The ones that actually ARE, yes. But there's also some confused femboys and transvestic fetishists about who nobody should be prescribing HRT to.
Also, there's a difference between a straight guy who's up for dating a trans woman pre-op DESPITE the fact she still has a penis, or someone who dates them specifically FOR having said penis. And you can't tell me the latter isn't the overwhelming majority, because usually men aren't any longer interested once a trans woman has had sex reassignment surgery. So if such a woman would lose her appeal to you post-op, and if you seek out pre-op trans women to date over 'standard' women exclusively, then you're dating them as a fetish and not as a regular woman. You specifically want a chick-with-a-dick. And that's not entirely straight in my book 'cause guess what a penis is a male organ, even if one is occasionally attached to a woman, and your average straight bloke isn't attracted to male genitals.
Trans women are women, cis gay men don't fuck them because they are women, even though they have a penis.
Cis gay men will fuck me, even though I have a vagina because I'm male, but they won't fuck a cis women, because she's a woman and they're gay.
Some people do it as a fetish, I know this more than most being an escort. And I'm going to tell you something. The ones it is more of a kink to, with me being a man with a penis are drumroll... Straight men! The bisexual men and cis gay men who pay me are far less into it as a kink and treat me with far more respect, even just in my text interactions with them. And many even don't want anything to do with that part of my body and only are interested in anal.
I don't know why you think telling a trans person who the people who have sex with them identify as. I have trans women friends who are sex workers and they exclusively see straight men and like me, refuse to see men who are of a sexuality that invalidates their gender identity. Frankly that's less common for trans women, since no cis gay man would ever contact one for that reason.
Like I dunno what to tell you. The last like 5 men I've hooked up with (apparently my asexuality is in off mode for a bit, hopefully it's out of my system now and I can return to my happy sexless life) have all been cis gay men and because I had a hysterectomy recently and I'm not allowed to do anything with that part of my body it's been just anal stuff, and they're even fine with me keeping underwear on because of surgery which means they don't get to see or touch that part of my body. Seems like I'm being treated like a male to me by these guys. Otherwise they would demand I take the underwear off.
It's actually mostly bisexual men who are more invalidating, who insist on making me let them use that part of my body despite me saying I'm really not that into it.
I dunno what to say, like have all the cis gay men I've fucked disappeared? Are you gonna do what another guy did and say that they're actually bisexual because they fucked me and change their sexuality based on your beliefs? I had a support worker who told me he hooked up with a trans guy. He was resistant at first despite being very attracted to him because he didn't want to upset him if they tried hooking up and he couldn't do it. They eventually tried, and he found it really wasn't so big a difference as he thought. That's the same thing most cis gay guys who have hooked up with me and done that type of sex have thought. Some of them I see regularly still, and a couple have wanted to date me. Still gay. All have been very clear that they are absolutely still not interested in women despite knowing that they can have sex with that organ.
I'm more than aware that if and when I have a phalloplasty I won't be able to do sex work as much anymore because the appeal is gone. But to be frank, I'd say 70% of the people who contact me are straight men anyway to the extent I've started writing 'no straight men' in my ads and some of the ones when I deny seeing them saying I'm male and that would be gay (or at least bisexual) say dumb shit like 'oh I thought ftm was a girl who looks like a boy' so I'm like 'yeah dodged a bullet there this is why I ask before confirming a booking' but that doesn't mean that the people I hook up for fun with, again, predominantly cis gay men, dont view me as male.
The same goes for trans women. There are people who are only interested in trans women but who would never date or fuck a guy with a dick.
The people that you're talking about, the ones who would only date or fuck trans women pre op? It's a Venn diagram crossover between them and the people who will only date or fuck a trans man pre op. Fetishising gross (almost exclusively men) who I, like basically all trans people, have zero interest in fucking unless they pay us an exorbitant amount of money. So they're rather irrelevant in the discussion when people like myself and many other trans people are having sex with cis people who identify as either completely gay or completely straight and would fuck us despite our junk, but not people of their own gender and sex with the same junk.
This is sort of a pointless argument, like my lived experience proves that cis gay people who are attracted to trans men are absolutely fine both pre and post operative (though the cost of phalloplasty makes this extremely rare) and there's so many straight men who date pre op trans women who support them in transitioning with their bottom surgery.
Idk man.