@ Evey
I know what your saying Evey - the more that you feel condescended by what often appears to be hypocritical advice, the more you want you want to kick back and prove them wrong. When all my druggy mates suddenly decided that I was out of order when I started using heroin daily during a bout of depression, the more I thought 'fuck them - who do they think they are sticking tons of shit coke up their schnoze every weekend while telling me that my own drug use is unacceptable. So, I just continued to use stupid amounts of heroin thinking that it would demonstrate how upset and let down I felt about them all.
And where did my 'stand' get me? Nobody gave a shit, so I continued to use even after It lost me my nursing career, lost me any chance of ever attracting the respect of anyone ever again, turned me into the local leper (I live in a small village so its hard to believe how many times I have to put up with local kids Ive never even seen before calling me a dirty smackhead in the local shops or asking me if I have enough syringes to get me through the next 10 minutes and shit like that). Plus of course it started an 11 year on and off struggle with heroin addiction, leaving me with no friends and now stuck on methadone, despite managing to clean myself up by CT alone on previous occasions.
I totally understand the psychology but the only person who ends up loosing is yourself. People blow in and out with the wind - folk that make a ridiculous issue over something because they 'care' are mostly just getting on their high horse while they have the opportunity. In 90% of cases - these 'caring' people who you end up rebelling against generally couldn't care less after a couple of months, while people like us end up stuck with drug issues that no one else could give a flying fuck about.