I appreciate the support that all of my bluelighters have shown me over this past year, it really means a lot. Bluelight has helped me try to apprehend this entire experience. I have always wanted to post the eulogy that I wrote and read at my brother's memorial service (he had over 700 people in attendence), so I decided that I finally would. Sorry of it is kind of long - I figured these were my last words to him (to his face at least) so I should put my mind and heart into it. My brother was a dead head, and loved to blaze so I thought I should be in the right mindset not only when I wrote this, but also when I read it. It was definitely the most intense, surreal, and dreamlike high that I have ever had.
These were the final words that I spoke at my brother's memorial service:
We are all gathered here today, united and unified, to mourn the loss of our beloved, Jordan Lee Novak. He was The Grand Architect of Dreams who was desperately searching for a way to engineer them; to realize that he was bright enough, brilliant enough, charming enough, beautiful enough, and special enough to discover how open the World really was for him. I have two separate pieces that I am going to read for everyone. The first is going to be from my mind; it is abstract and in my own words, so I ask that you please listen carefully. The second is going to be from my heart so I ask that you please open yours so that we can all forge a common connection.
An astonishing and rather remarkable exploration into the nature of the Universe is one which reveals to us our inability to correlate all its contents. Dissociated parcels of knowledge vanish behind veils of perception and emerge only momentarily to invite curiosity. Therein, one discovers the essence of Humanity which has hitherto, strained in an infinite series of misdirection. We live on a tiny rock, in the middle of a vast cosmic ocean standing abreast atop the only known island of civilization, where we silently reside within. Therefore, those exotic elements of the human experience, those inapprehensible things and events that confound imagination are sometimes all too difficult to describe. The mind, in all its elegance and beauty, in all its magnificence and grandeur, can be as frail and fragile as the thinnest sheet of ice. When it glimpses into those inextricable and frightful vistas of reality wherein one cannot discern between their perception of reality and what reality ought to be, then the mind shall find itself maddened from terrifying dreams and distorted nightmares or awestruck by the wonders of illusion and the delusion of majesty.
There was an eerie silence haunting the depths of my nearly abandoned soul that night. A deep shade of red light was shining about the face of the moon, reflecting a devilish chill down the narrows of my spine. I know there was some series of scientific reasons describing the conditions of that particular night, but it didn’t capture the psychological torment that the mind can generate. It can distort the most general environment into a dark obscurity, blurring the line between which is truly real and that which is merely masquerading behind a false guise. The stability of Jordan’s mind was plummeting off the proverbial deep end, into an endless abyss of undiscovered territory. It was inviting him. Oh, how it invited him, tempting him, promising him that the voices would be silenced. It promised that the images would fade away into The Darkness. The echoes of his name resonated from within The Darkness, embracing his great decline with a darling smile. The fall was not straight down however; it would bend, twist, loop and shift. The images, the sounds, the thoughts; he felt the grip of The Darkness tightening around his fragile soul. The essence of the soul dissipates with each squeeze, slowly destroying what used to be a conscience.
Even now, shadows dance on the horizon of the night sky, wearing the faces of the innocent One, Jordan. His eyes peering back into mine, reading my heart. They say that eyes are the gateway to the soul. If I could show you what I see, you would find that notion to be truer than you could ever imagine. The landscape of my mind is forever changed; a dejected sanctuary transformed from a rational mind, into an inescapable nightmare.
The frozen light reflects the ghostly identity of the dying, distant night sky. A phantom emerged out of this Ethereal Sea of Unyielding Despair; a reservoir concealed deep within the hollows of his mind, reflecting the abhorrence and consternation of his experience with the World. These ghastly images have crystallized into interactive memories, emerging as an inexplicable, interconnected network; transcendent beyond time itself, projecting the terror in my mind onto the dark space in front of my eyes. His tragedy has shaken the fragile structure of humanity
But that isn’t the end. Despite the dark, macabre illustration of this entire thing, a glimmer of light has started to shine through. Even though we have lost one of the most amazing people that I have ever met, we have all come together, stronger and better than we ever were before, and Jordan will live on as a legacy in our hearts in minds. This story has already saved the life of at least two people and we should all find some solace and comfort in that.
This second piece is from my heart, so let us all open ours. I remember growing with Jordan, always making each other laugh. We would always play together with legos, and video games, actions figures and sports. We played imaginary games such as: World War II, Viet Nam, Power Rangers, and WWF Wrestling on the trampoline. When we shared a room and had bunk beds, he would ask if he could “come over and spend the night,” which meant, “can I sleep with you in your bed tonight,” When he slept with me in my bed we would build blanket domes. We would pretend we were on other planets together and we would make up fantastic stories to tell each other. We isolated ourselves into The Brother Realm, where only we existed at the time. I remember playing video games with my dad, Steve Novak and Jordan; we would hang out and watch movies together. We would tell jokes and stories. Dad, Jordan and I had a lot of fun together. It was just the guys. A dad and his boys, happy, smiling, and playing together. Jordan always loved hanging out with Dad, especially as we grew up and we could all better understand each other. We loved to sit around and tell stories about the times that Jordan, Dad and I hung out and how much joy it brought to our lives.
I remember Jordan and I visiting and living with our Aunt Lynn and Uncle Brandon. Going to museums with them. Playing in their house, meeting their friends. I remember Brandon and Lynn treating us like their own kids. I remember Zeke, Jordan, Drake and I growing up at Nana’s house, playing the backyard and the playroom. Jordan always made sure we had fun.
Jordan showed me a lot of music. He showed me a lot of movies. He showed me a lot. He shared a lot with me. We loved each other. Even when I was with Jordan, I found myself telling endless stories about him. I found myself waking up in the middle of the night, wondering what my brother was doing and if he needed a ride home. I always made sure to pick him up no matter where he was and no matter what time it was. I gave him anything and everything he wanted. I made sure he was taken care of. I was there for him always. I always told him to call me no matter what.
That kid was always there for me. He always felt like he had do things for me, because he knew how much it meant to me to see him succeed. I got so much damn joy out of helping take care of that kid. He would do anything for you, all you had to do was ask.
This is a network here. All of us in one way or another, dedicated ourselves to ensuring Jordan was safe, protected, and guided down the right path.
Godspeed to you Jordan. My brother and best friend. Godspeed to you as you traverse the Universe. Godspeed to you as you build and design our dreams and guide us through your memory.
I love you Jordan and I will forever miss your face, smiles, laughs, hugs and kisses.