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in love with a girl and waiting for her

My love story started at http://loveconstellation.com After year of chatting with my fiancé I came to meet her in Kiev and I never seen such a big amount of gorgeous girls … and I’m proud that my love is beautiful and smart, she is independent - she is my queen and with her I’m feeling like a king. Wish you visit this beautiful country and to take from there some beauty with you :p
 
I would second what's been said and recommend letting it go; but you probably won't. And that's not necessarily bad because I find these sort's of situations to be crucial in self-development; because right now you still believe in a fantasy of been together and haven't yet been exposed to the harsher elements at play here.. but it will go there if you allow it and that's when you will be burned and heart-broken, and it will likely be incredibly painful because of the extent that you opened yourself up.. but there will be clarity in this as it will strengthen the boundaries between yourself and others, creating a stronger personal identity.

This kind of infatuation can be so all-consuming, like been swallowed up into a black hole at which she/he is the vortex point.. there's a complete dissolution of boundaries where there's a real sense of merging emotionally, but when this is one sided it can be downright unbearable and quickly turn into obsession, possession and other dark traits of infatuation.
 
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dude, get over it and get some new puss . most of them bitches are unfaithful anyway, so fk it man. tak it ezy
 
You need to move on my man. There are so many girls out there and it seems pretty clear this girl doesn't want a relationship with you. Just because you feel things that are real does not mean it will be the same for others. My reality is different from your reality, so it is safe to assume that her reality is probably different from both of ours. What I mean is, the feeling is not mutual, so your energy is being wasted.

I have been in your situation, and if you continue to hold onto this delusion it will destroy you. Go out and meet somebody new. You won't even remember her name.
 
awesome... good job! you're 16, I doubt you need to seek professional help

welcome to the world of being a guy. you're going to be doing crazy shit to get laid for the rest of your life

just try your best to keep an even-keel
 
forestman4 said:
So I'm in deep love with a girl for over 1 year now, sadly one sided.

She used to talk to me a lot, but now since I went for home schooling, she has restricted me to only mailing, no social networking etc..

Just when I thought everything was lost (because she had a boy friend) she reply to my mail on valentines day, saying she is single and she wants to live single forever..

Now I can't love another girl, I couldn't even watch porn without feeling guilty. I just want her. I don't want anything but her love. However the only thing that tells me is a feeling she will fall in love with me late March.

I haven't had a reply from her since valentines day and I've been sending her 100's of mail.

What should I do.
I promised her I wouldn't drink alcohol on new years eve and she wanted to me to make that promise..
So I'm just resorting to pills and cigarettes to rid for my depression. I feel like she considers me a 'disposable' recourse because I proposed to her first. And I've just become literally a slave to her. Because I can't do anything against her will. If she says something I just can't say no.

All her relationships she's had so far lasts under 2 weeks. So I know for a fact that she isn't going to have a successfull on unless she falls in love with me... but waiting is slowly killing me.

Is she doing this on purpose? Should I give her time? Should I keep sending her mails?

God I don't know what to do and it's taking a toll on my studies. I just want to give her everything, idon'the care about what I want anymore. I want to give her all the money I can earn, I want to give her all my love.. but for some reason she doesn't find that good enough to accept me..

She just thinks I'm a liar. Because I was just a really bad alcoholic when I met her.. I quit last year for her but I just don't know what to do?

This is taking me to places I don't want to go.
I've been taking pills and I overdosed a while ago, the depression I get from the fact I'm never going to get her love is making me do stuipid things...

I'm from a respected and rich family. Very rich family, I have sports bikes and cars just for me.. but it doesn't look like she is even 1 bit impressed. Actually she thinks I'm a spoiled brat.

What do I do now? All help is appreciated..
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you're biggest mistake. do not send her 1 more fucking message. NOT ONE. and start trying to move on.

if a girl is into you, you'll know it.

most likely she got into a fight with her bf and wanted some attention. walk away.
 
Well thanks for all the help guys.. I don't know what to say.. don't know what to do really.. I mean I want to move on and I believe I have.. at least I've got cigarettes and alprazolam and codeine to cover the depression I get fromantic failing.... ?
 
forestman4 said:
Well thanks for all the help guys.. I don't know what to say.. don't know what to do really.. I mean I want to move on and I believe I have.. at least I've got cigarettes and alprazolam and codeine to cover the depression I get fromantic failing.... ��
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be careful mixing alprazolam and codeine.

if you have an older sibling, uncle, dad, go talk to them about this. think about it. there are guys who get divorced after 20 years and lose custody of their kids, and they push through. every guy has gone through what you're going through at that age and probably more then on. believe It or not you will feel like this for a different girl at some point. you may not believe me. just don't do anything dumb, and one day you'll look back and laugh at the way you were here. I promise.
 
forestman4 said:
Yea I know not mix alprazolam and codeine lol..
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You're 16. STOP SMOKING IMMEDIATELY AND STOP TAKING DRUGS IMMEDIATELY! You're going down a road that lead to pure misery if you don't. The girl isn't worth all this dude.
 
I started smoking when I was 12 man...
If she asked me to carve out my heart and give it to her I would. Because tof me she's worth it..
 
for me, your description is one of an incredibly unhealthy situation but this is the biggest red flag:
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idon'the care about what I want anymore
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my advice would be to forget about her for now, move on, spend some time on yourself, have some life experiences and consider that valuing somebody you barely know over yourself is not the basis of a healthy, loving relationship.

alasdair
 
Good for you for leaving her!

Drugs are awesome, but not when you're going through some shit. They tend to just mute the feelings, but when you try to get off it, all those feelings that you haven't felt will still be there. If you won't see a therapist and seriously, I don't get the stigma associated with mental health, it's not a bad thing to just be able to talk to someone who is unbiased and won't judge you. Try doing some healthy activities instead. Sports? Exercise? Just run? Read a few books, etc. Just get your mind off of it but don't get high 24/7.
 
Problem is she made me quit everything.. she asked for that promise. .. and I can't take a smoke. Haven't since a long time.. it feels like years.. I used to smoke at least 6 a day now I'm on 0.

It's like she wants to see me suffer. And I can't break that promise
 
I tell you again, in a couple of years, you'll be amazed how much you let this girl control your life even though she gives you nothing in return. but this is all part of the learning process I guess.. :)
 
Guys serious UPDATE:
She emailed me to move on.
She is with another guyear from my school.
I'm so depressed that I took 200 mg of tramadol, I feel like committing suicide by tying a noose around my neck. I've burst into tears. My life is useless without her...
 
But I know I can't waste my life. Tramadol is amazing btw..

I know she'll. Love me.
 
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