the worst is how people naturally think you're untrustworthy, up to no good... because eye contact is avoided
I already had trust issues but now people naturally don't trust me for something I can't control
eye contact makes me feel like I'm on fire, burning, but avoiding it makes me feel like nobody trusts me
Hmmm, interesting.
I don't have autism, so perhaps I shouldn't be commenting here, but I do have Non Verbal Learning Disability, OCD, depression and generalized anxiety disorder, and I have intense eye contact phobia that is only treatable by prozac and benzos like Klonopin.
It started at age 14 and went away for 9 years when I got on prozac which is why I get so annoyed when people claim that SSRIs don't work and that all of psychiatry is a scam.
It came back at age 23 when I started drinking tons of coffee and then I needed Klonopin, and I wish to god I never started drinking coffee as if I hadn't I probably never would have needed Klonopin, and now I'm stuck in an up/down cycle between benzos and caffeine.
Let me ask you if your eye contact anxiety is like this: the way it feels is, (although I haven't had it in years thanks to my meds), is that I can't stop thinking about how much or how little eye contact I am making with people. So lets say I am focussed on one person in a group I'm in, lets say a class, and I start worrying "what if I look at him too much and he thinks I'm staring at him?" So I think that I shouldn't look at him. But then I think "this is weird, people HAVE to make eye contact SOMETIMES, so I should look at him occasionally, just not too much, or too little. So then I look, but then I think I looked too long and he'll think that's weird, or he'll think it's weird I'm not looking at him enough and the worst fear is that the person will start to notice I'm uncomfortable and think something is wrong with me and ask what's wrong, because then I'll COMPLETELY freak out because I can't explain what's happening to me.
Is that how yours is?
Cause when it used to happen, the only way to feel ok was just to basically never look at people, but you can't not look at people when talking to them, so it's a problem.
THANK GOD I found prozac at age 14 which made it go away, and then Klonopin again at age 23. Without these meds, I think I'd be agoraphobic. Some other things like Kratom and alcohol also work, but I don't think a kratom addiction is great being how short acting it is, and I can't be drunk all the time. I think maybe shrooms could help, but you can't be tripping all the time.
So that's why I got annoyed in that other SSRI thread where people are all saying SSRIs are bullshit and psychiatry is bullshit: THEY AREN'T!!
Whether or not SSRIs work for depression I don't know. I'm still depressed a lot, but much of it is situational anyway, so maybe they don't, but they DO work for this eye contact anxiety I have, UNLESS I drink too much caffeine or take stimulants, and then I need Klonopin to make it go away, and now I am so addicted to Klonopin, prozac and caffeine, that it's very hard to know how to get off any of them.
But pretty soon I plan on trying to quit both caffeine and Klonopin, and my psychiatrist is willing to help me. I think if I can get off both then the prozac alone should be enough, since it was enough from ages 14-23 before I became a heavy caffeine drinker.
Let me also ask you: have you tried SSRIs or benzos for your issues and if so, have they worked? What else have you tried? Any other drugs or therapies?
They say that Non Verbal Learning Disability (which i have) may be on the autism spectrum, and these similarities make me think it might actually be true...
Also, do you drink coffee/caffeine or take stimulants and if so, do they make it worse?