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Losing virginity soon dont want too look like a total virgin advice?

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Maniaz

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Hi so i may be losing my virginity soon and i dont want to look like a total virgin. The girl is a random chick i meet thru friends and said she was very keen. So any advice on what i should do? I really want to lose my virginity because being 18 and one of the few virgin males i know really really sucks
 
Just be like " We are going to go for a walk/drive to the DVD rental store, your going to pick out a movie for us to watch, I will also get some candy & popcorn, shut the lights off and cuddle up under the blanket & enjoy the movie"

Go for a walk to your local Dvd rental store/clerk or where ever you rent DVDs in Aus.
Ask her to pick out the movie, put some popcorn in the microwave, shut the lights off and cuddle with her and watch the movie... I never really watched the full movie cuddling with a girl, stuff winds up starting before the end of the movie...Almost all the time...

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Watch a couple videos on things you want to brush up your skills/knowledge
 
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a few drinks is good because itll prevent you from cumming too fast. i also suggest. jerking off b4hand. dont get too drunk tho or u might get whiskey dick

besides that just respond to what she seems to like
 
Well you are a virgin so i don't think it matters how you hold yourself.. you are gonna look like one regardless. But so what? You got to start somewhere! Don't get drunk.. man up and just take it in your stride.
 
^Yeah, just tell her before mate. If you've got it planned in your head that you're going to bang her like a pornstar and then drop the bomb over a post-coital ciggie, you need to manage your expectations better. It's going to be awkward, and trying to keep it a secret is going to make that worse, not better.
 
i plan to get drunk first because normally im a socially awkward tard and this girl is kinda getting the impression i have slept with a few girls before i mean how hard can it really be??
 
Man, don't get all drunk. You might end up puking and passing out or something stupid like that. Go sober. Get that "performance shit" out of your head and just enjoy it like a human should. Do you consider eating a tasty hamburger or taking a nice hot bath and all other enjoyable normal human activity a "performance"? You don't have to tell that you are a virgin. You shouldn't even talk about what you have and haven't done in the past, just enjoy the present moment.

I find this kind of weird how you are "planning out" the loss of your virginity. You two aren't going to date or anything? You are just using her to git rid of your virginity? If she's cool and somebody you might like to date, date her, and it will feel much better and you'll be more comfortable around her. Losing virginity is overrated anyway. It won't really change who you are much on its own. Falling madly in love with someone, however, does. Every time I started dating a new girlfriend that I actually like, I get jitters when we get 'romantic' for the first time with each other. I have had many first times! The only times I didn't get the jitters was when I went with a couple of girls I didn't really like much.

Just start wanking yourself often before because no matter how many times you've fucked in life, if you haven't been feelin' anything down there in a while, you are going to cum fast. But, remember this ain't all about you and your "manly" rep with your mates. If you can make it some sort of real connection it's always better.
 
it would be smart to tell her first you are a virgin.
I guess I'm one of the few people that found that sex came to me naturally. What's so complicated about it? I didn't need a fucking how-to manual on it. If you can understand the basic premise of "touching/contact on private parts feels good, you can build on it pretty quickly and make her feel good easily. You are most likely to fail at this by overthinking it. You do need to understand shit like STD's and pregancy though.

The art of good kissing is way more difficult than good fucking. Hell, if you were planning to dance the waltz with her at a glamour ball in front of people, you should tell her you've never danced the waltz! But, when you get down to it, just shut the fuck upand enjoy the moment. If you analyze this shit instead of enjoying it, both of you all aren't going to really feel shit. Just fucking relax dude and let shit flow.
 
Becoming good at it does take time. But the fact is, as long as you're not planning to wow her with your sexual skills, you'll probably do OK. Awkward, but OK.
I wouldn't get too drunk. Drunk sex is already usually pretty haphazard. It might not hurt to give her the impression that you're a little, or a lot drunker than you actually are. That is if you want to try to keep your secret intact.
As someone else suggested, act according to what seems to excite her. Start off using your hands. I remember being fearful that a vagina would be hard to navigate my way around. Like I'd get lost down there or something. The "I can't find the hole!" bullshit. That's why I recommend using your hand and/or mouth first. Most girls like it as foreplay and it'll give you an opportunity to figure out how things actually work down there. It's not brain surgery.
Once you and her are actually ready for the "act" don't overthink it. Just do. Remember what your hands taught you, relay that to your dick, and go for it.
It'll probably be quick, but who gives a fuck the first time around. If it happens, and you're really nervous about it, just tell her you find her so ridiculously hot you couldn't control yourself as well as usual. That explanation will work wonders.
Anyhow, you're cherries popped! So who gives a fuck. You'll have it out of the way.
Your post made me smile. Thinking back to that time, everyone's nervous. Don't overthink. Just do. Good luck, man.
 
don't get drunk. if you do you might last longer, but you might not be able to get a boner all the same. Do you really want it not to work this specific night????
Just tell her, it's nothing wrong, and it's not weird, you're 18 not 30.
 
i plan to get drunk first because normally im a socially awkward tard and this girl is kinda getting the impression i have slept with a few girls before i mean how hard can it really be??

Please don't drink too much! A beer or two might be ok but don't go past tipsy.

Go in with the primary objective of making it good for her and you will be fine. Pay attention to her. If you are concerned about your performance for you first time this is THE best advice anyone can give you.

Source: My own first and a good friend who has taken a few guys' virginity.
 
the biggest difference between a virgin and someone with a bunch of experience is that the person with experience can and will communicate with their partner. It really makes all the difference.
 
Cover up!!!!! and just tell her your gonna have to man up she will notice anyway so best to be honest because then she might keep coming back to give you plenty of practice. I wouldn't drink if I was you you run the risk of having limp dick, just enjoy it man we all start somewhere.
 
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