This happened to my Mrs. She endured sexual abuse from her stepfather from the ages of 12 to 16. She finally plucked up the courage to announce it to her mother, and it was all brushed under the carpet. The cunt got away with it for life.
I have absolutely no idea what you're going through mate, but I can sympathise to a certain extent...
My mum actually has been remarkably good about this. She came over the next day too, for a bit of a small chat. And then the next day for Christmas she dropped round.
Neither of them went to Christmas. I think they should have gone, even if they didn't host it. The rest of the family has started to talk, and a lot of them have been guessing right. Either they have always found my dad creepy (possible, people who meet him have told me that they do) or, very possibly, they have unfortunately fallen for the 'oh what could it be? Ohhhhh the gender change... Sexual abuse' myth.
My cousin filled me in on everything since I told him everything years ago when he disclosed his dad physically abusing him. Apparently my dad called up to say they weren't coming all upset. That made me feel really guilty. I didn't want to make him upset. Then James told me that he went to visit grandma on his own last night... And that made me worry he's gone over to get his side of the story in first.
James said he thinks my mum will divorce my dad, and I got sad about that cause I don't wanna be the reason they get divorced and he'll be sad and alone. Mum already told me that he drinks more because I don't talk to him. Then I found out his reason for saying they couldn't come was 'dealing with problems with eli' so I got mad cause I feel like I'm being treated like I'm the problem. Maybe I am the problem. He always said I was, if I never said anything there wouldn't have been any problem, especially if I didn't go no contact. That was what started the problem.
When mum came over for Christmas she gave me gingerbread biscuits and when I got one to eat I felt like shit cause she spent all this time making a gingerbread house like she used to and now it got wasted cause of me.
I wish I didn't feel so much empathy. I never understood why people think Autistic people don't feel empathy. I literally feel bad about my abuser being sad and ruining Christmas for my mum and everyone.
I felt good until then, cause I really thought we could fix things with the family and we could be a family again, me, my brother, my mum and my dad (without the abuse obviously) cause the reason I told her wasn't to get him in to trouble and make a police report and press charges. It was so that he could apologise and everything else that includes.
But now I feel like I did the wrong thing and I'm a bad person. Logically I know this isn't true. But this is what I feel like at the moment. I think I just want to talk to friends and Tom when he gets back from the holiday break.
I hope your partner gets the support she needs from you. I never have believed it possible to have a partner believe me when I tell them what happened to me. Or that they would not think it gross, bail on me, then laugh to their friends. It makes me really happy knowing that have a partner who believes them. I know it's hard sometimes being a partner or even a friend to people like us because of how we can behave due to what happened. But the fact that she told you means that she very much loves and trusts you.
And from someone who experienced the same thing she did, many of us don't ever believe we can fully love or trust another person, especially when it is a sexual relationship because of all of the confusion that comes together with that due to the grooming we experienced ever again in our lives.
You must be a very, very special person to have gained her trust and love and I respect you for that, and she has been very brave to tell you. We expect people to leave us when we tell them, and when people prove us wrong it feels surreal. It's the best thing in the world. But I've also had that happen then the friend eventually prove me right, and it destroyed me, so you have a very special role in her life.
for 30 seconds. He treats my whole family. But he compartmentalises it all. Tbh I dunno if my dad still sees him tho, if I were him I wouldn't cause I'd feel super awkward knowing my GP knew I abused my kid they also treat. But I don't know cause he's a professional and he doesn't talk to me about anything about my dad, just let's me talk about him and comments on how things are going. He told me to let my mum know that he is happy for her to see him for extra sessions if she needs to talk about it and mum told me when I told her that through the year I wasn't talking to dad she had been talking to my GP about me not speaking to him and how that was affecting her. So yeah, he is amazing at keeping it all seperate considering he's our family doctor. He told me he suspected what happened to me for a long time and when he found out about my sexual self harm he had an educated guess about what happened. Originally when he found out my dad was also a patient he said we couldn't talk much about him, but after that all happened and my self harm rapidly escalated and I had a suicide attempt earlier this year due to all of this he said yes when I asked to disclose to him and explained he already knew or guessed most stuff due to reading a statement of lived experience I'd written for my disability funding anyway. 
