Yup. Bioenergetics, primal screaming.does anyone out there know any methods that aren't self-destructive to vent that, I don't know how to say this,angry pressure I seem to feel all the time that the needle used to fix. I'm clean right now but If I don't find something I don't know how long I can make it.
Maybe imagine what you'd do to him in your head, like watching it happen in a 3D real-life soap opera. Especially try to imagine how satisfying it would feel to do it, the sounds, the intensity, etc - really get your heart rate up, like you'd actually done it. Then, once you've done that mental simulation for a while, take some deep breaths and see if you feel like some of the tension has now gone. I personally find it quite cathartic to do that.Anyone have methods to calm down in this situation? (other than drugs) All I can think about are ways I'm going to fuck him up
Swallow your shadow otherwise it will follow.I spent most of my life thinking I was a peaceful, "nice guy" (urgh - I cringe now at that), who attempted to present to people an easy going persona. HELL NO, I'm a fucking raging demon inside escaping from a humungous volcano spurting lava in all directions. Yet, I did nothing at all to acknowledge this demon, emotionally, intellectually and spiritually. I have suffered for decades as a consequence for denial of my anger. I was brought up to believe anger is not acceptable, I just had to put up and shut up. Thinking about it now which may be another reason to why I stutter sometimes, this friction between the ego and anger is intense.
I've only recently started my journey of looking into my anger, through the works of Carl Jung with shadow work. We all have a shadow side, that we suppress as it's so uncomfortable, so we bury it. Looking at the darker side of who we are, allowing it to be expressed in a healthy manner, through physical sports, writing and art is so important to release blocked emotions.
Exactly.I have a temper problem.
Well, when i get mad it goes away quickly, and i don't blow up at small things, but i feel like i compartmentalize the anger and it seeps out when i least expect it. I end up fucking Screaming at someone for something trivial, like most recently, asking where my lighter went, or telling someone to "suck my dick" just for being in the same room as me.
I go for long walks, which helps, but nothing seems to be able to tame the inevitable blow up.
Should i let it out earlier, by acknowledging i am angry when i am angry initially?