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If you were at a party and someone needed help, what would you do?

Sounds like you did the right thing Whirlpool :)

Its amazing how people on a night out can become almost oblivious to someone who obvious is in need of at least a "Hey mate, you alright?", or at most an ambulance.

I was on holiday with friends about 4 years ago in Spain. We came out of some club and were about to walk across the street to another club when one of us spotted some guy slumped by the door, half covered in what I can only assume were his stomach contents (black though?!). Everyone else was just walking past him, giving him a glance and carrying on regardless. He too was unresponsive until one of us shoke him awake. He couldn't stand, hardly speak and didn't know where he was. From his pupils we guessed he had take E and fuck knows what else. We kept him talking till an older couple (40+) came over and asked us what was going on. The olrder lady was a nurse who said she'd look after him till an ambulance arrived (the guy clearly needed it). We thanked her and went on our way. 90 minutes later we walked past the same spot and the guy was just being stretchered into an ambulance. I asked how he was to the older lady and she said whatever he was on, he'd had a bad reaction to it, and we'd done the right thing.
His mates either didn't know what he was or just had abandoned him :( No idea what happened to him, never saw him again.

That was literally the day after I'd tried my first E, and it scared the crap out of me. Didn't touch any drugs for another 18 months.
 
I help everyone, but I don't help them to the point of regreting it.

I drove this tripping chick around for four hours, she was beyond wigging out. Guess that's what happens, when you weight like 5 pounds take four geltabs, and listen to Doormouse's Jesus/Satan set at a New Years party.

She even started to bote people, and have seizures. Stupid I say.
 
It's nice to see some positive stories! good on you people for doing the right thing

I've been at parties and raves where someone's having an problem and no one knows what to do! Even experienced people have no idea - it seems many drugs users are allergic to being clued up, my friends critise me for spending too much time reading up, but when the shit hits the snow blower i'm usually the only one who knows what to do. :/

It's all so common, when somebody is in trouble NOBODY WILL DO ANYTHING.

Not only are some people buzzing out so much they have no sense of danger, but they don't want the hassel of someone going to hospital or getting in trouble with the law. I've been very high or tripping hard myself and I've helped someone had a bad trip.

I came across one polydrug + shroomer who was much like the guy in the story above - except he was having breathing difficulty also. One of the niteclub bouncers wanted to throw the guy out on the street, I told the bouncer exactly how fucked up that was and nearly got myself sprung too, a staffer and some other ravers helped me get the guy somewhere quiet. In my area -thankfully- people are generally good samaritans - even when high as kites.

*sigh*

look after your friends kids
 
I've helped people out at parties that were too intoxicated to do anything (even stand up) and it is the biggest downer ever. If you are high or drunk, you will notice how instantly after offering help/getting frustrated trying to help will sober you up instantly.

not to mention the fact that the next day whoever you helped wont even remember you helping out and being nice, but the important thing is you yourself will know you helped someone out in a time of need. Much like I know if I was ever in the same state that someone would help me out.

karma babey!
 
if someone actually wanted to be out of their mind fucked up, beyond the point of being able to communicate with others, then they probably should just stay home. whats the point of going to a show if you want to escape it with that much drugs?
 
keystroke said:
I've helped people out at parties that were too intoxicated to do anything (even stand up) and it is the biggest downer ever. If you are high or drunk, you will notice how instantly after offering help/getting frustrated trying to help will sober you up instantly.

not to mention the fact that the next day whoever you helped wont even remember you helping out and being nice, but the important thing is you yourself will know you helped someone out in a time of need. Much like I know if I was ever in the same state that someone would help me out.

karma babey!
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When I first saw the guy and made te decision the help him, the fact that this was probably going to take away my roll crossed my mind, but I instantly decided that it if I didn't help him, it was going to bring me down anyway, b/c I would have been worrying about him. I think it's selfish to worry about one's own buzz at a time like that.

I'm sure that guy doesn't remember what I looked like or even if I helped him or not, but it made me feel good that I did it. I would definately do it again.
 
^ unless, of course, it's blahblahblah in which case just leave him be. that's the state he want to be in.

:)

alasdair
 
lol just drop it, I know how I like to feel, others I am sure dont have the same mindset as me. Thats life though huh?

:)
 
Great job, but with a weak pulse and the unresponsiveness, shouldn't an ambulance have been called? I am not trying to be the bitch and say you should've done more, I mean, I think I would have done just what you did too....but at what point do we "just wait and see" A weak pulse isn't a good sign at all, is it?? Maybe it is just the mommy in me, but better safe than sorry, right??
 
I'm the kind of person who feels good from helping others feel good, so there's no doubt I would've helped the guy in the situation you mentioned. There have been a few times where I drank far too much alcohol, and was lucky to have friends there to help me home.

I can't recall how many times I've had to help strangers at concerts who were injured in the mosh pits, escorted sick people at raves, given people rides, etc. but there were many. I disagree with the idea that good karma will come back to people who give it, but I do know that you may be influencing others who witness your acts of kindness (being a good role model is important in social situations) and you'll probably feel good afterwards knowing that someone is probably feeling better because of your actions. (Unless you're sadistic ;))
 
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