Yeah, best experiences I've had with guys are when they've been interested in a good 20-30 minutes or so of foreplay first.
Well, I say "with guys". But I've never had any sexual experiences with other women.
I actually made a comment once around some chick (I guess?) she was a friend of my BF at the time and, iunno what she identified as it was often changing. Sometimes lesbian, sometimes some kind of non binary, I dunno.
Anyway, there was some discussion about women having sex with other women (or perhaps more accurate would be to say people with vaginas having sex with other people with vaginas?) I forget, anyway I made some comment about how I had difficulty thinking of sex as sex without any element of penetration. At least I think that's what I said. Anyway she got really pissed off and had a go at my "heteronormative opinions" or some shit. :D
There are some women I might sometimes think are attractive, but I can't see myself ever being particularly interested in having sex with another women. Just not my thing. Or at least that's my presumption. Since I've never been with a woman you could argue I'm not in a position to know.
Maybe she (?) was right and I am being heteronormative cause I probably do sex through a fairly heterosexual lense.