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Psycho Girlfriend Behaviors

I've definitely dated some crazies. Not girls though. My first "serious" reltaionship--which was a total of about eighteen months long--ended in a five year restraining order (it has to be really bad for a judge to actually grant that kind of restraining order) and him being dragged to a state mental hospital, and the last serious relationship I was in--one that lasted more than two years--was with a man who surely had some kind of mental disorder. I would wake up in the middle of the night and he would be burning furniture in our fireplace or wandering around in the woods talking to himself. He told me that he always pictured what peoples' insides would look like splayed out on the wall when he first meets them. He was extremely jealous and quite controlling, and definitely one of the most brilliant people I've ever known... this was unfortunate for me as he was able to take advantage of my brief lapse in judgement and naivety. I had liked him since I was 14 and he was about 18 so it had been something that was growing for years and years, and I thought his intelligence was enough to warrant me sticking with him ("surely he will go back to school or get a better career than being a carpenter so he can actually contribute financially and feel as if he's doing something with his life..." and so on). I've never been so willingly blinded by someone's charm in my entire life. However, I learned a lot from it, so for that I am thankful.

The best thing you can do when you're with a crazy is man up, break it up, move on, and learn from everything that has happened. I have little sympathy for those who continually make up excuses as I've been there myself and I don't think there is any excuse for someone treating another human being like a piece of shit. When I see extremely jealous men and women, I want to ask their partner what the hell they're thinking and why they're willing to put up with so much shit when it only amounts to years of unhappiness. It's frustrating to watch friends put themselves through what I went through, and most of the time they're not willing to listen.

Honestly, I see posts about crazy significant others in this forum every day and I want to PM the OP and ask them what the hell they're thinking or are they stupid, but I realize this is a bit rash :p
 
Thinks you are cheating on her because you have a little bottle of scope mouthwash in your car.

Thinks you blame her for the fast food place giving you a cold and mushy hamburger.

Thinks your having sex with your sister and claims to have caught it on video and threatens to turn it into the cops.
 
rowland2110 said:
Thinks you are cheating on her because you have a little bottle of scope mouthwash in your car.

Thinks you blame her for the fast food place giving you a cold and mushy hamburger.

Thinks your having sex with your sister and claims to have caught it on video and threatens to turn it into the cops.
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Why would anyone date someone like that???
 
User Name Here said:
I've definitely dated some crazies. Not girls though. My first "serious" reltaionship--which was a total of about eighteen months long--ended in a five year restraining order (it has to be really bad for a judge to actually grant that kind of restraining order) and him being dragged to a state mental hospital, and the last serious relationship I was in--one that lasted more than two years--was with a man who surely had some kind of mental disorder. I would wake up in the middle of the night and he would be burning furniture in our fireplace or wandering around in the woods talking to himself. He told me that he always pictured what peoples' insides would look like splayed out on the wall when he first meets them. He was extremely jealous and quite controlling, and definitely one of the most brilliant people I've ever known... this was unfortunate for me as he was able to take advantage of my brief lapse in judgement and naivety. I had liked him since I was 14 and he was about 18 so it had been something that was growing for years and years, and I thought his intelligence was enough to warrant me sticking with him ("surely he will go back to school or get a better career than being a carpenter so he can actually contribute financially and feel as if he's doing something with his life..." and so on). I've never been so willingly blinded by someone's charm in my entire life. However, I learned a lot from it, so for that I am thankful.

The best thing you can do when you're with a crazy is man up, break it up, move on, and learn from everything that has happened. I have little sympathy for those who continually make up excuses as I've been there myself and I don't think there is any excuse for someone treating another human being like a piece of shit. When I see extremely jealous men and women, I want to ask their partner what the hell they're thinking and why they're willing to put up with so much shit when it only amounts to years of unhappiness. It's frustrating to watch friends put themselves through what I went through, and most of the time they're not willing to listen.

Honestly, I see posts about crazy significant others in this forum every day and I want to PM the OP and ask them what the hell they're thinking or are they stupid, but I realize this is a bit rash :p
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I still ask myself why. You've touched on some of the reason my own bad relationship lasted as long is it did -- youth, inexperience, and the other person being brilliant (but sadly in a diabolical way). That combined with low self-esteem and I had no idea how "normal" people should behave due to my hellish childhood. As for the meth use, I only found out that she was into that later. I thought she only smoked marijuana. And I was so afraid of dealing with the legal system to get a restraining order, I left town instead. Even now, I'm still mad at myself for letting it go on -- if I had known, I would have nipped it in the bud. That part of my life is wasted and pointless.
 
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I have thankfully never been with someone that even closely compares to some that you all have been through. wow. suppose i should count my blessings.

then again, there is probably still plenty of time.

heheh.
 
socko said:
I still ask myself why. You've touched on some of the reason my own bad relationship lasted as long is it did -- youth, inexperience, and the other person being brilliant (but sadly in a diabolical way). That combined with low self-esteem and I had no idea how "normal" people should behave due to my hellish childhood. As for the meth use, I only found out that she was into that later. I thought she only smoked marijuana. And I was so afraid of dealing with the legal system to get a restraining order, I left town instead. Even now, I'm still mad at myself for letting it go on -- if I had known, I would have nipped it in the bud. That part of my life is wasted and pointless.
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Yeah, it happens to the best of us. The only part that I find inexcusable is making the same mistake over and over. The good news is that you learned from it and I learned from my experiences as well. I don't regret anything per say (I wish things went down differently of course) as I feel like the things I learned have helped make me the person I am today, and I like that person very much =)
 
Threatens to "punch" the girls that are in my class that I have normal conversations with, skip her classes to come to my class and sit with her other crazy ass friend and talk shit about the girl im sitting next to in class and "moniter" me.

Then becomes angry with me when I tell her shes being ridiculous, and threatens to like litteraly attack her and fight her.

After we break up that same friend happens to post somthing on my wall and my ex threatens her via facebook, not to mention I move to a country about 3000 miles away and she posts comments in conversations im having with other girls via FB..





....oh and after we broke up she sent me messages of how she one day would carry my baby and wants to have my babies...we dated for 3 months, needless to say I convinced her that I was evil to her.

But yeah fuck relationships for now, things are over-rated
 
User Name Here said:
Why would anyone date someone like that???
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Well obviously you don't know things about a person when you start dating them. The first two i just contributed to insecurity which is easily forgivable. The last one was certainly more psychotic.

Said girlfriend is also just as crazy in bed. Which is why i stuck with her for so long.
 
She withholds sex for such infractions as leaving the toilet seat up (and im not saying because you are in a relationship, sex is necessary, but im talking for 3-4 weeks at a time, and not lying and saying something like "oh, im just not feeling sexy" but saying "you remember when you left the toilet seat up?")
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At the first hint of her playing the pussy game, simply take care of yourself solo. Show no interest in having sex with her and watch porn or have a solo shower before work if workplace erections are a problem. In my experience a couple weeks of this and they start panicking, it really fucks with their head. I can't see her being a keeper for you so you might as well go all out and have fun with it.


Regarding psycho behaviour a friend of mine had a GF that would keep track of how long he spent running errands and then expect him to justify why he took 50 minutes when he got home.
 
I once started "dating" this guy (and by "dating" I mean he would come along with me to the movies or bar and I WOULD HAVE TO PAY). After a couple times of this I was already sick of him because he was a douchebag loser pothead (and I don't just mean someone who smokes pot, I mean full on addict to the point of being really annoying). I took him to this party and he talked the whole time to some other guy about how badly he wanted to fuck some blonde girl who was there (I heard this from the other guy who happened to be my friend). We weren't even in a relationship enough to have a big break up talk or anything, and I was already kinda smitten with this other guy by then (who also happened to be at the party AND also happened to be an even bigger psycho but I didn't know this at the time) so I just started ignoring the first guy to talk to the second. I truly wanted to talk to the other guy but I was also hoping the first guy would see it, get pissed and leave me alone. He'd gotten really weirdly clingy in just a few days and I was over it.

Well, he did get mad and had this huge fight with me at the party and was really mean and my friends were going to kick his ass. It was this huge blow up, and I was like good, this is over. I made it really clear I was done with him.

So then the next day he calls me and acts like it didn't happen. I was like, why are you calling me? I don't want to talk to you. I don't want to hang out with you. I don't like you at all, honestly. Move on. And I hang up.

From then on out, he called me like 1-5 times a day, leaving voicemails each time, like "Hey sweetie! I miss you, can't wait to see you again, blah blah" as if I was his girlfriend... I was like wtf!!!???? This went on for months and months. It became such a joke with me and me friends. Id be somewhere and scream "OH MY GOD ITS HIM AGAIN!" I even went traveling out of the country to Canada for awhile and had my phone turned off the entire time since it's roaming up there, and when I came back to the states there were like ten billion new voicemails, all the same, "Hi honey!" bullshit.

I think this went on for almost 6 months before he finally seemed to give up. To this day whenever I go to my hometown for a visit I look over my shoulder when I go out. He's the last person I'd want to run into. If I ever see him I'm going to just pretend I have no idea who the hell he is. AHHHHH!

Another psycho boyfriend behavior I just thought of (from a different guy):

-He refuses to have sex with you and then screams at you about "Why can't he just watch tv in peace!" when you make an effort to turn him on. Yeah.... that was a fun one. :\
 
rowland2110 said:
Well obviously you don't know things about a person when you start dating them. The first two i just contributed to insecurity which is easily forgivable. The last one was certainly more psychotic.

Said girlfriend is also just as crazy in bed. Which is why i stuck with her for so long.
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I suppose there's no accounting for logic. I know we all make our mistakes when it comes to who we date...
 
One of the things that got me is that the crazy ones seem be more interesting. They have some kind of spark or something that I can't describe that makes them seem fascinating, gives them a sense of adventure, creativity, or something that most people don't seem to have.
 
I tend to agree.

I'm a magnet for and a lover of freaks.

I'm just not a fan of consistently manipulative and/or sociopathic behavior patterns.

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Mysterier said:
I have thankfully never been with someone that even closely compares to some that you all have been through. wow. suppose i should count my blessings.
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+1
CherryPoppinz said:
After we break up that same friend happens to post somthing on my wall and my ex threatens her via facebook, not to mention I move to a country about 3000 miles away and she posts comments in conversations im having with other girls via FB..
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I'm not sure why you have her as a contact on FB still (or did), but you can customize your privacy settings so that certain people can only see certain things, even if they are your friend.

I often wonder what I would do if confronted by these situations. I know it's easy to say "Ah, I would just say F you and leave!" but I've seen people that I thought would do the same thing get caught up in these crazy situations.
 
douchebag loser pothead (and I don't just mean someone who smokes pot, I mean full on addict to the point of being really annoying)
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Ooh, I am so happy to know someone else who has been through this. LOL Most people think weed is no big deal, and it isn't, but I've dated 2 guys now who are/were complete potheads to the point where they had to smoke every couple of hours. Then, they'd bitch when weed cost so much, and when you suggest that maybe instead of smoking 3-4 bowls in a sitting they have 1-2 to make the weed last longer and spend less? You're an asshole. LOL

My last ex had extremely bad, mean mood swings when he ran out of weed. When I suggested that he might be having withdrawals, he had a blowout about comparing him to a pill head.

And finally, the worst pothead behavior - everything is a conspiracy theory. LOL I mean, I'm cool with listening to political stuff, but listening to how I'm just one of "them" because I don't want to rant and rave about paying taxes and just do it to keep the peace, I'm an idiot and don't have the mental insight that the brilliant potheads have. LOL

/rant over (god, I know all too well about the difference between the weekend weed smokers and the god damn potheads)
 
I used to smoke alot, but i wasnt an idiot. I didnt have conspiracy theories. If i smoked, i would like to do things, like go out, watch a movie.. i used to talk ALOT and make really funny jokes (i thought so at least..) but any time i felt it affecting me in a negative way - which it did eventually after a few consecutive days of smoking - I would stop. Simple.

I don't particularly have any crazy girlfriend stories.. cept this one girl who had been abused by an ex boyfriend. We had an argument one night and she started walking out of the house in a huff, so i took her hand to try and stop her & give her a hug to calm down and she FREAKS OUT.

Started going "youre scaring me YOURE SCARING ME LET ME GO!!"

and basically acting like i was going to hit her!?

From that night it was over. I would never do something as low as that, especially not to someone I liked.

I dont think anyone can top that other dude though. That list of stuff was incredible... running over elderly neighbor?? I mean... come on!! how nuts do you have to be. Im sure it wouldve been terrible, but i laughed in amazement at some of those things, she sounds so crazy !
 
specneck said:
.. running over elderly neighbor??
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No, my x-gf Susan, aka "Psycho" Suzie***, only tried to run her over, but thankfully, the elderly neighbor, Muriel, got out of the way in time.


***On a side note, it was one of the girls who worked at a coffee shop who nick-named her "Psycho Suzie" (behind her back). Suz would go int ehre, order some ridiculous coffee drink with about 20 modifiers to the name (eg. quadruple grande two percent hot dulce de leche latte extra caramel sauce with an EXTRA shot and whip cream), then she would scream at them if they took too long, or if they talked to me or even looked at me. At least one time, Psycho Suzie called the coffee shop manager, and then district corporate headquarters , or whatever they call it, of a Starbucks where she had just gotten through screaming at a coffee girl for this. She tried to get a coffee girl fired.

This brings up another psycho girlfriend story. Our neighbor Muriel, a sweet and interesting woman with a grandson at MIT would sometimes need little favors. She doesn't drive and buses in that neighborhood are lacking. So, one day, she comes over and asks Suzie if she'll drive her around to do some errands like get groceries. Suzie agrees on the condition that Muriel give her $10 for gas, coffee, and cigs. (Suzie is always scheming to milk money out of people). Later in the afternoon, they've finished running errands. But before heading home, Suzie wants coffee. So, they go to a Starbucks at the stripmall where they had been shopping.
Suzie asks Muriel to pay for a quadruple grande two percent hot dulce de leche latte extra caramel sauce with an EXTRA shot and whip cream, and a pack of Camel Lights. Muriel does, thinking that this is going toward the $10 she agreed to pay.

Then, they get back in Suzie's car. Still in the parking lot, Suzie asks Muriel for the $10 she agreed to pay. But Muriel was surprised. She had just spent nearly $10 at Starbucks buying Suzie that abomination of a coffee drink and a pack of cigarettes. Muriel assumed the cig and coffee went toward that and only owed $3 or $4 more. That was all that was left from the money Muriel had set aside to pay Suzie. The subsequent argument really set off Suzie.

Remember, Muriel is elderly, and like many elderly people, subsists on Social Security and a very small amount of extra money she makes on the side selling art. So, true to her nature, Suzie starts screaming at Muriel and threatens to call Social Security and turn her in for fraud for unreported income selling arts and crafts.

Then, she makes Muriel get out of the car. Muriel starts looking for a pay phone. (At this point, she's been stranded several miles from home.) Suzie, still shrieking threats and obscenities in her shrill, earsplitting voice, tries to run her down. Muriel got out of the way in time and would tell me what happened several days later. (It was not the same day she hit me with her car and landed me on the hood). Anyway, when I got home from work that day, having no idea they had gone out together earlier and not yet realizing how bad Suzie was, Suzie pretended to be the victim. She told me Muriel had gone crazy and started yelling at her for no reason earlier that day and had cheated her out of $10 gas money.
 
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