I think he simply wanted to say that more or less, we are all addicts. Just think of sex, that's a primordial impulse deep inside you, again we more and less crave for it, so basically we are born with an heroin addiction without even being asked.
So where is the "free will"?
We might have different point of view, but if there is anything I would get rid of, it would be sex for sure. Luckily I never had a high sex drive otherwise it would be a nightmare, but really, I don't want it. So I am not entirely free.
This is a little offtopic so im gonna shut it right here. However, I would be interested in the OP drug history that lead to this bad moment.
I know some women in a similar situation, like struggling with drugs, multiple partners, children and yes, try to change in better, for the son(s). I don't think he is adult enough that he finished studying and he bought his first own house or car, so yeah remember the son and do your best to give him a happy life and improve yours.
I'm not trying to counter the argument, I'm saying there's two options
option A we do have free will
option B we are entirely pre-constructed
If A is correct, my own assertion of the situation makes a tremendous difference, and if B is correct it makes
no difference.
Ergo the only correct assumption of the situation is that A is correct, and act accordingly, since
if B is correct, it doesn't matter anyways,
and if A is correct, my own feelings might change a terrible situation, or give me the energy to stop bad behaviour, since said bad behaviour is not predestined to be mine, just more likely. I'm really not seeing the issue with the concept here.
There are scientific arguments that speak for both sides, and yes a lot is pre-programmed through education, environment and genetics, that much is clear, but one should not assume that
all is pre-programmed, since if option A is correct, we would be putting ourselves in the situation "I'm genetically doomed to be a drug addict", and never do anything about it, because it just "has to be like this"
It gives yourself an option to say "yes, I'm a drug addict, and there's nothing anyone could do to stop it, because it is 'destiny'."
I'm not saying he's wrong, in fact he's probably right, a lot is most definitely preprogrammed, I'm just saying that maintaining said point of view can only have a negative effect on your life as far as decisions go.