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Girlfriend in 6 year relationship just broke up with me after my cancer diagnosis and 6 month chemotherapy.

i know one thing, the chemo was worse than any detox or rehab I've gone to (5)
 
Sergeant Absent said:
Pleased to meet you by the way Abbey. My brain was already in a compromised state after the chemo (6 months Folfox-4) and piping is doing mad shit to my paranoia, almost full on visual hallucinations of small people in the corner of the room
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Pleased to meet you too.

So 98 hours is 4 days.. And you said you're 42 or am I making that up? You'd be feeling really rough 😕 The visuals yeah.. I tend to do 3 nights on meth and my vision gets so weird.

I don't really know what to say to help but I'm still here.
 
But why would she wait untill now? Honestly answer, I know I'm being centralised and she's not here to defend, but I've asked 6 people what their view is and they all 6 of them said that's a cunt that didn't love you
 
Yes you're right I'm 42, It's surprising how quickly you adjust to substances you didn't touch for a decade
 
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I keep asking myself why I need the true reason, is it that they laugh more together, I know for a fact the sex will be better because I'm always on 3 or 4 meds a day minimum
 
Dude, I don't exactly know what to say that will help but just want to say that I've been there, kind of. No chemo for me but I was in hospital in a pretty severe state when my girlfriend left me. That was about a year ago and I'd like to say it isn't any less heartbreaking now but it has got easier. It slowed up my recovery massively at the time so I get where you're coming from. I don't want to assume anything, your girl may have loved you a lot for all I know. In my situation she just couldn't cope any longer with what I was putting her through. Harsh but actually very understandable. I'm not standing up for your ex at all, I obviously don't know her. Sometimes people just have to do shit for themselves and that is fucking harsh for the other person. Hang in there. Unfortunately time is the answer, it's all so raw now. Lay off the drugs if you can. Where were you staying before you got the hotel room? Go stay with someone if you can. This is not a time to be alone.
 
AbbeyLee said:
Pleased to meet you too.

So 98 hours is 4 days.. And you said you're 42 or am I making that up? You'd be feeling really rough 😕 The visuals yeah.. I tend to do 3 nights on meth and my vision gets so weird.

I don't really know what to say to help but I'm still here.
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I just pressed report instead of reply for fucksake .All it said was I'm on 0(+44)7477159324 if anyone want to talk, I can talk coherently, I'm not fallig over and all that, I'm also not fishing but If anyone wants to hear what happened, with no no obligation to strategize or offer a counselling session then feel free, I'm up all night (10pm UK)
Crash Override said:
Dude, I don't exactly know what to say that will help but just want to say that I've been there, kind of. No chemo for me but I was in hospital in a pretty severe state when my girlfriend left me. That was about a year ago and I'd like to say it isn't any less heartbreaking now but it has got easier. It slowed up my recovery massively at the time so I get where you're coming from. I don't want to assume anything, your girl may have loved you a lot for all I know. In my situation she just couldn't cope any longer with what I was putting her through. Harsh but actually very understandable. I'm not standing up for your ex at all, I obviously don't know her. Sometimes people just have to do shit for themselves and that is fucking harsh for the other person. Hang in there. Unfortunately time is the answer, it's all so raw now. Lay off the drugs if you can. Where were you staying before you got the hotel room? Go stay with someone if you can. This is not a time to be alone.
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I was at my mums but I told her I wanna be alone away from home
 
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arrall said:
@Sergeant Absent FYI, it looks like you reported a post when you meant to reply to it. I strongly discourage you from posting your phone number in a public thread.
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Yes that's exactly what happened. I take note of your point,, and honestly with the greatest respect in the world I don't mind who rings me, I pretty down man
 
@Sergeant Absent You can speculate on whether or not your girlfriend did or did not care about you, but at the end of the day what's done is done. I don't know if she left because of your drug use or if anything is being left out here, I don't know the situation.

Crash Override said:
Dude, I don't exactly know what to say that will help but just want to say that I've been there, kind of. No chemo for me but I was in hospital in a pretty severe state when my girlfriend left me. That was about a year ago and I'd like to say it isn't any less heartbreaking now but it has got easier. It slowed up my recovery massively at the time so I get where you're coming from. I don't want to assume anything, your girl may have loved you a lot for all I know. In my situation she just couldn't cope any longer with what I was putting her through. Harsh but actually very understandable. I'm not standing up for your ex at all, I obviously don't know her. Sometimes people just have to do shit for themselves and that is fucking harsh for the other person. Hang in there. Unfortunately time is the answer, it's all so raw now. Lay off the drugs if you can. Where were you staying before you got the hotel room? Go stay with someone if you can. This is not a time to be alone.
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@Crash Override gave you some excellent advice.

Try to take a break from the drugs and get some sleep, your body needs to recover especially after cancer and chemo. Find some real-life company if you can. Hope you feel better man.
 
The main qualities I think I would look for in a partner would be decent values. I understand that it’s probably harder nowadays. I’m sorry for what had happened to you. It must have come as both a shock combined with with feelings of unacceptance which really hurts. It’ll take time to shake off that’s for sure.
Please don’t use alone while you’re in a fragile state of mind. You DO have other people in your life who do love you and you have a responsibility to them to stay alive and stay strong.
Good luck and I hope you find peace soon.

With love.
 
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Crash Override said:
Think you could go back there? When we tell people we want to be alone that's often when we shouldn't be.
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true, but this blowout was a decision I made sober and.....I don't knnow...it's a cliche it's numbin the pain I really loved her
 
I'm not suicidal, but I intend to pursue the pipe and the whisky minimum
 
Sergeant Absent said:
Yes that's exactly what happened. I take note of your point,, and honestly with the greatest respect in the world I don't mind who rings me, I pretty down man
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I only have an iPhone and after 3 days on meth I have so much trouble clicking things it's ridiculous. So I had to laugh at you reporting accidentally ☺️


Sergeant Absent said:
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true, but this blowout was a decision I made sober and.....I don't knnow...it's a cliche it's numbin the pain I really loved her
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Crash Override has a good point. I need to take that advice and go back to my mum's soon because I'm doing the same sort of thing.
 
Decisions made while sober aren't always right! I get it man, I really do. There's no doubt you did and do love her. That won't go away any time soon but you're going to have to face up to this and deal with it eventually. Can't stay drugged and drunk forever.
 
AbbeyLee said:
I only have an iPhone and after 3 days on meth I have so much trouble clicking things it's ridiculous. So I had to laugh at you reporting accidentally
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If you wanna call I'm used to listening to people with shit going on in their mouth. I"m not trying anything on here I know you're wise enough to know I'm not here chasing women. Call if you want, might be quite funny. Or don't and the day will be funny anyway.:)
arrall said:
@Sergeant Absent You can speculate on whether or not your girlfriend did or did not care about you, but at the end of the day what's done is done. I don't know if she left because of your drug use or if anything is being left out here, I don't know the situation.


@Crash Override gave you some excellent advice.

Try to take a break from the drugs and get some sleep, your body needs to recover especially after cancer and chemo. Find some real-life company if you can. Hope you feel better man.
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Well said, thankyou.
 
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