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How many people have you had sex with?

Fiori di Bella said:
23 or so men
5 women
1 one night stand ever
I usually consider myself straight or bi, depending upon the situation.
In my late 40s
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What is sex with women like for you versus men?

Do you ever date, sleep with, or have girlfriends who are leatherdykes? Or is the sex vanilla?

I like leatherdykes/bi-kes but they have to be European femme, androgynous, fit, and a switch or submissive.
 
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PriestTheyCalledHim said:
What is sex with women like for you versus men?
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I don’t normally like to endorse Priest’s creepy enquiries as to other people’s sexual practices but in this case I’d quite like to know the answer to his question as well. The possible adjectives that spring to mind are “softer” and “wetter” but I don’t want to put words in your mouth....
 
I actually prefer sex with men. I’d much rather have a penis inside me, then a latex substitute, i.e., a strap on or dildo. Also, there is something pleasing about exploring a man’s body with kisses/licking that I don’t feel as excited about when I’m with a woman as I already know all her parts. I get much wetter when I’m with a man I’m attracted to.

Women have been more gentle and eager to please than their male counterparts; they have professed that they felt like failures if they didn’t get me off. I have only gotten off with one male and that’s how it is.

Men are gentle upon request but that’s not their usual state. The one thing I can complain about with men is that things often happen fast. I want to kiss for awhile, then undress each other and then kiss each other’s bodies, before we arrive at the main event. I feel as though most men would rather skip those steps and just fuck.
 
I get very confused about “gentle” and what women want in terms of it. They talk about it a lot in a theoretical way but next thing they’re drawing blood with their fingernails yelling “Fuck Me. Fuck Me” and demanding you pick up the pace.
 
Well, depending upon a variety of factors, including your size, position, how wet she is, whether she is like me and the 1st minute has to be slow until I get used to you, etc., there are reasons women want you to go slow.
At some point it really starts to feel good and one cannot help herself from yelling that she wants more, and harder.
We women are mysterious creatures and I don’t blame you for being confused. Sometimes we even say the opposite of what we mean, making it even harder for you to know what we want.
 
Fiori di Bella said:
I actually prefer sex with men. I’d much rather have a penis inside me, then a latex substitute, i.e., a strap on or dildo. Also, there is something pleasing about exploring a man’s body with kisses/licking that I don’t feel as excited about when I’m with a woman as I already know all her parts. I get much wetter when I’m with a man I’m attracted to.

Women have been more gentle and eager to please than their male counterparts; they have professed that they felt like failures if they didn’t get me off. I have only gotten off with one male and that’s how it is.

Men are gentle upon request but that’s not their usual state. The one thing I can complain about with men is that things often happen fast. I want to kiss for awhile, then undress each other and then kiss each other’s bodies, before we arrive at the main event. I feel as though most men would rather skip those steps and just fuck.
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Yeah, best experiences I've had with guys are when they've been interested in a good 20-30 minutes or so of foreplay first.

Well, I say "with guys". But I've never had any sexual experiences with other women.

I actually made a comment once around some chick (I guess?) she was a friend of my BF at the time and, iunno what she identified as it was often changing. Sometimes lesbian, sometimes some kind of non binary, I dunno.

Anyway, there was some discussion about women having sex with other women (or perhaps more accurate would be to say people with vaginas having sex with other people with vaginas?) I forget, anyway I made some comment about how I had difficulty thinking of sex as sex without any element of penetration. At least I think that's what I said. Anyway she got really pissed off and had a go at my "heteronormative opinions" or some shit. :D

There are some women I might sometimes think are attractive, but I can't see myself ever being particularly interested in having sex with another women. Just not my thing. Or at least that's my presumption. Since I've never been with a woman you could argue I'm not in a position to know.

Maybe she (?) was right and I am being heteronormative cause I probably do sex through a fairly heterosexual lense.
 
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JessFR said:
Yeah, best experiences I've had with guys are when they've been interested in a good 20-30 minutes or so of foreplay first.

Well, I say "with guys". But I've never had any sexual experiences with other women.

I actually made a comment once around some chick (I guess?) she was a friend of my BF at the time and, iunno what she identified as it was often changing. Sometimes lesbian, sometimes some kind of non binary, I dunno.

Anyway, there was some discussion about women having sex with other women (or perhaps more accurate would be to say people with vaginas having sex with other people with vaginas?) I forget, anyway I made some comment about how I had difficulty thinking of sex as sex without any element of penetration. At least I think that's what I said. Anyway she got really pissed off and had a go at my "heteronormative opinions" or some shit. :D

There are some women I might sometimes think are attractive, but I can't see myself ever being particularly interested in having sex with another women. Just not my thing. Or at least that's my presumption. Since I've never been with a woman you could argue I'm not in a position to know.

Maybe she (?) was right and I am being heteronormative cause I probably do sex through a fairly heterosexual lense.
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My limited experience also leads me to believe there are two general types of women: those who need it to be penetrative and those whose other erogenous areas like the clitoris dominate. I've had partners who couldn't care less if I put it in or not so long as oral pleasure was adequately delivered. I imagine they could pretty happily go non-hetero in a pinch.
 
Well, I'd say I definitely do want sex to involve penetration, but not 'just' penetration.

I can't speak for what most women want, but I would definitely say penetration alone isn't enough. There's so much more to having enjoyable sex than that. For me anyway.

I get the impression that that is the main point of it for a lot of guys. Like in the time I was prostituting myself, they'd generally just wanna get straight to it.

But when it's been with a guy I actually like, who I want to sleep with, it's a lot better to have a slower buildup. And even when you get to the point of having penetrative sex it's still not enough on it's own.

I would suspect many if not most other women probably feel similarly. At least other straight women
 
Female, 20, 3 partners so far. I didn't really want so many ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
 
ashwolf22101 said:
Female, 20, 3 partners so far. I didn't really want so many ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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I didn't realize you were that young. I had just turned 24 when I joined bluelight and that was pretty young.

I think I'd only had a similar number of partners when I was 20. My first, in my teens, another guy I knew from school. Someone else I met at a support group.

I was in a serious relationship for a lot of my 20s so all those years I only slept with one person.

Then there's also another BF I had for a year after that. A couple casual FWB type relationships before that.

Then you also have a few guys from the year when my habit got so bad I was prostituting myself. Some of them I don't even know their names and I don't think they ever knew mine.

So yeah, I'm 32 going on 33 and in total it's probably about 7-10 guys? No girls.
 
Those with high numbers run a greater risk of getting assaulted, fists, knives, guns due to their promiscuity and probably banging significant others and such. Not all, but when you go a long time without it's a sense of relief knowing you're not ruining peoples lives. Jealousy and such will get the best of most men. Not that some guys won't confront me about it in this life. But I'm hiding, and depraved.
 
MydriHaze said:
Who the fuck even counts?.. :unsure:
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Exactly. I'm 36 and have slept with about 20 to 25 women but then one pops in my head later in the day and realise another three...or did I count her.... I think it's childish counting above age ,25-30.
I might have a go tonight at counting
 
I was wonderiiiing........................................................................................................................................... :D
 
I don't keep track , not a lot. Maybe thirty. I only really cared for 7 of them. The rest were just kinda fun or they were the 3rd in a 3 way.

I'm 34
I'm a dude
Gay but you couldn't tell.

My current lover used to be an a super slut " his own words" probably thousands in his life.

Now we travel the world together, make each other laugh and cuddle

He sometimes has a guy over for fun, sometimes I join. But he always says it's not even good because it's not me. Says I ruined him. 😂

In the time we've been together he's quit smoking after 30 something years, he's on a diet and gotten on health insurance. Says he's never felt love like this before. I feel the same way. He's my match in every way

Makes everyone else pointless.

He introduced me to his dad, all his friends, his banker lol. Fuck my chest is tight just thinking about how lucky we are to have randomly found each other.

Sry got lost in the feels
 
Every time I actually take the time to think about this and answer it to best of my ability.
I am a 48 year old straight man. I don't like answering this question to most people I know so to.do it in a group like this is way better because I don't really care about how bad it sounds LOL.
In terms of female partners it's over 250 and that's about as detailed as I care to get about it. A lot of these sexual encounters are the result of my line of work in the entertainment industry. (NOT PORN) LMAO.
Multiple threesome's with 2 females, a few with a buddy and 1 female, a few foursomes involving couple swapping and even a couple orgies.
The only interaction I have had in a sexual manner that wasn't a female was with someone who was trans and VERY Far along, Actually maybe all the way. I was at a club and the most incredibly beautiful woman at that club was actually originally a man LOL. But her face, body, literally she was absolutely beautiful. So once we were messing around I guess it was clear to her that I had no clue, so she then told me what was up. At that point I decided not to go to far but I did accept some head and to be honest it was some damn incredible head 😁
I do attend Raves and electronic music festivals that cross over into my work but I would not consider myself a raver!
I lost my virginity when I was 14
 
i've commented on this in another thread or maybe it was this one, but i'm 38 yo male and only have had sex with one girl when i was 19 and in my early twenties... i decided that i wasn't really into having kids, so we broke up. i really felt like she was the one, but i felt like i was getting signs from god that i shouldn't have kids so i recommended that she go with the guy that liked her in high school cause she wanted to have to kids. she did that and now has three kids.

i've actually flirted with girls that i worked with a few times after being with that girl thinking maybe my signs from god weren't the absolute truth. i never really have what it takes to fully get a girl to go with me, they always kind of laughed me off like i was a silly immature stoner, but they were still nice like they appreciated my advances. i never really tried too hard... i was on a local message board with a bunch of girls that were into me and they posted pictures saying i could hit on them at some concerts i went to, lol, but i was just never in the mood or felt like god didn't want me to...

i've pretty much given up on the idea of having sex after being on anti-psychotic injections for the past few years. i can still ejaculate one good load a day, but i just feel like i had better semen before and i'm guessing it's not as good semen because i smoke a lot of weed too... when i heard robert deniro had a kid at 79 though, i felt like maybe i have some time to get off my meds and see how my semen is. i don't really want to waste a girl's time unless there is potential she is going to have a kid. robert deniro makes me want to get a younger girlfriend. lol i might actually try to get my semen checked in a couple years and date, but i doubt i can find a girl even though i'm pretty good looking and girls show interest in me all the time... like the other day i saw this girl when i was walking around the block. i ignored her, but when i walked back around the block she was still there and i looked at her. she totally eyed me. i almost said something, but its like "hey i'm on meds and disabled. we can have some kids, you got to pay for it all though so i can keep my weed habbit. i promise i'll be a good dad." i've actually thought about giving up weed to have kids and just let my wife keep my disablity check. i'm sure some girl would be into that... i doubt it will ever happen. i'll be stuck at having sex with only one girl. lol. i felt good about it for a while, like it was something the bible would've appreciated, but it's beginning to seem stupid to me..
 
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