Ugh that sucks, hik, but it sounds like most of the people in your town are good people who know that everyone has struggles. I'm thankful I live in a large city in which it is incredibly easy to "disappear" in. I mean, I've lived in the downtown area for most of my adult life and, being an outgoing bartender, I know more people than most, but my addiction is still my personal info, for the most part anyways. I'm also fortunate to be struggling with an addiction that so many in this country are struggling with and there's a lot of press about. People are starting to understand that addiction is a disease/disorder more than a shitty character trait and I'm thankful for that. Sure, there's still those people out there (who I generally have found have either NO ONE in their life struggling with addiction, to their knowledge anyways, or have been wronged severely by someone with addiction in the past and have a tough time forgiving others), but we've come a long way from the way we treated addictions even just a couple of years ago.
Honestly, I hate my bfs parents and always have...they're fucking shitty. They're racists, homophobes...they're starting to become insane even...believing in "Pizzagate", q-anon, and all this other hardcore right wing non-sense. My boyfriend couldn't be more different...thank god, and i honestly don't think they would even like him if he weren't their son. Having terrible people like that hate me doesnt bother me, but I'm just worried about things in the future because my boyfriend is very very close with his family, despite their shitty attitudes, and they're very involved in each other's lives. He's stubborn as shit and I know nothing they ever say about me is going to change how he feels about me, if anything their bad remarks about me are just pushing him further away from them and towards me even more. Also, I am upset because I actually used to really like his brother and he and his brother are incredibly close, the best of friends, and he refuses to even be in the same room as me. Can I also note that his brother is currently reconciling with a girl he dated years ago who faked a pregnancy, fake sonogram and all, to try and keep him...my bf hates her but respects his brother's decision so he's kind to her and makes her feel welcome in their home...and my bf has pointed out just how hypocritical he's being to him, that he hates the girl he's about to get back with, but loves him and wants his happiness, so he'll accept her...but he won't accept me because I am recovering from addiction? I wish we didn't have to deal with any of this...i've never had this problem before...I'm a nice girl and, I'll say it, a good girlfriend and every single I've been in in the past has been with a person who's family absolutely adored me. I'm still friends, to this day, with the parents and siblings of a couple of my exes. Shit, I went to the wedding of the guy I was with for 7 years and his parents wanted me and my date to sit WITH THEM at their table because they loved me so much. This is new territory for me. Ugh, thanks for all the advice guys. I'm just dealing with it, I guess, and hopefully time will either kill these miserable bastards (I shouldn't say that...that would destroy my bf) or they'll learn to deal with me.
