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cduggles

cduggles

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Hmmm... there’s no advice prefix. I need life advice.

So I live in a high rise and the next door neighbor is a kind of older lady. I haven’t had much interaction with her, but she seems nice enough.

However, her TV is always blaring if she is home. I can even tell what music is playing on her TV and it is almost constantly on, during the night too. I think she falls asleep with it on or something.

I have a few options. I can complain to management/security and they can tell her to turn it down, I can leave her a note or I can talk to her.

The only wrinkle is that I think she is hard of hearing and lonely. I have a relative like that and I know how hard it is for some people who kind of use the TV for company.

But at 3AM when I can’t back to sleep or when I’m trying to sit at my desk (which abuts the wall we share), I want to bang on the wall.

What should I do?
 
@cduggles id try talking first, you might even make a new friend.
Even if you don't like your neighbors it's good to be civil or have them on your side.
She may politely say "oh so sorry dear i didnt know the walls were so thin ill turn my tv down and my hearing aid up" - problem solved.
She may tell you to fuck off, then you can call management on her - and bang on her walls and deny it if she ever mentioned it, if she lives alone its your word against hers and if you've already reported her for noise pollution then you can say she must be trying to get back at you by lying.
If you make an enemy you make an enemy, if shes old, she'll die soon. Meanwhile, put some headphones in.
 
Look on the bright side. If she's hard of hearing then that gives you carte blanche to make as much noise as you like. Drown out her TV with some death metal. Watch porn at full volume. Throw wild all night parties.

But yeh, it's best to have a word with her. She undoubtedly has no idea that you can hear her TV through the wall and if you report her without saying anything first she'll just resent it. I know what I'm talking about here because our neighbour reports us at every fuckin opportunity. We've recently had a letter from the council because my daughter was playing music at 7pm on xmas day! We've also been reported because the wife was singing loudly once (though that was probably justified). We daren't even argue anymore because it gets relayed word for word back to the authorities.

I'd honestly rather be in your situation than ours @cduggles
 
And this is why I've chosen to build a fuckin house so I don't have to look left/rite, I can do whatever the fuck I don't want. When you live in the block, you gonna see communists that gonna call your buzzer in the nite because you talk too loud on the phone and useless things that boils down to his/her insecurities which he projects in the world. My advice is that if you're financial situation holding you back from this, then what can you do it's to use other neighbors to you know, if you can't humanly get to a word with her.
 
Part of my concern about personally knocking on her door is because of social distancing. I’m not sure approaching someone who is older for a chat is the best idea. This pandemic makes everything even more difficult.
 
wear a mask and step back as far as you can as soon as you've knocked on the door. it shouldn't need to be a long interaction.

definitely do something now before you're too angry.

for ages i lived by this old couple who never made a sound, then they moved out and a family with two young kids moved in and for some reason they would bathe the kids at like 6.30-7 every morning and the children would howl the whole time. after being woken up one too many times i took it out on my boyfriend in an angry long rant. funnily enough they did actually quieten down after that and they even moved bathtime a bit later but it was embarrassing cos bathing your children is a completely reasonable thing to do.

the couple would also have super loud arguments, once my neighbour on the other side asked them to quieten down and instead they went outside to shout at each other so the whole street could hear.
 
My upstairs neighbour has been up all night most nights since the plague hit last spring and it seems he has a construction hobby going. Last night, he started what sounded like rewiring the whole bitch at 1am and kept going til about 8 this morning.
He's apparently an IT guy who works from home and plays a lot of online poker. His fucking dog is annoying as well.
He's one of these paranoid conspiracy fucks on top of all of it with his windows completely blocked off with wood and what-not. I think he may be building himself a Faraday cage around the entire interior of his flat.
Probably not but it wouldn't surprise me.

Anyway, fuck him, I'm moving up 15 floors next week and leaving the next tenant to complain to management.

I don't like complaining about other people's noise because of my own. When I don't have the bass bins going, I have people over and that's usually all night, including on the balcony. No one complains about my noise, I won't complain about anyone else's.

Can't wait to move upstairs though, not gonna lie.

I highly recommend sorting this out ASAP to the best of your comfort level because if it simmers you may become slightly murderous as I have. It's bad joo joo.
 
SunriseChampion said:
I highly recommend sorting this out ASAP to the best of your comfort level because if it simmers you may become slightly murderous as I have. It's bad joo joo.
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Truth. I can hear it blaring now and it’s really aggravating. 😤
I’ll nip this in the bud, but today I’ve got other stuff to do.
 
cduggles said:
Truth. I can hear it blaring now and it’s really aggravating. 😤
I’ll nip this in the bud, but today I’ve got other stuff to do.
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Yeah, TV noise is annoying....at least my neighbours get some banging choons coming out of my place. Much better, no? 😜

I'm exaggerating....I'm quite respectful of the neighbours. Which is probably why I haven't received any complaints and my one pensioner neighbour loves me (the pensioner on the other side is half deaf).

Best of luck! :)

Living in apartment blocks can be mental if the neighbours you get don't jive with you. I've lived in something like 10 different ones and it's always a surprise as to what your neighbours are going to be like!
 
The thing is that I’ve never heard noise like this coming from an adjacent unit (the next door units tend to turn over fairly frequently, and no I’m a great neighbor lol). She must be partly deaf. It’s aggravating. 🙄
 
cduggles said:
Hmmm... there’s no advice prefix. I need life advice.

So I live in a high rise and the next door neighbor is a kind of older lady. I haven’t had much interaction with her, but she seems nice enough.

However, her TV is always blaring if she is home. I can even tell what music is playing on her TV and it is almost constantly on, during the night too. I think she falls asleep with it on or something.

I have a few options. I can complain to management/security and they can tell her to turn it down, I can leave her a note or I can talk to her.

The only wrinkle is that I think she is hard of hearing and lonely. I have a relative like that and I know how hard it is for some people who kind of use the TV for company.

But at 3AM when I can’t back to sleep or when I’m trying to sit at my desk (which abuts the wall we share), I want to bang on the wall.

What should I do?
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Creds for showing elderly respect. And for not just running to "the man" directly.
I agree with @jhjhsdi - try talking to her. Maybe she would be open to the suggestion of watching TV with headphones...?
Most new TV's have a function were you can set which time it should shut off.
She might have the same options on her TV but doesn't know how.

I had a similar problem once - but my neighbours were my age and every night, it'd sound like they were trying to fuck each other to death.
She was a bonafide screamer, and that dude seriously pounded away for 2-3 hours at a time.
I bought a gagball and left it outside their door with a note. But a gagball wont do much here.


Anyway, I'm pretty confident she'll be grateful that you're being honest and decent and talk to her before (possibly) getting her in trouble.
 
I'd first respectfully ask her if she could keep the TV down after like 10pm because you have to get up early in the morning. If no avail then reach out to the property manager and let them know what's going on. If yet no avail you could reach out to the proper authorities.
You could also anonymously report her (incase you fear she might retaliate or might cause trouble down the road).
 
I woke up at 4:30 AM this morning and a certain TV was blaring. I’m sure she was asleep. I’m definitely going to have to address this before I start to hate her and just bang on the wall.
 
I would just talk to her.

You can of course simply talk to the management, but chances are she may not be aware of it.

My grandma was like that with the TV. She could barely hear so would turn it up to the max.

You can even leave a note.

If after either of those don't work, then perhaps complain.
 
yeh i agree with leaving a neighbourly note, wait a week, if nothing happens leave another note saying you have to take it up with the landlord. the landlord is probably legally obligated to do something about it, but depending on where you live it may take so long to go through arbitration that it tips the scale in favour of just finding a new place to live :(
 
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