Moderator: M&ED, EADD, NASADD
- Nov 9, 2013
Unfortunately, I fear that the biggest problem with my kids is that they've inherited their dad's faulty genes. That's what scares me the most...
You just beat me to the punch - its nature and nurture and as long as you continue to strive to be the best dad you could be the genetics, even if they are a factor are never going to be a game breaker.I don't believe a person's fate is determined by their genes. People turn out the way they do due to experiences, particularly in early life, so raise your kids well, as I'm sure you do, and screw genes
My father went above and beyond with regards to raising me (as did my mother before the screws started to loosen) and while he is largely liberal about my drug use it is not something he has ever been into, with the exception of a couple of bongs he agreed to have a blast on since he was taken hostage by my mother when she lost it. If there is a genetic pre - disposition towards substance abuse in my family, it is from my mothers side - my aunt was on the wagon by the time she was 23 due to how serious her alcoholism was and she has not had a drink since while my youngest uncle has been an alcohol dependant for 25 years. My other uncle preferred cannabis and also used cocaine which almost certainly ct ontributed towards his premature death back in 2005 and as they all live or used to live in the Republic of Ireland, they all have had life long bzd Rx's (my uncle who has passed away used to take Bromazepam, my younger uncle has a repeat diazepam script while my aunt has spent the last 2 decades on both alprazolam and tramadol).
Regardless of any predisposition on my part however it has been my arrogance, greed and naivety that has landed me in the situation I now find myself as my ultimate belief is that my parents are completely responsible for all of my positive character traits where I alone am responsible for developing all of the negative aspects.