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Why do i want to suck c**k? I'm straight.

My sexual history is with a very broad demographic of women. I believe this is how most straight women feel.
 
First off if they care, they probably are too judgmental to begin with. If you ever have trouble answering this question seriously, just repeat the question to her. Then stipulate that, "I am sorry m'lady but I cannot like you if you have been with a man".
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That's like saying "if they care if you do drugs, they are too judgmental to begin with"
Where they look at it more like "If they person I am talking to exhibits behavior outside of the norm, or that is consistent with detrimental personalities, then being around them may not be in my best interest"

Sometimes people pass judgement on others for passing judgement without making an attempt to understand why, and that's as bad as the perceived first passing of judgment lol



Such a confusing set of sentences. Dude comes up to you says "hey I kind of feel like sucking a dick" the normal response would be "alright go find one, or don't". Instead everyone has immediately said "gay", "bisexual", "bicurious", (and I shit you not) "STRAIGHT-COCK SUCKER" and two instances of "needing to submit" and sucking a dildo strapped to a girl. These forums often leave me more riddled than any other forum.
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....Likewise
 
I also find animalmother's sample of women fascinating. So I assume that it's not okay for you to actually be with a man, and it's a turn-off because it's an immediate plummeting of your masculinity in their eyes. But it just seems inconsistent that the same women would not see it as a loss of masculinity when you get down and submit to them, performing on their strap-on.
 
RedLeader said:
I also find animalmother's sample of women fascinating. So I assume that it's not okay for you to actually be with a man, and it's a turn-off because it's an immediate plummeting of your masculinity in their eyes. But it just seems inconsistent that the same women would not see it as a loss of masculinity when you get down and submit to them, performing on their strap-on.
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That was only one girl.

But I think I understand it..
I've had day dreams where I'm the victim in a situation, and I meekly take a scolding. I think it's like watching a movie, where I am the third person, and I feel sorry for the one being mistreated. I can entertain these fantasies to feel sorry for myself, but in reality, I know that I am very aggressive and do not like to be talked down to. It's like....you don't have to have all of the factors of reality when you're fantasizing, because there is only a certain part of it that you want to be true, so the rest that may conflict with it...is deemed unimportant.

The girl that this was with, was very much into role playing. So I guess it's like we're acting when we do it, and she only thinks of it as her dick. If it were somebody else's, then it would have to be a man's, and she would be turned off.

Just speculation, but it makes sense to me.
 
That actually does make sense. In most, if not all, of my dominant fantasies, I am acting as myself. But in my submissive/rape fantasies, I am always playing a character who is being abused.
 
Animal Mother said:
That's like saying "if they care if you do drugs, they are too judgmental to begin with"
Where they look at it more like "If they person I am talking to exhibits behavior outside of the norm, or that is consistent with detrimental personalities, then being around them may not be in my best interest"
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Yeah but illicit drugs (which is what I assume you meant) does bodily harm to the person you love. So naturally the need to not want to see them harm themselves would be a non-judgmental and perfectly human response. On the other hand, the women you date sound like dominatrices, and you "needing to submit" is, uh, what's the technical term, slip of the pen. You project whatever emotions you have about being or having homosexual fantasies onto "broad demographic of women" and then give HORRIBLE advice saying "no, no, no, you have it all wrong. Don't do what sounds sexually pleasing....DO THE EXACT OPPOSITE SUBMIT SUBMIT SUBMIT SUBMIT.

I mean you get the point I am driving home right?

Animal Mother said:
Sometimes people pass judgement on others for passing judgement without making an attempt to understand why, and that's as bad as the perceived first passing of judgment lol
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Exactly you solved the riddle. Sorry ma'am if you have slept with another man I cannot sleep with you. Which would imply if she ever desired a man you would not want to be with her. Boom, it wasn't meant to be. The logic cancels itself out. Do you realize how much time you would have saved not pandering to a "large demographic of women"? Also I think that anyone who says "I have a pretty good idea what the other gender is thinking" is going to be wrong 99.99999999% of the time.

God speed.
 
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Shrooms00087 said:
Yeah but illicit drugs (which is what I assume you meant) does bodily harm to the person you love. So naturally the need to not want to see them harm themselves would be a non-judgmental and perfectly human response. On the other hand, the women you date sound like dominatrices, and you "needing to submit" is, uh, what's the technical term, slip of the pen. You project whatever emotions you have about being or having homosexual fantasies onto "broad demographic of women" and then give HORRIBLE advice about saying "no, no, no, you have it all wrong. Don't do what sounds sexually pleasing....DO THE EXACT OPPOSITE SUBMIT SUBMIT SUBMIT SUBMIT.

I mean you get the point I am driving home right?



Exactly you solved the riddle. Sorry ma'am if you have slept with another man I cannot sleep with you. Which would imply if she ever desired a man you would not want to be with her. Boom, it wasn't meant to be. The logic cancels itself out. Do you realize how much time you would have saved not pandering to a "large demographic of women"? Also I think that anyone who says "I have a pretty good idea what the other gender is thinking" is going to be wrong 99.99999999% of the time.

God speed.
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I'm not quite sure if you're high or not, but I'll try to explain.

When I say that they are making a choice to stay away from those with personalities outside of the norm, then I'm saying it's to protect themselves, not the person they would potentially be involved with. The op is CONFUSED. I think it's safe to say that most men with the same problem running through their head are CONFUSED or having personal problems. I think it's safe to say that most people aren't looking for a partner that they could perceive to be confused about their sexuality, or who are going through personal problems.

I'm not talking about the women that I "Date"
I'm talking about good amount of the women that I've even just slept with or spent a reasonable amount of time with. The conversation has come up in a number of ways, and it's usually prompted by them, not myself. There is no projecting.

Nevermind, I'm pretty sure that you're high.
 
Animal Mother said:
I'm not quite sure if you're high or not, but I'll try to explain.
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I don't know I am pretty high, sucking on a dildo because it's so aesthetically pleasing.

Animal Mother said:
When I say that they are making a choice to stay away from those with personalities outside of the norm, then I'm saying it's to protect themselves, not the person they would potentially be involved with.
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Well you sound like a dick now don't you? "A choice to stay away from those with personalities outside of the norm" -- "To protect themselves" I'm sorry but when you were sucking a dildo did you think to yourself "maybe this isn't for anybody's protection, maybe my confusion has manifested into some bazaar carnival which I project onto other people". I mean I am not here to throw stones, however you get your jollies is just fine. But my God he came in with a simple question with the most simple answer possible and it is alluded.

Okay and secondly if you love someone you're going to soon realize that they have many personal problems. Your love for them ideally should trump any 'confusion' or 'personal problems' (that one was my personal favorite). This is Agape. And I would say that you give horrible, dreadful advice.
 
interesting thing to ask yourself is whether you'd want to suck cock if you had never watched porn in your life. sometimes porn unleashes all kinds of fantasies and it can make you question your sexuality even more.

it's not a bad thing. but if it is caused by porn, then it is probably based on pleasure.

pleasure isn't a bad thing, but it's healthy to remember that life and love aren't just about pleasure.
 
Shrooms00087 said:
I don't know I am pretty high, sucking on a dildo because it's so aesthetically pleasing.


Well you sound like a dick now don't you? "A choice to stay away from those with personalities outside of the norm" -- "To protect themselves" I'm sorry but when you were sucking a dildo did you think to yourself "maybe this isn't for anybody's protection, maybe my confusion has manifested into some bazaar carnival which I project onto other people". I mean I am not here to throw stones, however you get your jollies is just fine. But my God he came in with a simple question with the most simple answer possible and it is alluded.
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You're lost again, and instead of arguing a point that makes sense ( I'm about to explain to you, again, where you've lost what I've said ) You've reverted to insulting me. This behavior usually correlates with a lower IQ.

The definition of insanity is a state of minding that is outside of the norm. Insane or troubled people tend to make bad choices, and it's advisable to stay away from them. This is why people make generalizations; for self preservation. No, I'm not a dick for pointing out something that all cognizant beings do instinctively.
So the flaw in your analogy is that if I was sucking on a girl's dildo, then I wasn't doing anything for the sake of Self preservation and that wasn't my concern at the time. So, I wouldn't ever be confused about it "maybe this isn't for anybody's protection..."

And you don't know the history of the girls that I've been with, nor do you know what lead up to that sexual experience with that particular girl. In that case, after we had been having sex for a while, she told me that she would enjoy teasing my ass, and I said that was ok. This eventually lead to her asking if she could use a toy with me. No, I did not project anything to make this happen, nor am I confused.

Lastly, the man did not come in with a "simple question" He came in with a very conflicting problem.
Okay and secondly if you love someone you're going to soon realize that they have many personal problems. Your love for them ideally should trump any 'confusion' or 'personal problems' (that one was my personal favorite). This is Agape. And I would say that you give horrible, dreadful advice.
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And I would say that you're attacking me, because of the aforementioned frustration/low IQ.

I'm not talking about if you love some one, I'm talking about forming that love in the first place. Whether you think it's ok, and are accepting of the man's sexual exploration, doesn't matter. The simple fact is that MOST of the world will pass judgement on him, and it will be detrimental for him in forming new relationships.

What's more, people daydreaming about the idea of unconditional love sometimes are the ones that fall into abusive and unhealthy relationships. Yes, those exist and are very bad for people despite the fact that they love each other very much. So "any" confusion or personal problems, maybe be a slight exaggeration?
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Anyways, I'll leave this thread with this:
The man says that he feels dirty after masturbates. I think that most people would prefer NOT to have sex that they are instantly ashamed of.
And advising him to go do something that's going to make him feel and act that way with another person after the deed is done, doesn't seem like the best course of action to me.
I understand the idea of "try it, and see how you feel" but not if there's a possibility of feeling dirty or ashamed the rest of his life. Not all fantasies are best played out. I hope everything works out for this guy.
 
Animal Mother said:
This behavior usually correlates with a lower IQ.
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I do not dispute this.

Animal Mother said:
The definition of insanity is a state of minding that is outside of the norm. Insane or troubled people tend to make bad choices, and it's advisable to stay away from them. This is why people make generalizations; for self preservation. No, I'm not a dick for pointing out something that all cognizant beings do instinctively.
So the flaw in your analogy is that if I was sucking on a girl's dildo, then I wasn't doing anything for the sake of Self preservation and that wasn't my concern at the time. So, I wouldn't ever be confused about it "maybe this isn't for anybody's protection...
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Sorry, first your example was "outside the norm" then "CONFUSED", then, "Personal problems", and now finally "insanity" and "abuse". You skipping around from example to example just shows you over complicate simple issues and cannot stay focused on the core issue at hand. There was no flaw with you and the dildo, it was a joke. My main and simple point (to the OP) "Hey man, don't listen to this guy, he's got the same fantasies and uses a girl to fulfill them in order to submit"

Animal Mother said:
Lastly, the man did not come in with a "simple question" He came in with a very conflicting problem
And I would say that you're attacking me, because of the aforementioned frustration/low IQ
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Yes it was a simple question. The only way it isn't a simple question is if you have some over burdening emotion that makes you "submit". My frustration and low IQ compelled me to say something about this. I believe it to be completely immoral to say "If you feel the need to suck a cock just find a girl that is cool with a strap on". Because if you've established the word "need" and then follow it up with "submit" it just seems like you're torturing yourself. It's like a religious fundamentalist answer to this very simple question.
 
I tend to agree with Animal Mother about many straight women.

...funny thing about most of my same sex encounters, is that I was in control. I am a dom, given the right player to game with.

In life I tend to be more reserved and easy going.

Why do you want to suck cock? It doesn't matter.

It is always better to regret something you have done, than something you haven't done.

:)
 
Just as many women would be very, VERY turned on by it. I know from personal experience.
 
Why the hell would you feel the need to censor out the word "cock'? I think cnensorship is pitiful and only shields the truth.
 
Well, I think, you are a lusty person. And you want more sex and the strategy, whatever you have followed is showing that you just only want a dick. By the way, if you want better knowledge regarding this, then you should approach for cam sex and live sex. It will provide you better tips regarding your query.
 
So here's my two pennies.

First off I consider myself gay, I would never be in a relationship with a woman. However, sexually I'm still much attracted to women and have enjoyed mmf experiences and all. I've also had a lot of experiences with guys in general. It's really sad that society has to categorize everything. Why is it that if we like something we have to label it as one thing or another. Guys are just guys and vice-versa women are just women. I've had A LOT of experiences with "straight, bi, curious" guys. It's natural for us to experiment especially at 21. You have no idea what you like yet dude and you should do whatever turns your dick on. If you try and don't like then whatever. I agree with some the advice that you should start slow and maybe begin with mutual masterbation and progress from there, however if you just want to jump right in it then find a guy on Grindr for example who's got experience and patience to take it slow with you. The worst experience with anyone wanting to experiment in my personal opinion would be with another person who doesn't have experience either. It would be a total crapshoot. At the end of the day WE are guys. And what we choose to do in OUR life is our own business. If you choose to live your life and date someone who is judgmental then that says a lot about yourself. I personally wouldn't date, marry, whatever a person who had an sort of issues with me enjoying life to the fullest. We get one chance at this and you should make it your best without regrets.

Hope that helps...
 
You are bi because as far I know straight guys don't have any interest in sucking cock.
 
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