chaseconroe
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if i took a benzo id fail my drug test......
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i can't pee while being watched
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PriestTheyCalledHim
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You shouldn't need to take a benzo just because you have issues with pissing while around people.
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I have gotten more or less used to it. It only bugs you for the first 50 years or so.
TBPH:
having a sexually deviant/adventurous partner who desires, um, who requests, um...
you know... water sports...
I will shut up before I get yelled at.
I didn't invent the damn shower, ok?
But master that feat and see if you can't empty your bladder anywhere anytime
TBPH:
having a sexually deviant/adventurous partner who desires, um, who requests, um...
you know... water sports...
I will shut up before I get yelled at.
I didn't invent the damn shower, ok?
But master that feat and see if you can't empty your bladder anywhere anytime
Jean-Paul
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i had this problem when i lived in sober living houses, and it was fucking horrible. 1. the snidey cunts always thought i was trying to get away with something, but i was clean. it was just so fucking infuriating that these bitches who thought they were hard because they had had a shitty life and were a crackhead and now found jesus, thought they were more clever than me. i would have just told them i was dirty. they thought because i was white, young, or pretty, that i hadn't gone through shit in my life and considered them beneath me, so they had to prove to me that they weren't. i ended up almost getting kicked out, not for a dirty UA, but for screaming at the bitches who gave me shit while i had to sit there and guzzle water in front of them until i was going to burst.
eventually i was kicked out for showing up drunk, but i'm really surprised i wasn't kicked out before that for freaking out on all the jesus idiots who got off on being complete bull dyke rambo cunts towards me.
i know how much it hurts to force yourself to pee with massive water consumption/hold it in, but i have no idea what else you could do.
eventually i was kicked out for showing up drunk, but i'm really surprised i wasn't kicked out before that for freaking out on all the jesus idiots who got off on being complete bull dyke rambo cunts towards me.
i know how much it hurts to force yourself to pee with massive water consumption/hold it in, but i have no idea what else you could do.
skillet
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True, but if you go to a doctor and explain the situation you could probably get some prescribed, especially if it's just for use once a month or whatever. I don't know how effective they'd be, I think I'd need a pretty big dose to be able to do it. And maybe if you have it on your medical history you could arrange for them to search you before and let you pee alone. Either way, you shouldn't have to suffer through that.I'm half tempted to show your post to my GF and see if she'll let me practise on her :D
Oh, and an excuse to post some Chalie Brooker
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ju-tjcUKVzI
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chaseconroe
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i also can't get drunk or use any drugs to help me over come this remember im taking a drug test i can't have any drugs in my system...... self explanatory really... other methods besides drugs is what im looking for to help me. Ty i might try talking to a doc about my problem but i doubt he'd right me a script for it he'd Prolly think im lying just to get a fix...
addictivepersona
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Yeah, chase, I don't think drugs are going to help you out one bit in the long run. ;)
Just try and relax. Maybe start off by peeing with the door open at home? I dunno if you live alone, but I don't--I live with another woman, and we rarely bother to close the bathroom door when we're in there. It's funny--I've found myself peeing with the door open when opposite sex company is over, LOL. But yeah, if I were you, I'd start peeing with the door open (even just an inch if you can't leave it wide open). Peeing with the risk of somebody walking in is nerve-wracking at first, but then you get used to it and realize when you gotta go, you gotta go. :)
When is your drug test again?
Just try and relax. Maybe start off by peeing with the door open at home? I dunno if you live alone, but I don't--I live with another woman, and we rarely bother to close the bathroom door when we're in there. It's funny--I've found myself peeing with the door open when opposite sex company is over, LOL. But yeah, if I were you, I'd start peeing with the door open (even just an inch if you can't leave it wide open). Peeing with the risk of somebody walking in is nerve-wracking at first, but then you get used to it and realize when you gotta go, you gotta go. :)
When is your drug test again?
chaseconroe
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my drug test is now 22 days away and i don't I've learned anything from this that will help me in that time frame....
i guess ill just continue holding it in for 28 hours in extreme pain so i can push out just enough to pass it :/
i guess ill just continue holding it in for 28 hours in extreme pain so i can push out just enough to pass it :/
Vaya
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What?!? I'm gonna have to try that one!!! LOL :D
I'm definitely a "stall man."
There have been some creepy experiences in public restrooms that precipitated this, but regardless, the concept of feeling relaxed in a porcelain room filled with strange men gripping their dicks has always been foreign to me.
If it's a situation where it's just gotta happen, I try and focus on the fact that I feel anxious - which increases my muscle tension - which suppresses my ability to urinate. I focus on *why* I'm anxious, attempt to come to terms with it as quickly as I can, and oftentimes it really does work.
My personal preference, though, is to afford myself as much privacy as I can. Why be uncomfortable when one can just bite the bullet, use the unorthodox method and be relieved?
~ vaya
I also have this problem, its quite severe for me as well. I feel your pain man. Damn tho 28 hours? I think I went longer but thats only because i was on high dose opiates and it wasn't pleasant at all. Maybe it was worsened by my heavy drug use a couple years back.
Even if I go into a stall and there is another person in the washroom I cannot go, and sometimes if I'm having a bad day it takes several minutes(or i cant go at all) for me to go even when the washroom is empty because I fear someone will walk in. It all depends if the environment is busy. Pretty fucked up if you ask me, but I guess I'll never change.
Usually I go into the handicap washroom so I can lock the door.
Even if I go into a stall and there is another person in the washroom I cannot go, and sometimes if I'm having a bad day it takes several minutes(or i cant go at all) for me to go even when the washroom is empty because I fear someone will walk in. It all depends if the environment is busy. Pretty fucked up if you ask me, but I guess I'll never change.
Usually I go into the handicap washroom so I can lock the door.
addictivepersona
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Sounds to me like you've given up without trying anything. You have say 20 days left to find a way to relax while being in a room with someone and having to pee. Do you have any friends/relatives who you could ask to just stand in the room with you (not looking at you) while you pee? LOL, I know, it sounds weird, but I'm close enough with a few people that if I explained what was going on, I'm sure they'd stand in the room with me as I tried peeing.
How much water do you drink a day anyways? 'Cause if you're drinking fewer than about 60 oz a day, that could drastically impact your desire to go. Holding in your pee for longer than necessary, let alone 28 hours, is not good for you and could lead to bladder infections, urinary tract infections (UTIs), kidney stones, and other undesirable outcomes.
skillet
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my worst enemy
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i understand fully.. but it sounds like you might have a bigger problem with ignoring idiots than with with takin a piss while beeing watched. no offence.OP: this is all a mental thing. and has to do with a sence of selfesteem. ive noticed this with myself at least cus im just the same untill i get a couple of drinks. then it flows like a fn river. thing is not to look up to the people watching you, but instead for a short while maybe even look down upon them as sorry fucks. you havent had a choice to be there, at least they got a choice, and they'ver chosen to stand and watch other people take a piss.. shit whatever gets you above them mentally. fuckers. give it a few years and you'll be handing over the mug like a pro take my word!!!
I have the same problem, and I think I also know why: when I was a little kid (like 4-5) I was in summer vacation with my parents and we were on the beach. This beach was quite far from the street, so in order to get the there was a 15-20 min walking in narrow paths in basically a desert land, with bushes, etc. Now while were walking back I errrrr really needing to take a leak, so since we were in the middle of nowhere my parents told me to just pee behind a bush. Well as soon as I started peeing someone popped up on the path, and I had to stop and put my pants back on. Then we waited, and I tried again, and again halfway through someone else showed up, forcing me to stop again. I think that caused some kind of trauma (I also was a pathologically shy kid, and still now I have some bad social anxiety issues, and if have that you know you are kind of always obsessed by other people's judgment) and after that I was no longer able to pee on the street, in a urinal, and even at home if my parents were in the bathroom.
Right now I still have the problem sometimes, but I kind of improved (I also worked on my shyness and social anxiety, and now I'm a functional person, or at least I look functional) over time.
I developed some tricks to deal with the problem, cause well I'm a pretty creative dude, so I'm gonna share them hoping they an help:
- when I was at home, and sometimes even with no one in the room I couldn't pee, I would open the faucet, just enough to have a tiny stream of water coming out, making that kind of trickling sound. I don't know if you can do that on that urine test, but if you can give it a try. The water sound was sometimes enough to take my mind away/relax me and let me pee.
- I would start counting, possibly in a foreign language I didn't know very well. At the beginning I was counting in English (Italian is my first language), then I became fluent in english and started counting in Spanish, then Polish, etc. Counting in a foreign language was often enough to require attention and take my mind away from the act of peeing, and I would be able to pee. If you don't know any foreign language even counting in your mother language can help, or you can try doing mathematical stuff.
- if you are really into something, try starting thinking about this thing and what you would do. Example: I was into computers at some point, and I would think speaking loud in my mind what kind of RAM I'd like to add, the motherboard settings, the graphic card, etc. Like I had to plan how to build up a computer from scratch.
It's really important you don't think about anything sexual, cause if you get aroused it's gonna be even harder to pee.
- usually if I can close the door that helps a lot, the maiproblem is when I cannot close the door. If I can close the door, I can then talk to myself saying stuff like: "the door is closed, it's totally locked, no one cam get in. No one can interrupt you. You can take all the time you need." etc. I basically try to feel comfortable. However if someone walks in even if my door is closed, sometimes just hearing that another person is close prevents me from peeing.
- if nothing above works, since this problem is about anxiety and you being too conscious about peeing, anything that can momentarily take completely your mind away from what you are doing could potentially work. I never tried with music, but maybe putting on earbuds and listen to your favorite song could work too. You just have to take your mind somewhere else for few seconds, and before you know you are peeing.
Let me know if you try my tricks and if anything works. I know how bad this stuff is (some times had to hold on with my bladder hurting like a motherfucker because there was no secluded place to pee, or separated toilet with lockable door)!
Right now I still have the problem sometimes, but I kind of improved (I also worked on my shyness and social anxiety, and now I'm a functional person, or at least I look functional) over time.
I developed some tricks to deal with the problem, cause well I'm a pretty creative dude, so I'm gonna share them hoping they an help:
- when I was at home, and sometimes even with no one in the room I couldn't pee, I would open the faucet, just enough to have a tiny stream of water coming out, making that kind of trickling sound. I don't know if you can do that on that urine test, but if you can give it a try. The water sound was sometimes enough to take my mind away/relax me and let me pee.
- I would start counting, possibly in a foreign language I didn't know very well. At the beginning I was counting in English (Italian is my first language), then I became fluent in english and started counting in Spanish, then Polish, etc. Counting in a foreign language was often enough to require attention and take my mind away from the act of peeing, and I would be able to pee. If you don't know any foreign language even counting in your mother language can help, or you can try doing mathematical stuff.
- if you are really into something, try starting thinking about this thing and what you would do. Example: I was into computers at some point, and I would think speaking loud in my mind what kind of RAM I'd like to add, the motherboard settings, the graphic card, etc. Like I had to plan how to build up a computer from scratch.
It's really important you don't think about anything sexual, cause if you get aroused it's gonna be even harder to pee.
- usually if I can close the door that helps a lot, the maiproblem is when I cannot close the door. If I can close the door, I can then talk to myself saying stuff like: "the door is closed, it's totally locked, no one cam get in. No one can interrupt you. You can take all the time you need." etc. I basically try to feel comfortable. However if someone walks in even if my door is closed, sometimes just hearing that another person is close prevents me from peeing.
- if nothing above works, since this problem is about anxiety and you being too conscious about peeing, anything that can momentarily take completely your mind away from what you are doing could potentially work. I never tried with music, but maybe putting on earbuds and listen to your favorite song could work too. You just have to take your mind somewhere else for few seconds, and before you know you are peeing.
Let me know if you try my tricks and if anything works. I know how bad this stuff is (some times had to hold on with my bladder hurting like a motherfucker because there was no secluded place to pee, or separated toilet with lockable door)!
chaseconroe
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thanks for the tips im going to try them and enduin im exactly the same even if i hear a person in the same area i can't go. Also i don't think i have any self esteeme issues im a pretty conceded guy, its just when someone's waiting on me watching me there's nothing i can think about that could help. their prescense in the room is to strong i get sweaty and red from pushing so hard, & if i take to long they suspect im dirty. Im also going to practice pissing while my g.f watches if i can do that that's huge progress. i have a doctors appointment set up too maybe anxiety meds will help. i hope something works tho i know it can't be good at all to hold my piss in for the amount of time i do and not do some serious damage..
When I was getting piss tested weekly for probation, I had a very difficult time going. What I ended up doing was I would start to piss in the stall by myself, and then yell out to the probation people that I was ready to go, then I would stop pissing in the stall, and run out to the urinal to continue pissing in front of them. Always establish the flow before pissing into the cup, even after you start going again in the urinal. Of course drinking a lot of water before helps a lot.
chaseconroe
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i don't think they'd let me do that they want to be over my shoulder at all times...
addictivepersona
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^ There's your problem: You don't think. It doesn't hurt to ask, does it? "Hey, probation office, sir, could I start peeing alone then holler when I'm ready for you?" What's the worse they'll say? "No"?