David's Mom: Have you considered action against the EMTs / Chief?
I just happened across this by chance, and while deeply saddened and shocked by it, I think if any of us said we didn't see it coming, we were in denial. He lived life as he saw fit, and no one can fault him for it as it was his to live. HOWEVER; we can have our opinions, and unfortunately, some of his choices turned out to be pretty selfish
I'm an old-school Bluelighter... Forget what name I used to have on here... That was so long ago. I met PhreeX on BL (he may have been the reason I joined) and talked to him a few times... Also helped him out with some problem he was having on his members only website (I forget all the details of the site, etc... I wish I could remember all of this) that he eventually started.
He was always a really nice guy and very helpful from what I remember...
One thing I don't recall is PhreeX being an ass as some have stated. I'm not saying he wasn't, I just never saw that side of him. The few times he and I chatted, he was nothing but down-to-earth and respectful. I never really paid much attention to how he spoke to some on here, but judging just off of my limited interactions with PhreeX, I get the impression that if he was rude to them, there was probably a reason for it (we all know the idiots who come on here and ask absolutely stupid questions, or give harmful advice, and make you just want to scream).
I'm surprised no one has mentioned TAoS (The Art of Scripting); perhaps the work which PhreeX was most famous for. His knowledge in that area helped me get small temporary scripts of weaker pain meds in times of legitimate medical need, due to excruciating jaw pain and migraines from severe TMJ (debilitating pain from a condition which was literally impossible to directly get even a 1 week script of narcotics for), as well as a couple of times after I herniated 2 discs in my back but wasn't going to pain management.
Sure, many people abused the knowledge, but that is one way in which David helped me personally without even knowing it... He saved me from a good bit of suffering honestly.
Phreex's mom and sister; I am very sorry for your loss. I genuinely feel for y'all... I can't imagine what the years have been like for you, both through his life and death. His actions were selfish and have obviously put you through untold torment, but he must have been suffering horribly... I never knew David had issues, honestly... Never talked to him enough. The few times I did talk to him, he seemed like a cheerful and intelligent care-free guy.
I do have a question for you, which I'll precede with this quote because it is relevant:
The Fire Chief still will not release the EMTs records to me or the Sheriff, he 'said'.....only one reason for that is possible....to cover up their incorrect and heartless actions. CYA authorities, no surprise there.......
Have you ever thought about seeking legal action? If the level of willful neglect was truly as severe as stated, every guilty party should be made to answer...
Nothing you do can bring your son back, but perhaps it will keep another mother from losing her son.
I would seriously start making calls to some attorneys and make something happen. If the neglect was that prevalent, and no one has fessed up and even offered an apology or admission, then the idiots will likely do it again.
As far as the Fire Chief refusing to release records; file an FOIA (Freedom of Information Act) request... It is your legal right.
Better yet, speak with an attorney and have him uncover these records and many more in discovery then nail these heartless fucks to the wall for their intentional neglect.
I really think (if they knew David's past) that they chose to neglect to act based solely on past experiences, but when it comes to saving a fucking life, there is no choice to be made. You NEVER give up on a person just because they have a history of abuse; ESPECIALLY when giving up on them means potentially costing them their life.
All it takes is some phone calls, and no attorney will charge you a penny upfront if they decide to take the case. I'm not by any means trying to put words in your mouth or read your mind, but if you haven't done it because of the circumstances, please know that there is nothing dishonorable; nothing to be ashamed of about the situation...
David was obviously sick, and incapable of rational action at times. The EMTs / Police Chief, on the other hand, were completely capable of rational action (and even trained to perform said action), but willfully neglected to carry it out if your account is accurate.
To put it in perspective:
- David's lack of ABILITY to make a rational choice cost HIM his life...
- The EMTs / Chief's lack of WILLFULNESS to act cost DAVID his life.
HUGE difference there, and the only shameful part about this story is that these assholes were too incompetent or too damn lazy to do their job. How many more times will it happen?
I am by no means trying to tell you what to do, or to put you through any more hell than you have already had to endure... I just want to make it clear to you that you are completely and utterly justified in taking action here... In making the guilty parties pay for the action that they failed to take.
If you do decide to pursue it, it isn't too late... I'd start by calling attorneys who specialize in Medical Malpractice (long shot) or more likely Wrongful Death. Really, any Tort lawyer should be able to point you in the right direction. If you truly want to pursue it, pick up the phone and don't put it down until you've got a firm "YES". I guarantee you could find someone to take the case if everything went down like you've said.
I'll send you a PM with some contact info for me on the off chance that you would like some help, or just have any questions or need any support.
I truly do feel for you, and can't begin to imagine what you have gone through, and undoubtedly are still continuing to go through.
Whatever the future may hold, I wish you nothing but the best and I sincerely wish you the power to continue to have strength and acceptance and keep your head high.
I apologize if I came across as a bit brash or blunt, but it hurts to see someone go through this, even if it is 2 years later, and even if it someone who I don't know.
