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Where To Cum As A 27 Year Old Straight Virgin Male In Love

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nicholaswillick768

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As a 27 year old straight virgin male about to have sex for the first time with my girlfriend that I'm in love with, where should I cum when it happens?

I've been saving my first time experience for a girl I fell in love with, and now's the time. The fact that I plan to lose my virginity with a girl I'm in love with is important because if it was with a girl I wasn't in love with, I wouldn't care as much about where I cum.

I've heard from various people all kinds of answers from "wear a condom and let it out while inside her because this is a special moment and to cum while inside is special" to "just pull out and spray it anywhere. You don't want to have a kid, right?"

I understand both pros and both cons to each scenario but I still don't know what to do. I want it to remain special, natural and not forced. At the same time, I don't want to risk her getting pregnant, no matter how much protection we use (i.e. condom and birth control pills).

Please, someone, give me some insight on what I should do. Thanks!
 
In a condom inside her. You really won't have much choice if this is your first time. The rush will hit so quickly and paralyze you there will be no chance to pull and and spray. Besides, you say you love her, spraying is more of a porn thing so don't go there for the first time.
 
Smellitfirst said:
In a condom inside her. You really won't have much choice if this is your first time. The rush will hit so quickly and paralyze you there will be no chance to pull and and spray. Besides, you say you love her, spraying is more of a porn thing so don't go there for the first time.
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The rush will hit me so quick, that even if I'm in missionary going at my own pace and force, I won't be able to pull out and pull the condom off in time (if cumming outside of her was what I planned to do)?
 
It would be awesome if a guy I was in love with said it was his first time, and asked where he should come. Would make my day.

Making love is about understanding each other. Don't ask every 10 seconds, but ask what she likes, if this feels good. People like different things. And ask her where she would like you to come. I love it when guys ask, it's a sign of consideration.

And talking from experience, if she gives you head, give a fair warning if you are about to come. If you are like to come right away she goes down on you, let her know it. For a woman it is a huge compliment if a guy comes just from being touched lightly. You just need to sell it the right way. Like; you are so hot, I'm going to come right away. Not like: I have a evacuation issue, I come every time I put on high boots.

If you are nervous, don't try to sell it as being cool and experienced. A experienced guy can be nervous if it is the woman of his dreams. I have a little milage, I know.

If both are nervous and try to be cool, or one is nervous and try to be cool, it's going to be less fun. If both are relaxed it gets more fun and playful, and better.

As with everything, practice makes perfect. First time with a new person is never the best, the 4th or 5th time it's usually a lot more fun, because one know each others likes, but yet not stuck in a comfortable routine (which can also be very nice).

Sex and making love is much different from porn. Don't try to be a porn star. The money shot is not what makes it a good experience. I'm not saying it isn't important. In a romantic setting where one are connected, the inside finish is the best. Also allows for eye contact. In a playful and explorative setting, it's not so important. Some guys and girls like the visual from comming on ass or breast, obviously inspired from porn and perhaps sometimes due to lacking a condom or sensitivity issues related to condoms.

Using a condom like a pro; get some additional water based lube put a drop on your head (penis, obviously), before placing the condom and rolling it on. Then use some lube over the condom. Lube inside your condome will make it feel better for you, the lube outside the condom will make it better for her. Even if both start out wet, condoms quickly reduxes the presence of the natural fluids as they cause more friction. If you at some point are doing the fucking long and good, you'll usually want to add more lube outside the condom (or just on desired pussy), as the wettest pussy on earth will eventually get dry from condoms. Lube is your friend, and prevents both parties from becoming sore.

Great sexual experiences happens when two people trust/thrust (lol) each other, and are open and goes where the moment takes them. Rather than breaking it down to the right answer, the key is to be in tune, and explore each other. It also means allowing your partner to understand what feels good for you, not only making your partner feel good. It's a very natural thing to want to pleasure the other, and if one are too shy about it, it prevents pleasure from the both of you.

You're only going to be virgin or unexpected at the beginning of your sexual journey. Don't hide from it, if it is a woman worth pursuing, she will be considerate and charmed by it.

This post makes me daydream about find myself a virgin in his 20's. Would be much more fun than my regular teaching (though I'd like to keep my job and not get fired when I return from my sick leave).
 
Pallyress said:
It would be awesome if a guy I was in love with said it was his first time, and asked where he should come. Would make my day.

Making love is about understanding each other. Don't ask every 10 seconds, but ask what she likes, if this feels good. People like different things. And ask her where she would like you to come. I love it when guys ask, it's a sign of consideration.

And talking from experience, if she gives you head, give a fair warning if you are about to come. If you are like to come right away she goes down on you, let her know it. For a woman it is a huge compliment if a guy comes just from being touched lightly. You just need to sell it the right way. Like; you are so hot, I'm going to come right away. Not like: I have a evacuation issue, I come every time I put on high boots.

If you are nervous, don't try to sell it as being cool and experienced. A experienced guy can be nervous if it is the woman of his dreams. I have a little milage, I know.

If both are nervous and try to be cool, or one is nervous and try to be cool, it's going to be less fun. If both are relaxed it gets more fun and playful, and better.

As with everything, practice makes perfect. First time with a new person is never the best, the 4th or 5th time it's usually a lot more fun, because one know each others likes, but yet not stuck in a comfortable routine (which can also be very nice).

Sex and making love is much different from porn. Don't try to be a porn star. The money shot is not what makes it a good experience. I'm not saying it isn't important. In a romantic setting where one are connected, the inside finish is the best. Also allows for eye contact. In a playful and explorative setting, it's not so important. Some guys and girls like the visual from comming on ass or breast, obviously inspired from porn and perhaps sometimes due to lacking a condom or sensitivity issues related to condoms.

Using a condom like a pro; get some additional water based lube put a drop on your head (penis, obviously), before placing the condom and rolling it on. Then use some lube over the condom. Lube inside your condome will make it feel better for you, the lube outside the condom will make it better for her. Even if both start out wet, condoms quickly reduxes the presence of the natural fluids as they cause more friction. If you at some point are doing the fucking long and good, you'll usually want to add more lube outside the condom (or just on desired pussy), as the wettest pussy on earth will eventually get dry from condoms. Lube is your friend, and prevents both parties from becoming sore.

Great sexual experiences happens when two people trust/thrust (lol) each other, and are open and goes where the moment takes them. Rather than breaking it down to the right answer, the key is to be in tune, and explore each other. It also means allowing your partner to understand what feels good for you, not only making your partner feel good. It's a very natural thing to want to pleasure the other, and if one are too shy about it, it prevents pleasure from the both of you.

You're only going to be virgin or unexpected at the beginning of your sexual journey. Don't hide from it, if it is a woman worth pursuing, she will be considerate and charmed by it.

This post makes me daydream about find myself a virgin in his 20's. Would be much more fun than my regular teaching (though I'd like to keep my job and not get fired when I return from my sick leave).
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Thanks for the long, detailed response! I definitely didn't know about the lube on before and on after trick.

As far as how to handle orgasm without cumming inside her, what do you think about this:
While in missionary, pull out, stay above her and pull condom off letting the cum go on her stomach so that our bodies are still close and I can kiss her through the orgasm?
 
I would say either bust inside her and if she isn't into that ask her where.

I read you wanted something that felt natural. I you finish off with her facing you like missionary or something just cum on her stomach and chest. She won't mind. I really don't care if I get my own jizz on myself.

You might want to go again and you might not last long that first orgasm, maybe get a blowjob before sex so you get that first nutt done and last a bit longer when you fuck?

She gonna say her face, mouth, body, or the floor.

I dunno I just cum where I think she will let me and I am in the mood for. I really am not believing chicks saying they are on the pill so I pull the fuck out.
 
Definitely avoid eyes and hair. %)
Oh and btw I once actually read the instructions that come with a pack of condoms, and it said not to lube up one's penis before putting the rubber on, apparently it puts the material under more stress ... never tried that myself though
 
Nothing is as special as inside without a condom. When my wife and I started trying for a child she started orgasming everytime I came inside her. Condom inside is second best but better than pulling out. Pulling out just sucks. Use condoms.
 
protovack said:
Nothing is as special as inside without a condom. When my wife and I started trying for a child she started orgasming everytime I came inside her. Condom inside is second best but better than pulling out. Pulling out just sucks. Use condoms.
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Yeah I know that but I don't want kids and I'm afraid of making her pregnant even if I wear a condom.
What do you think about this:
While in missionary, pull out, stay above her and pull condom off letting the cum go on her stomach so that our bodies are still close and I can kiss her through the orgasm?
 
Just so you know the condom should not come off that easy prior to ejaculation and softening up a bit. You will end up finishing while you are fumbling around trying to get it off. If it just pulls right off you, then it will come off during sex. Condoms are designed to prevent pregnancy and std. Therefore, a tight fit while hard. If it just comes off that easy you might want to look into a different size condom. You don't want it coming off during sex if you are trying to prevent pregnancy. Once you get to that point don't waste it trying to get a rubber off because it should not come with a quick tug!
 
Look just buy a good brand of condoms. I always go with Trojan but that is me, durex doesn't really fit my whole shaft.

Squeeze the air out the tip and trust me I never had a rubber break that wasn't some garbage from a restroom stall.

So as long as you buy a good condom from a store you should be ok and you might as well cum in the pussy with the condom on and you won't have kids.

I would say taking it off increases the risk if she wants kids cuz she could reroute the cum. I have had quite a few women wrap their legs around me when I said I was going to cum and it was agreed upon that we were going to pull out.

Just use condoms and you don't have to worry. I would say I pretty much always used condoms unless I was dating someone until I got to my late twenties and stopped caring which isn't a good idea but hey I like it raw.
 
My3sons said:
Just so you know the condom should not come off that easy prior to ejaculation and softening up a bit. You will end up finishing while you are fumbling around trying to get it off. If it just pulls right off you, then it will come off during sex. Condoms are designed to prevent pregnancy and std. Therefore, a tight fit while hard. If it just comes off that easy you might want to look into a different size condom. You don't want it coming off during sex if you are trying to prevent pregnancy. Once you get to that point don't waste it trying to get a rubber off because it should not come with a quick tug!
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That's a good point....I forgot about that. I've already practiced playing around with condoms so that I can get a feel for how to use them, and you're right: it isn't a quick tug off. I'm just so afraid of making her pregnant.
 
Wait till you are inside her before asking her a stupid question.

I usually ask where they want it right before I cum or tell them where I want to put it and see if that is kewl with her.

I still don't get why you don't want to use a condom.
 
dopemaster said:
Wait till you are inside her before asking her a stupid question.

I usually ask where they want it right before I cum or tell them where I want to put it and see if that is kewl with her.

I still don't get why you don't want to use a condom.
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Idk where you got the idea that I don't want to use a condom. I do, but I don't trust that she won't get pregnant even if I use one and cum inside her
 
As a former virgin the only advice I can give u is don't worry about the details u will get too nervous and not stay hard..turn off your rational mind and just have some fun..make her feel like she is the sexiest woman on earth..its just as important to please her emotionally just as much physically.
 
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I totally agree with that, as I plan to strive for her enjoyment too. It's easier to relax knowing I won't make her pregnant though.
That's why I'm torn between cumming in the condom while inside her vs pulling out (even with the condom on)
 
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