Wow, I'm really impressed with everything in this thread! There have been good reasons on both sides. I've never felt the desire to have children. Some people say this desire changes, especially for women as they get older (when I first said this statement at 15, my older friends laughed it off and said report back when you're 20, and then 25, I am now 25, and they are still laughing it off and telling me to report back at 30), but I don't think so. It's not something I feel strongly about one way or another, just kind of a cold ambivalence. I don't like children, for their monstrosity and their delicateness. They can kill people and die from falling off their bicycles. Simultaneously way too fragile and way too dangerous. It's incredibly high risk, having a child. The best genes & parenting can still fail and give you a child dead of cancer at 5, or a sociopath who shoots up a sorority house, or kill the mother during birth. The chemicals and rewiring that happens to a woman's brain during pregnancy and labor is on the level of permanent brain damage, which also makes me extremely wary. I don't like the idea of an irreversible, permanent avoidable brain rewiring. I guess typing it out sounds a lot more against it than just ambivalent.
I am a good aunt, I treat my nephews well, I buy them dangerous rap and metal music their mother doesn't let them have, always slip them condoms, follow their sports teams and school lives and girlfriends etc. My little sister is having a baby in December and I am reasonably sure that I will be a good aunt to this niece as well as my older nephews. My friends who have children I try to be nice and attentive to their children as well. It's easier with the ones who are a bit older, but I still try. Because they are my friends children and I guess I'm hoping they turn out as wonderful as their parents did. I'm even well behaved and nice to ChickenScratch's son.
PB is most likely it for me, and he falls on the harsher side of this ambivalence. It takes a lot of effort in this day and age to fall accidentally pregnant, and I find that idea absolutely irresponsible to the point of idiocy. I am in charge of my health, especially when it comes to the lady downstairs, and am always aware of my cycle and the way it effects the rest of my life. The way I was taught about sex was that sex = death, and you should handle sexual acts with the same care and concern as one would with dealing with a lethal weapon, and that's the way I've behaved. It surprises me that more people my age (who grew up around HIV/AIDS) don't have the same cautiousness. We have a nice home, a stable life, we're healthy, educated and active in our community and have a nice support system, and friends that are the kind of wonderful influences I'd like to have around a child. Photographers, artists, dancers, ex-pats, writers. That sounds like reason enough to have children but that's not an answer. Just because you can doesn't mean you should. And just because you should doesn't mean you have to.
My family is already past wondering if I'll have children, and now I'm just discussed as the aloof aunt/daughter who maintains part of the family archive and would probably help you out of whatever trouble your youthful indiscretion gets you into. Pander's family is different, I'm not sure if he feels any sort of pressure from his family to have children. I've heard hints, but nothing really pointed or pressuring, and I've always made my position clear. I am not concerned about it though, because it's our decision and not theirs.