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Sex What makes a dominatrix?

Being a dom is a kink. She obviously enjoys having that kind of control over her partner. Some women also enjoy being submissive and having a guy take control.

Why someone has a kink can be due to many reasons. It could be anything.

If you didn’t feel comfortable with it then you should have told her at the time or if you plan to see her in future let her know that whilst you respect she has a kink that it’s not something you’re comfortable with.
 
MsDiz said:
Being a dom is a kink. She obviously enjoys having that kind of control over her partner. Some women also enjoy being submissive and having a guy take control.

Why someone has a kink can be due to many reasons. It could be anything.

If you didn’t feel comfortable with it then you should have told her at the time or if you plan to see her in future let her know that whilst you respect she has a kink that it’s not something you’re comfortable with.
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Sagely advice. I've navigated many kinks and they are really tricky. Like if a girl wants you to get so rough with her that it's making you feel weird you should probably cut it off.

I never really got a handle on that. I'm basically an equal opportunist when it comes to kinks, I'll try anything once. Which as you can imagine has gotten me into various problems.

That said when I was younger I was so saturated with porn and degrading women that I had to unlearn a LOT of bad habits, and now much more closely pay attention to my partners wants and needs.
 
MsDiz said:
Being a dom is a kink. She obviously enjoys having that kind of control over her partner. Some women also enjoy being submissive and having a guy take control.

Why someone has a kink can be due to many reasons. It could be anything.

If you didn’t feel comfortable with it then you should have told her at the time or if you plan to see her in future let her know that whilst you respect she has a kink that it’s not something you’re comfortable with.
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Sometimes a kink has to do with role-playing being something you’re not IRL, or something you view as taboo due to your own belief system. For example, I’m strongly feminist, and I’m definitely a strong independent woman irl. But that’s why I find it to be such a turn-on to be completely dominated in bed, because everything I was taught tells me I’m not supposed to like that kind of thing. It makes it “dirty” and “naughty,” you see?
 
deficiT said:
Sagely advice. I've navigated many kinks and they are really tricky
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You speak truth there.

My ex was very kinky, my personal favorite was to fist her vagina while she was in doggy position and have anal sex at the same time, she ASKED for this to be done & it grew to be my favorite thing to do also.

I'd Never done stuff like that before with anyone and it was quite a comedown when we split, most women aren't going to accept that stuff in the bedroom.

Once you get a taste for this stuff like you said it becomes very tricky.
 
Juicewrldfan said:
Nah. This details what happened.

Social - So, I met this girl today...

So, like it says I met this girl online and we met up were going to "netflix and chill", but I was hanging out with her at her apartment and we weren't having sex at this time or anything, just hanging out getting to know each other more. Well, she kept insisting I refer to her as "Goddess". And...
bluelight.org bluelight.org
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Would it be OK if you fleshed out that story more and added a lot more detail at some of the choice moments?

Also, would it be OK if in the embellished version another girl stopped by named Suzie, and your friend wanted to surprise you? In the story Suzie looks like a young Maggie Gyllenhaal.
 
"I am taking it upon myself to end the marginalization of kinkdom.

I say let my people eat ass. Let my people choke each other and spit in each other's mouths. LET MY PEOPLE SUCK TOES damnit. " - Moses probably
 
Burnt Offerings said:
Yeah, best to check in with someone before you attempt to simultaneously do anal and fist them! :LOL:
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Damn it, that's where I've been going wrong.

Best bit is you can feel your own dick in their ass if you do the "Rabbit Ears / Come here" motion with your fingers & you can rub your "Banjo string" part of your dick. Its very good believe me.
 
deficiT said:
"I am taking it upon myself to end the marginalization of kinkdom.

I say let my people eat ass. Let my people choke each other and spit in each other's mouths. LET MY PEOPLE SUCK TOES damnit. " - Moses probably
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FFS.
I laughed so hard my stomach hurts. I like Moses.
 
deficiT said:
"I am taking it upon myself to end the marginalization of kinkdom.

I say let my people eat ass. Let my people choke each other and spit in each other's mouths. LET MY PEOPLE SUCK TOES damnit. " - Moses probably
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I gotta say, what with Passover and all, this is a very timely comment 😜
 
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