How can I compete with a pocket pussy (masturbation) and meth?

[Ineedanswers2015]

I have been posting about one particular "welder meth addict" in my other posts.

He has cut communication with me, but PLEASE help me understand!

How can I compete with a pocket pussy? He "claims" that he doesn't watch porn, but rather uses his imagination.

Why would a man want to use a pocket pussy/masturbate instead of having sex with a "real" woman?

Of course, I can give him oral sex that a pocket pussy can't, but is a real woman that aggravating when someone is on meth?
-or-
Is it the fact that he is too selfish to attempt to please another person.

I remember distinctly one night before I left - I wanted to have sex, but he wasn't up for it. Yet, when I got ready to walk off, he said that he was going inside to masturbate to me later?
WTF?
Why would you masturbate to me later when I am standing in front of you begging for it?
Really?

Please help me understand this behavior when high on meth?

 

[pinpoint]

Hahah that guy has some issues.

Kind of a loaded question but.. are you attractive?

 

[Ineedanswers2015]

Hahah that guy has some issues.

Kind of a loaded question but.. are you attractive?

pinpoint,
He does have issues.
Most men say I'm attractive? I would say I'm ok?

5'0 (rather short)
Long dark brown hair (half way down my back) with caramel highlights,
32-34DD/DDD (I have large natural breasts for a small frame girl.)
110 pounds
Large "apple bottom" (I've always had this since I was younger) (By the way, this guy LOVES the butt vs. breast.)
2 small tattoos at pelvic area (angel wing on each side)
Hood piercing
Medium skin tone, and
Takes care of myself (skin, hair, nails, etc...)?

So, I guess to each is own?
Maybe I'm not his type?
But, most men haven't had any issues?
Makes me feel back about myself?

 

[P.o.T.u.S]

Dont feel bad about yourself..it has more to do with issues with his addiction than your appearance..when i was deep in opiates i wouldnt even want to talk to girls if they approached me/had interest..addiction fucks your head up u cant make sense of any of his actions..meth is a stimulant and people usually want sex on it so idk..ive never done meth but any other stimulant ive always wanted sex but everybodys different..stimulants,DD,and an applebottom sounds like a good time to me :D

 

[socko]

pinpoint,
He does have issues.
Most men say I'm attractive? I would say I'm ok?

5'0 (rather short)
Long dark brown hair (half way down my back) with caramel highlights,
32-34DD/DDD (I have large natural breasts for a small frame girl.)
110 pounds
Large "apple bottom" (I've always had this since I was younger) (By the way, this guy LOVES the butt vs. breast.)
2 small tattoos at pelvic area (angel wing on each side)
Hood piercing
Medium skin tone, and
Takes care of myself (skin, hair, nails, etc...)?

So, I guess to each is own?
Maybe I'm not his type?
But, most men haven't had any issues?
Makes me feel back about myself?

All that with the bonus that you are educated and intelligent. Your the kind of woman most men like. If I met you, I would be interested in you and probably want to ask you out, and I'm extremely picky. So ... where do you live?

 

[Ineedanswers2015]

Dont feel bad about yourself..it has more to do with issues with his addiction than your appearance..when i was deep in opiates i wouldnt even want to talk to girls if they approached me/had interest..addiction fucks your head up u cant make sense of any of his actions..

P.o.T.u.S
Thank you.
And WHY I want his approval/acceptance is beyond me! I just want to turn him on like he does me.

So true, and I don't fully understand the mindset of an addict, and I am trying to rationalize from MY perspective, which is wrong.
He is a good looking man with a nice body (and penis). Plus, he used to have his priorities together and made some serious cash as a welder. However, this addiction is slowly making him look old, impotent, and broke. Plus, if he ever comes off, his weight is going to increase. This is just bad all the way around for him.

He deserves more than a life of being lonely and paranoid. Just sad...

 

[Ineedanswers2015]

All that with the bonus that you are educated and intelligent. Your the kind of woman most men like. If I met you, I would be interested in you and probably want to ask you out, and I'm extremely picky. So ... where do you live?

Aw!
That is very kind. I appreciate that, socko!
Wow! Hey - hey!
I'm in the southeast (AL/GA/FL area)!

I just can't seem to think highly enough of myself to move away from these guys? Plus, I have no children.
Maybe the problem is my low self-esteem?

 

[P.o.T.u.S]

Your other thread said he has trouble getting an erection..hes prolly just embarrassed that he cant get hard and he cares what u think about him..what kind of looney turns down sex with a woman and says hes gona beat off to her later..thats nuts!!lol .you need to find yourself a nice CLEAN guy...your caring and sound very attractive u deserve a normal life not the life of an addicts side piece..he will never love u like u deserve if he is in love with meth

 

[TheLostBoys]

I'm attracted to good looking women when I was drinking or on any other drug......I never understood how guys don't get excited when they have a beautiful girl taking off their clothing, & I can get off on any amount of opiates that I've ingested.

As for your bf, it seems he has an addiction to pleasuring himself, & yes, you can get addicted to masturbation.

Meth is a drug that can conse you when you're watching porn......when o used stims 10 years ago, I could have sex several times.......so he should be horny to have sex if he's on math when you're around.

 

[Ineedanswers2015]

Your other thread said he has trouble getting an erection..hes prolly just embarrassed that he cant get hard and he cares what u think about him..what kind of looney turns down sex with a woman and says hes gona beat off to her later..thats nuts!!lol .you need to find yourself a nice CLEAN guy...your caring and sound very attractive u deserve a normal life not the life of an addicts side piece..he will never love u like u deserve if he is in love with meth

P.o.T.u.S,
I apologize for not being clear enough.
He has trouble getting an erection 8 times out of 10.
He has in the past (how - now that I think about it is even more confusing to me). He got an erection basically because I was begging there in front of him (maybe he used his imagination). LOL

I can certainly tell that something is wrong in that department for a seemingly healthy 45 year old man?
Yes, the comment about beating off later HIT ME WRONG and really hurt my feelings. I think that slipped out before he realized it? Or, maybe he just didn't care?

Thank you so much for your kind words.
I certainly care about people and have a huge heart, but sometimes that gets myself (feelings, self-esteem) in trouble when I rely on other people for my validation - WRONG THING TO DO!

I definitely want someone to care and spend time with me, and this guy is NOT and doesn't want to.
I greatly appreciate your advice, and I will do that.
There is nothing worse than begging a meth addict to spend time with you and maybe touch you every-now-and-then.
I am nothing to him or the nonexistent relationship.

 

[Ineedanswers2015]

I'm attracted to good looking women when I was drinking or on any other drug......I never understood how guys don't get excited when they have a beautiful girl taking off their clothing, & I can get off on any amount of opiates that I've ingested.

As for your bf, it seems he has an addiction to pleasuring himself, & yes, you can get addicted to masturbation.

Meth is a drug that can conse you when you're watching porn......when o used stims 10 years ago, I could have sex several times.......so he should be horny to have sex if he's on math when you're around.

TheLostBoys,
I think you are definitely right with him being addicted to pleasing himself and masturbation. He seems like an instant gratification kind of guy.

Grant it - I do not witness the masturbation, so I could be completely wrong, but from hearing him talk - this seems like the case. He also claims that he isn't into porn, but, again, I am not searching his house for porn videos (but, I bet they are there)!

He wants to cum, but it definitely isn't with another person. LOL

Maybe some guys just don't want sex while on meth?
Maybe he isn't masturbating as often as I think? However, I doubt that latter.

I could understand a single (divorced) man wanting a pocket pussy, but to ignore a real woman when she is there to have sex is beyond me? Pocket pussy when alone is ok , but to want it over a woman is odd.

 

[TheLostBoys]

I hate to masturbate......i need sexual contact with a woman.

I had a cousin that had a problem with masturbation, he claimed to have masturbated 7 times in one day, & he's a good looking guy that can attract women easily.


It seems that you want to stay with this guy, & you're trying to find a reason to stay with him......or you're trying to find out why he won't have sex with you, hence why you're here.

As far as his porn collection, he doesn't need to have DVDs in his house when its free online......there are quite a few sites that have free porn.

You should just tell him straight up......we're either gonna have a healthy sexual relationship or you can marry your pocket pussy after I walk out the door.

Can you imagine a guy in your situation.......I wanna have sex with my gf but she tells me she's tired, but she tells me when I leave the house, she's gonna break out a king Kong dildo & go to town on her wet pussy, haha!

Actually, most guys would ask if they can stay & watch the show, lmao!

 

[Ineedanswers2015]

I hate to masturbate......i need sexual contact with a woman.

I had a cousin that had a problem with masturbation, he claimed to have masturbated 7 times in one day, & he's a good looking guy that can attract women easily.


It seems that you want to stay with this guy, & you're trying to find a reason to stay with him......or you're trying to find out why he won't have sex with you, hence why you're here.

As far as his porn collection, he doesn't need to have DVDs in his house when its free online......there are quite a few sites that have free porn.

You should just tell him straight up......we're either gonna have a healthy sexual relationship or you can marry your pocket pussy after I walk out the door.

Can you imagine a guy in your situation.......I wanna have sex with my gf but she tells me she's tired, but she tells me when I leave the house, she's gonna break out a king Kong dildo & go to town on her wet pussy, haha!

Actually, most guys would ask if they can stay & watch the show, lmao!

or you're trying to find out why he won't have sex with you, hence why you're here.

TheLostBoys,
Indeed!
No staying with him, because he has cut all communication with me, so we are no longer seeing one another. I was just trying to understand this guy a little to help me accept it a little better.
Seriously, we are not communicating anymore, so definitely no physical contact in several weeks.

I think the pocket pussy is working for him! LOL
But, just think! The pocket pussy doesn't bitch or nag him about ANYTHING! She is perfect!

 

[smackydowners]

maybe he's gay. he likes crystal meth and doesnt like girls so there's 2 of the criteria just there...

seriously, you should move on

 

[Ineedanswers2015]

maybe he's gay. he likes crystal meth and doesnt like girls so there's 2 of the criteria just there...

seriously, you should move on

I have thought about that too?
He "says" that he isn't, and I don't see any obvious signs, but I could be wrong?
Either way - he ain't into ME!

You are right, and I appreciate your honesty!

 

[PriestTheyCalledHim]

Maybe he prefers masturbation to sex? Or when he's tweaking he prefers to watch porn rather than have sex with anyone?

I have met people who are both types of people the first group does not use drugs, and the 2nd group does and uses meth or coke.

Why are you still worrying about this guy? I thought you were no longer going to think about him, or even communicate with him?

 

[-=SS=-]

Dude evidently has a problem. You're wasted on him. What kind of man would rather jerk off in a plastic sleeve than have a real experience with a partner, honestly.

No one should lower themselves to competing with that. He has a problem, not you. Move on and find someone else.

 

[Ineedanswers2015]

Maybe he prefers masturbation to sex? Or when he's tweaking he prefers to watch porn rather than have sex with anyone?

I have met people who are both types of people the first group does not use drugs, and the 2nd group does and uses meth or coke.

Why are you still worrying about this guy? I thought you were no longer going to think about him, or even communicate with him?

True!
Oh, no! We are no longer communicating. I was just wondering why he was like this.
Thanks to everyone's help, I am slowly feeling better about the situation.
Seriously, he stopped communicating with me when I told him that I knew that he was a meth addict. I'm pretty sure that we will not be seeing one another again.
Just trying to understand if maybe I was the problem instead?
Thank you for your honest feedback.

 

[Ineedanswers2015]

Dude evidently has a problem. You're wasted on him. What kind of man would rather jerk off in a plastic sleeve than have a real experience with a partner, honestly.

No one should lower themselves to competing with that. He has a problem, not you. Move on and find someone else.

I agree that lowering yourself to that is HORRIBLE!
All that I could think was, "what in the world am I doing here then?" He talked a big game, but couldn't play it in the end.
But, the pocket pussy has no expectations or questions. For him, I think this might be his only option? He doesn't want to deal with a woman in bed or in a relationship.
I am moving on and starting to realize the blessing that he has stopped talking to me.
Thank you.

 

[socko]

Aw!
That is very kind. I appreciate that, socko!
Wow! Hey - hey!
I'm in the southeast (AL/GA/FL area)!

I just can't seem to think highly enough of myself to move away from these guys? Plus, I have no children.
Maybe the problem is my low self-esteem?

I was in a similar situation as you with an xgf "Psycho Suzie." She had a secret meth habit. She was having all kinds of behaviour problems and was abusive. I didn't realize she was on meth until a known dealer accosted her (I was surprised that he knew her and knew her name) and offered her some in front of me. I had low self esteem as well because of the hellish childhood that I had survived. I know now to stay away from that type.

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