high lol. I leave parties sooner if I'm sober :p
 
I am the opposite, I had way more of a social life before drugs, when it was only drinking. Of course the older I got, the less people I liked hanging out with. When you get older, its more about the quality of people you hang with instead of quantity.
 
I didn't have much of a social life back in high school. Once I was in college I still didn't have too many friends. I joined the rave scene, and after my first rave I have met more people than I have met during the whole span of high school. My social life greatly expanded.

Things change, ravers get jaded, some quit the scene and move on with life, some move to harder drugs, a couple of folks I've known died of drug overdoses. The rave scene changes and all those contacts, and friends you've known in the scene just drift away, and yes this makes me sad.

-PLUR
 
I had much more of a social life before doing drugs, but not too many people are into blowing down lines of dope on the weekends... so I guess that's just what happens.

I don't mind, though. It's like being part of an exclusive little club... I know all the right people, and I know all the hand-shakes. haha
 
OP do you mind if I ask what drugs you and your friends are into? Can we get more of a background on your use?


I am interested to hear how someone who is self-admittedly introverted and into academics just randomly picked up drugs (how, and which ones) once joining the workforce.
 
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