I love everything about this! No worries; my ex MIL got everything she wanted, didn’t she? The boy (he’s not a man where his mother is concerned, always hiding behind his mom’s skirts) and I divorced, after all. He always used to take her side against mine. And now? THEY don’t get along, either, because once his mom successfully aided in breaking us up, she had nothing better to do than to meddle in HIS life, so…I guess all’s well that ends well, yeah? I’m with a guy who has enough strength of personality to handle a strong independent woman, and we’re madly in love. Meanwhile the ex needs to pay for the female company that he keeps…and my girls are with me. I’m satisfied
Karma is a bitch, yo
Furthermore. I had Demerol when I was in the hospital giving birth to mine, so I’m assuming that it’s still common practice to administer opiates to people in labor…and I really don’t understand why they’d do this, testing the urine for drugs thing, unless it had some stupid “war on drugs” reason? Or maybe someone in THEIR lives was trying to get them in trouble for….reasons? Also, if they truly were abusing drugs during their pregnancies, wouldn’t the infant show signs of it? Nothing about this makes sense!!!
I'm trying so hard to remember. Oh yes I remember where I heard it. From a woman who "didn't want to hurt my feelings." I won't go further.
The sheer dumbassness of people with this mentality really has its moments of trying my tolerance of said people. Sadly, it's everyone I know but one person who is basically straddling a fence.
Partly my fear of causing problems for my friends by simply having them. So I choose not to have them. Outside of people I've been long time associated with.
Why do people worship my drug use? Why don't I worship their pride, or their stupidity, or their crap I don't know. Something in their life. Their husband, perhaps.
I really really couldn't resist that. It sure does beat worshipping my smoking, though. So what went wrong at the csection anyway? Whose idea, who paid who, and so on? Nah, just joshing, I'm sure it was nothing but an accident.
How did that get justified? I have an idea - maybe because I chose to let child 1 stay with my parents while I was forced to serve my idol for 7 years. Decision made based on parent 1s begging and parent 2s vomiting out of fear concerning finances and details of their life that wouldn't be ok without my child.
Been regarded as a horrible mother who doesn't want her children and blah blah blah ever since. And does said accuser believe it? Possibly. We are all wired differently and therefore perceive differently. If you think everyone is guilty until proven innocent though, you might have a guilt issue. But you might have just been really really screwed-over countless times. So, glad God knows the hearts of men, and glad I know God. Else my judgement would have me spending years fighting someone who was never an enemy, or really a threat - though may have become one along the way because God is so good at loving us esp when no one else really does.
So for the record and with my salvation pending my honesty, this is how my drug use (legal drugs disguised as food and beverages to get rich off of mass addictions not included) looked before and during pregnancies.
Child 1: when I thought I MAY be pregnant, I literally took 1 sip of an alcoholic drink in someone's car in my granny's driveway. I was like 14. That's all. No more.
My last few visits to my Dr prior to the emergency c section, consisted of them expressing much concern around the fact that his head was up instead of down. I get it, he can't come out with his head up. But rather than waiting and giving him time, they literally took their fingers and pushed his head in order to position him rightly. And then when they tried to induce labor, they realized they were losing his pulse regularly and repositioning me didn't help. So it turns out that the finger pushing method actually has a statistic for percentage of cases wherein mental handicaps occur due to the loss of oxygen to the developing brain that results from pushing baby around and tangling them up in the umbilical cords. Not suing the Dr in either case of my children but I sure do not like that man anymore. Or his office. Or anything surrounding it or hinting towards it. No shit.
Child 2: I was alcoholically buzzed when I took my pregnancy test. We were cooking out and not working that day I do recall. I was drinking (something I'm not crazy about but I did it) so I wanted to make sure before I kept drinking. Making sure went the wrong direction. Lol I didn't drink anymore for probably years. This c section was scheduled, it wasn't emergency. So the rest goes without saying. Man, I still don't feel right from that healing. Whatever went wrong got rightted and made me feel like crap. Opposite of what you'd expect. But it's been a very, long, time. For ones body to try to adjust, etc.