I understand that terminology perfectly well. You don’t need to explain undetectable viral load or viral suppression to me.
What JessFR was asking for was an account of an individual with undetectable viral load infecting an HIV- individual. Not a story about PrEP failure.
Would you feel comfortable having unsafe sex with anyone that is HIV+ but claims to be undetectable? I wouldn't.
HIV/AIDS organizations are run by HIV-positive men. A lot of them will tell people to use condoms, have safer sex, etc. but they do not do any of this when they have sex with other people.
I know multiple people who are HIV+ in HIV/AIDS educational and testing organizations who do this.
Since the 1990's, their priorities have been the "cocktail" and reducing HIV stigma. Their ad campaigns spent millions to convince young gay and bisexual men that Poz guys are hot and fuckable, and that HIV meds do not have bad short or long term side effects.
Erased from the agenda? Research for a cure. Research for a vaccine. HIV prevention activists are nearly all in bed with Gilead, the makers of Truvada.
HIV/AIDS organizations are hellbent on telling young gay and bisexual men that "HIV undetectable" men are safe and if you take "PreP" there's zero chance of contracting HIV and that it is fine to not use condoms.
Personally, a strategy of condoms, safer sex, and sero-sorting has kept me negative since I became sexually active in the late 1980s. Use condoms and avoid sex with HIV-poz men and women, IV and hard drug users, even if they tell you that they're "undetectable." or on meds. It works!
Condoms PLUS sero-sorting works.
Young gay and bisexual men need to be told to use condoms, and even with condoms avoid sex with poz guys.
Our current "reduced stigma" environment is what has young guys deluged with 60 second bareback porn clips on Tumblr. It's a constant indoctrination of dicks going into asses with condoms. And unfortunately, "monkey see, monkey do." is why STD rates are skyrocketing.
I've even seen HIV-positive guys on websites claiming themselves as "STD-free." Say what!?!
"Undetectable" is an HIV-positive man with a significantly lower chance of infecting you in the extremely rare case of a condom failure, it does not mean that it is perfectly safe and fine to not use condoms with someone that is HIV+ even if you are on the Truvada.