Online Dating: Shameful last resort or an untapped resource?

[pofacedhoe]

for me it just feels disconnected and i'm over picky and very looks orientated and in real life thats easier to overcome but online it seems to bring out the worst elements of my filter

 

[Captain.Heroin]

i'm over picky

^ then wait for someone to approach you

 

[PeaceLoveGlitter]

Theres nothing wrong with online dating. Sure there are the seeds, but plenty of wondeful people who find dating hard are there as well. It shouldn't considered a last resort but rather an alternate option. And hey, at least you know they're looking!

 

[Pagey]

^Yep. Plus I'm sure a ton of people go through that route that would never admit it...definitely more than you'd think. I mean just look at bluelight even and all the behind-the-scenes flirting that goes on here!

 

[Max Power]

my problem with online dating is ... too many choices.

and yet you still can't get laid. tough life.


Online dating adds an interesting avenue to people that was not available to prior generations. Regardless of whether you believe in 'soul mates' or not, online dating gives you access to potential partners you would have otherwise had 0% chance of meeting in real life. Anything that exponentially increases your encounters with the opposite [or same, in your case kayholed] sex gets you that much closer to finding someone with all the ideal qualities you're looking for in a mate. If you live in some bumfuck town with ~1000 people in it, you can't possibly expect to find 'the one' there. (or if there isn't a one, someone who gets pretty damn close.)

Whatever.

At the end of the day, you have nothing to lose. Bad decisions make for good stories.

 

[tamarinds]

Alpha males dont hide behind a computer to get women.

 

[kaywholed]

Alpha males dont hide behind a computer to get women.

They used to say that about murder, now we have Predator drones.

 

[pofacedhoe]

^ then wait for someone to approach you

the ones that do are butters and 45-95yrs. thing is that i'm not sure how well i come across in photo's but i do get attention in real life from men and women as i'm tall relatively fresh faced and i tend to blurt out quite a lot or sing in the street (some people reading this will be wanting me dead). basically i'm full of joy but photo's dont display that well.

the whole thing is frustrating and i've pulled before in a straight club so i just need to get the guts to go after all these buff london dudes that i keep getting the eye off on the tube or bus.

i need game

i have met cool guys off the net and had 3 or 4 different month long sex flings where we hang out and have sex but never anything that could have progressed into more.

i need real life guts and game, i'm embarrassed to say. there was one guy the other day and he was with these other gay dudes and he kept looking at me and i really could have gone for it but i didn't know my own mobile number to dish it out/if any of them were his boyfriend. business cards might be the solution so that no matter how drunk i am i can appear like have it together.

i need social confidence but as i have from a young age had something you could label aspergers it makes it hard for me to trust my intuitions as i've been a fool more than once

They used to say that about murder, now we have Predator drones.

yes!!!

 

[tamarinds]

A 9 year old girl could control a drone from her iphone.


What kinda man kills another with a drone operated from hundreds to thousands of miles away? Pussy ass bitch scared of breaking a nail or getting up out the lazy boy.

Yall dont know

 

[RedRum OG]

I feel like there must be guys online that are decent in every aspect, as decent guys usually get ignored

However as a straight guy this doesn't help me

And I feel like every girl on there must be god awful ugly or totally insane, because even terrible girls get hit on IRL enough that they wouldn't need to go online

 

[Pagey]

^What if she's just really shy and it's easier for her to meet/flirt with people online? I'm sure there are lots of perfectly pretty and great women that go for internet dating just because they find it less daunting or whatever

 

[Illyria99]

I've done the sex thing on Craigslist but I've never tried dating online.

It's tempting...

 

[Lysis]

I feel like there must be guys online that are decent in every aspect, as decent guys usually get ignored

However as a straight guy this doesn't help me

And I feel like every girl on there must be god awful ugly or totally insane, because even terrible girls get hit on IRL enough that they wouldn't need to go online

A lot of losers hit on girls IRL too.

 

[34-dihydroxyphen]

I feel like there must be guys online that are decent in every aspect, as decent guys usually get ignored

However as a straight guy this doesn't help me

And I feel like every girl on there must be god awful ugly or totally insane, because even terrible girls get hit on IRL enough that they wouldn't need to go online

Girls generally don't like to fuck dudes who are in or associated with their circle of friends, so they go online to get laid without the fear of social stigma they would otherwise face for fucking their friend Stacey's brother or whoever. It allows them to behave like human beings about sex instead of having to pretend they are any different from males all the time, hence, plenty of hot women online.

Plus, at some places, they get to list their fetishes.

 

[Pagey]

Plus, at some places, they get to list their fetishes.

Very good point.

 

[RedRum OG]

You all make valid points however I don't know if I could ever put my penis, or emotions, into some girl I met online

You just never really know, some can be really good at hiding the crazy until its too late, and some STDs don't always show.....

I mean I guess that applies to real life as well. But I've always felt much safer meeting someone through a friend, for drugs, sex, relationship, whatever

 

[TheJasnSensation]

My mother and stepfather met on CatholicSingles.com 12 years ago. Theyve been married for 10.

My roommate uses OKcupid and PlentOfFish and he gets laid from those sites. But he uses it strictly for that. However, one of those girls is a very close friend of his now, a friends with benefits type relationship, but regardless, they are very very very good friends! I think that is great. It started out as just a sex thing, but quickly turned into a close friendship, with some sex involved

Nothing wrong with meeting people online. Everyone is (hopefully) and adult on there.

You get to see (in writing) what the person is all about, their interests/likes, things you might have in common with. I think it is great!

Go for it, nothing to be shameful about, or embarrassed.

Goodluck!

 

[purplefirefly]

Alpha males dont hide behind a computer to get women.

How is it hiding? It's being smart because online dating completely opens up the dating pool.

I went online to find a partner because I moved back to an area where I lived most of my life and wanted to find someone that I didn't know my entire life and it worked out really well.

 

[pofacedhoe]

A 9 year old girl could control a drone from her iphone.


What kinda man kills another with a drone operated from hundreds to thousands of miles away? Pussy ass bitch scared of breaking a nail or getting up out the lazy boy.

Yall dont know

some guy from my old job was applying to be a drone controller in the uk. hes an idiot.

 

[Derschieber]

Online dating...I accidentally fell in love with someone online some years back...we met during a debate on youtube of all places...she lives half-way around the globe. We could not resolve some critical issues, and we ended the relationship...she was an Arab girl with strong African looks...and after some months passed (heartbroken), I decided to find my partner online in June last year. And I did straight away...I wanted an African Girl (ideally), and went onto a site catering to exactly my taste... The very first girl I contacted turned out to be the most lovely and kind-hearted person imaginable...we fell in love and plan to marry this year...

Skype makes it all happen...we sleep together online connected via skype... It's crazy...I know...I have fallen in love head over heels online without ever meeting the other in person...before that happened, I would have scoffed at the notion that it's even possible.,..but it's entirely possible of course. I have met and grown to love her family like my own...though they are on the other side of the globe...it's fantastic.


I think on-line dating is great for finding a life-partner from other countries especially...my Ashy-footed Habashi is just adorable...and so pretty...wouldn't look at ordinary White girls again...loool...don't take this the wrong way...my tastes simply changed after that Arabi...so online was the way to go for me...worked out very well...and frankly, it's amazing the attitudes from other cultures, in comparison to our own...makes me cringe at the thought of having to make do with a local girl...hahaha sad but true...a good wife may be found anywhere I'm sure yea yea yea...good luck with that...

Isn't it great not to be broken-hearted? I think it is...
Best wishes you all...