My ex of four months & I, recently brokeup. I think it had everything to do with my decision on not having sex before I was married.
I was honest from the beginning. I told him my beliefs, and he said he was perfectly fine with it. But, he seemed to pull away from me quite a bit. I had three conversations about giving me a heads up on why he would pull away. I always talked to him in a calm manner, but everytime he would say everything was fine, to let him get over it. But, in the last month and a half, he started saying things like not having sex wasn't bothering him, not having sex with me was starting to but it wasn't a big deal. Not to worry about it. I told him that I understood his standpoint & that I'd be willing to lessen his frustration in almost anyway I could. Btw he'd only communicate this through text. I suggested that we need to talk about it in person, and he would refuse. So, we never talked about it. About 3 weeks ago, we had a good weekend (where he told me he loved me) but, then the last time we hung out he started acting strange. He didn't want to spend the rest of the day with me. It seemed like he was making excuses to be honest. So, I text him that I was upset. He text me that he understood where I was coming from. But, he felt like I didn't understand how attracted he was to me. That he felt that we were in an awkward friendship,but that it was something that he guessed he would need to get used to. Then the next day he didn't contact me. I called him to see what was wrong, and he basically said nothing that he was fine, that he wanted to be with me, but to let him get over it. I said ok. Then I text him that I was trusting that he was leading me down the right path, and he proceeded to get upset with me, which lead him to breakup with me. He recently said that he broke up with me because he felt like I didn't trust his word when he said everything was fine. He tried blaming the break up on me saying that I was looking for a problem in our relationship. That it had nothing to do with sex. That since I was looking for an issue in our relationship, that he made one up, which was sex. I personally don't believe that. I believe that since he said he could handle being in this type of relationship, and realized that he couldn't, he made up an excuse to why he broke up with me.
I want some foresight from others to see if my assumption is the most probable.
Do you think not having sex was the problem?
I was honest from the beginning. I told him my beliefs, and he said he was perfectly fine with it. But, he seemed to pull away from me quite a bit. I had three conversations about giving me a heads up on why he would pull away. I always talked to him in a calm manner, but everytime he would say everything was fine, to let him get over it. But, in the last month and a half, he started saying things like not having sex wasn't bothering him, not having sex with me was starting to but it wasn't a big deal. Not to worry about it. I told him that I understood his standpoint & that I'd be willing to lessen his frustration in almost anyway I could. Btw he'd only communicate this through text. I suggested that we need to talk about it in person, and he would refuse. So, we never talked about it. About 3 weeks ago, we had a good weekend (where he told me he loved me) but, then the last time we hung out he started acting strange. He didn't want to spend the rest of the day with me. It seemed like he was making excuses to be honest. So, I text him that I was upset. He text me that he understood where I was coming from. But, he felt like I didn't understand how attracted he was to me. That he felt that we were in an awkward friendship,but that it was something that he guessed he would need to get used to. Then the next day he didn't contact me. I called him to see what was wrong, and he basically said nothing that he was fine, that he wanted to be with me, but to let him get over it. I said ok. Then I text him that I was trusting that he was leading me down the right path, and he proceeded to get upset with me, which lead him to breakup with me. He recently said that he broke up with me because he felt like I didn't trust his word when he said everything was fine. He tried blaming the break up on me saying that I was looking for a problem in our relationship. That it had nothing to do with sex. That since I was looking for an issue in our relationship, that he made one up, which was sex. I personally don't believe that. I believe that since he said he could handle being in this type of relationship, and realized that he couldn't, he made up an excuse to why he broke up with me.
I want some foresight from others to see if my assumption is the most probable.
Do you think not having sex was the problem?