verso
Bluelighter
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lol
for serious though.
Why is it so hard to tell a child what has happened?
"Cheating is a bad thing"
"Mommy cheated"
And we pretty much both agreed on the point of letting the child form his own opinion. ..so..
We both agreed that the child should be able to form his own opinion of his mother, sure, but I would not think it wise to try explaining to the child, at his age, just exactly what happened. I would leave it at, "your mother and I still love you very much, but we are no longer getting along, and that's OK."
By trying to explain to a child that his mother cheated and cheating is a bad thing, the child will surely come to the conclusion that mommy is bad, and that's not fair. Let's save this conversation for a time when the child can actually wrap his head around it. I mean, if you're going to tell the child that "mommy cheated" and "cheating is bad," why not go ahead and tell the child, "daddy wasn't meeting all of mommy's needs" and "sometimes mommy wants just a little more adventure" ? The two of them can go back and forth like this, being perfectly honest with the child, forever... and all it will serve to do, again, at this child's age, is confuse the hell out of him. I just don't see the reason for the conversation right now.