Craigslist hookups

[dankplantgrower]

Greetings everyone. Do any Bluelighters know anything about the craigslist sex scene, and the etiquette? I havent had sex for like 3 months and I dont really go clubbing any more, so Ive been looking for some lovin. Yesterday I posted a description of myself in the "casual encounters" section, basically just posted my age and described what I look like (camera phone broken). I was out running around town, and by the time I got home to check my email, the girl who responded to me must have already found her fix. She didnt call me after I emailed her back with my number (it was a couple hours before I got back to her), which bummed me out. So have any of you Bluelighters done the CL hookup? Is there any rules or advice you would give for someone looking to get connected on CL? Any craigslist etiquette to know about that will increase my chances? Or even just some funny stories about CL hookups. Im gonna try again later, hopefully with a more effective hook next time.

 

[Pretty_Diamonds]

I think you need to post a pic. Even if it's just your body, like a chest pic--you'd get more responses. Definitely say that you're straight, what fetishes you're into and NOT into (cuz girls be crazy), no STDs, wear protection,... maybe even suggest a actual date beforehand if you're hesitant or nervous?

I don't have any funny stories, more sad stories.. my classmate did a study of CL hookups (psychology). Merely posted an ad and analyzed the responses.. which some got pretty sad. Anyhow, totally unethical and was NOT approved by any board what so ever but very interesting stuff. Sad stuff, I mean.

 

[dankplantgrower]

No sad stories please lol... The casual sex boards are chock full of people, so meeting like this must be somewhat common. Im gonna have to get up a picture one way or another, my older pics dont have as much muscle as I do now. But Ill probably be trying this again over the weekend, Ill update the thread if anything happens. Im not expecting anything great, it seems there are quite a few BBW posting on the woman' side of things, heh. Fuck it though, now Im intent on doing it just to see what its like. Also a lot of them appear pretty freaky on the womens request page, which goes along with your fetish comment. Looks like ol dankplantgrower could possibly be getting into some crazy sex toy madness with a chubby lady this weekend, haha...

 

[Pretty_Diamonds]

Well, your title should be something like, 25yrold attractive M looking for F--vanilla sex, no STDs, will wear protection, pics before meet.

It's very blunt and they even have abbreviations for everything which I can't remember cuz the study was done several years ago.

 

[Black Rabbit of Inle]

I've used CL before when I was working. A lot of the replies were from bots/spammers trying to get you to sign up for various dating websites to see their pictures, because, (actual quote)'They can't attach them to emails'.

When they were genuine people, I noticed that (there's no nice way to put this) they were nearly always 'bottom of the barrel' type people.

m4f Fit guy looking for NSA fun. Send pictures with emails (recent <6 months)

Don't forget to add if you can host or not, if you can travel (if you can't host) and what you're looking to do.

 

[One Thousand Words]

If you are a straight guy looking for a nice girl for no strings attached then CL will be a disappointment. Most women who fall into this category will never have to stoop that low. Most will just need to dress up one day at work and some one will put their hand up to full fill their needs.

You are better off swallowing your pride and hitting a bar or club for the night. Your chances of being robbed or disappointed will be diminished.

 

[Corazon]

If you are a straight guy looking for a nice girl for no strings attached then CL will be a disappointment. Most women who fall into this category will never have to stoop that low. Most will just need to dress up one day at work and some one will put their hand up to full fill their needs.

You are better off swallowing your pride and hitting a bar or club for the night. Your chances of being robbed or disappointed will be diminished.

i've heard of this being an issue. I think the warning I was given = that if a hookup sounds too good to be true, it probably is...

 

[Pretty_Diamonds]

Yeah ^. I agree. Go in solo (maybe bring a friend), get up chatting and get some digits! Work up from there. Quality takes time.

+ There's so much other new causal sex sites that all the hotties went to. No offense, but CL is kind of outdated. Sry, I don't know any of these other sites but maybe someone else does and can chime in.

 

[dankplantgrower]

Thanks for the advice everyone, Im realizing that this might not be the best way for some strange... Still gonna try it though, now that Im curious about it. I do realize those hookup sites are probably much better, but I believe you need a monthly subscription to utilize those services. Im probably just going to break down and hit up the club this weekend.. I guess what I was really trying to avoid was having to dress up real nice, buy a bunch of overpriced drinks, bumble around crowded clubs with shitty music and look for people to dance with. I just want some quick lovin without the hassle, but seems like you gotta put in some work for it if youre not in a relationship. I aint ready for that again either though...

Ill report back sometime over the next few days when I seal the deal on Craigslist. Im also probably going to look into buying a subscription to a hookup site too...

 

[Animal Mother]

Look.
I"m going to tell you this. I'm pretty hot. Muscly, good looking, AND well endowed. I've told you all of this so that you can understand how shallow I can afford to be. Knowing my level of shallow-ality, you'll understand where I'm coming from when I say "Hot" I have met and fucked 3 HOT bitches from craigslist. The simple truth of the matter is that both women and men look at one another and sometimes immediately think of how they'd like to fuck the hell out of the other. Craigslist gives you the opportunity to skip the beating around the bush. So, yes, all sorts of people are on craigslist.

I usually put a pic of of my body, and confidently say that I am hung and that I'll bang them like some discovery channel shit. I tend to find a girl about every other time, and it's just a matter of deciding whether or not they are to your liking at that point.

 

[T. Calderone]

The casual sex boards are chock full of people, so meeting like this must be somewhat common. Im gonna have to get up a picture one way or another, my older pics dont have as much muscle as I do now.

Meeting like this is not uncommon but use your common sense. Get a photo and talk to the girl over the phone before agreeing to meet.
Don't worry about your older pics not showing your muscle tone, she's not likely interested in that anyway. Use a condom and be safe.

 

[DrunkardsDream]

If you are a straight guy looking for a nice girl for no strings attached then CL will be a disappointment. Most women who fall into this category will never have to stoop that low. Most will just need to dress up one day at work and some one will put their hand up to full fill their needs.

You are better off swallowing your pride and hitting a bar or club for the night. Your chances of being robbed or disappointed will be diminished.

I have hetero male friends who would post on Craigslist in both the men for women section and the casual encounters/NSA hook up section and they said how they got a lot of spam, game players, gay men who were desperate and thinking that hetero/straight guys actually wanted them and have sex with men, prostitutes or undercover police posing as prostitutes, and the women they did meet who were real were rather busted, ugly, and fat.

 

[tomdpimp]

Try to respond to some of the couples ads. Sometime you get much better responses. Many swinger connections want to swap or do the cuckold game.

 

[Fyfm]

Hmmm..
I think the way to get there attention is not through a pic. for work when I advertise I don't show pictures until iv got there complete attention. You need eye catching post something that's different not a hi my names 25 from blah blah blah. Think of something that gets them intrigued and curious. And tell them something that you can offer besides the typical physical relation and someone to talk to.
I probably get more clientele then most because of how Iv advertised.
I'm new to blue light so if there's a way you can private msg me i can send u wat I say when I advertise and you've got an idea you can play around with it if you like.

Xx

 

[lola]

If you want good quality cute ladies who just want to have fun (like me! I used CL a few times and even have a long term fwb I met this way) I'll tell you how I scan ads:
1. Good spelling, good grammar. Just because I want your cock doesn't mean I'm going to fuck an illiterate moron. Ladies got standards!
2. Pic is nice but it HAS to include a face, or write you're happy to send a face pic to genuine posters. If you decide to have a non-face pic have a nice one of your torso, ideally showing off tattoos if you've got them. Cock pics without context are NOT sexy; I never respond to men who have their cocks out like that. Have some class ffs.
3. Face the fact that the women have the power. CL is like going shopping - I can pick almost anyone I like for casual sex, because there are so many more men than women who'd be up for it and because I'm a quality chick. So why should I choose you? Write something interesting and unusual. More than anything, I'll contact a guy who can make me smile.
4. Keep it cheese-and-sleaze-free. Just because we want to fuck each other's brains out doesn't mean we need to speak in clichés. If you use formulaic language I'd be expecting formulaic fucking, whereas creativity guarantees interesting times

 

[angeleyes]

I usually put a pic of of my body, and confidently say that I am hung and that I'll bang them like some discovery channel shit.

HAHAHAHAHAHA YES!!

CL is outdated, true, more likely to get a much better response from a local dating site/porn site with a meet up option or webcam and hope it goes well.

It's been a few days though, have you got the funky monkey on yet?

 

[Animal Mother]

HAHAHAHAHAHA YES!!

CL is outdated, true, more likely to get a much better response from a local dating site/porn site with a meet up option or webcam and hope it goes well.

It's been a few days though, have you got the funky monkey on yet?

Haha. It def help real if I had my license!

I've got a hot girl lined up and she knows all about my predicament and is down. This weekend is going down! We should make a new personal site.

 

[exy34]

If you are ready to avoid usual Craigs List "catches" , and if you are not looking for some very hot chick, you may have luck to find something "average".

Any case, be careful and always use condom. Always have prepaired escape strategy because some females post their old (10 years ago) pictures, lie for ages etc. Some are baby hunters. Some are really crazy, but from my experience, on every 5-6 meeting you will find one decent.

Also don't pay for anything ,a lot of scammers use cl to ask you for money in any form, so basically just be patient and careful and you will find something time by time...

 

[Animal Mother]

I think that I might check out some of those other sites that were listed on that onenightstand thing

 

[Animal Mother]

Eh, nevermind. You have to sign up for them. Fuck that.



Why don't we just make a new personal site just like craigslist? I mean, can it be that hard?