muzby
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have you ever helped anyone make a choice that would effect their life from then on?
as an example...
have you ever talked a friend out of suicide?
have you ever given anyone advice regarding an unwanted pregnancy?
what are the effects of introducing a friend of yours to drugs?
have you ever cheered someone up when they were feeling really down?
i'll start this thread with a little story of mine, which is what really got me thinking about this topic... and hopefully give people an idea of the sort of thing i am talking about...
okay, (i'll try keep it short and sweet..) when i was at uni, i used to travel round the country going to careers markets (you know the ones you went to when you were in yrs 11 & 12, usually held in sports stadiums or big school halls where all the unis, police & army etc would give you info on their courses..)
anyways, i was at one in cronulla one time, and i spent a good 30 minutes talking to this girl about canberra uni... on our uni open day (about 3 months later) i was working as a tour guide, and she came up to me, and asked me to show her around the campus... i didnt recognize her, but she recognized me, and metioned that she had spoken to me at cronulla.. when i asked why she had come all the way down here for open day, she said it was because i had said she should come...
flash forward now to the start of the next uni year, i was at the bar, and i see the same girl, she came up and said hi, and said she had just started studying at canberra uni.... she said she loved what i showed her on the tour, so she came..
about 3 months later, she approached me again just to thank me for helping her make the decision to come to the uni.. she was having the time of her life and was so happy that she came here.... and she said she wouldnt have if it wasnt for me...
/end rambling story...
this got me thinking, as uni was a huge part of my life, my growing up, experimenting, living, having fun and making life long friends.... so, my guidance to get this girl to come to canberra uni has determined where and who she will come into contact with these growing points as well... and that kinda scared me.... i mean, that is a big life changing choice...
so it got me kinda thinking again... when i moved to sydney, i chose to live in newtown... here, i met my old housemate who is one of my best friends, almost like a brother to me... what made me like newtown was a footy trip to sydney when i was in yr 12, we stayed in newtown.. up to that point, i had never heard of the suburb in my life... so, if the coach had booked the accomodation in another suburb, i would never have met my mate...
i could go on and on with little stories like that, but i dont wanna bore yas...
so basically, i would like to:
a) thank everyone who i have met over the course of my life who has had an effect in making me the person i am today... these people would probably not be reading bluelight, and would probably not even know the effect they had on my life, cause, like when i was workign for the uni, i was just doing my job...
b) apologize to everyone that i have intentionally hurt through living my life.. just like having a good effect on people, i know just how much i have been effected by people that i have trusted hurting me... i now have a very hard, protective shell around myself, and wont let people get close.... i just hope i havent caused this sort of shell around anyone else through my actions..
c) offer advice to everyone... your actions, no matter how small or minute they may seem will have a lasting effect on people.. even if you dont realise it....
holy shit that was a PLURy post...
as an example...
have you ever talked a friend out of suicide?
have you ever given anyone advice regarding an unwanted pregnancy?
what are the effects of introducing a friend of yours to drugs?
have you ever cheered someone up when they were feeling really down?
i'll start this thread with a little story of mine, which is what really got me thinking about this topic... and hopefully give people an idea of the sort of thing i am talking about...
okay, (i'll try keep it short and sweet..) when i was at uni, i used to travel round the country going to careers markets (you know the ones you went to when you were in yrs 11 & 12, usually held in sports stadiums or big school halls where all the unis, police & army etc would give you info on their courses..)
anyways, i was at one in cronulla one time, and i spent a good 30 minutes talking to this girl about canberra uni... on our uni open day (about 3 months later) i was working as a tour guide, and she came up to me, and asked me to show her around the campus... i didnt recognize her, but she recognized me, and metioned that she had spoken to me at cronulla.. when i asked why she had come all the way down here for open day, she said it was because i had said she should come...
flash forward now to the start of the next uni year, i was at the bar, and i see the same girl, she came up and said hi, and said she had just started studying at canberra uni.... she said she loved what i showed her on the tour, so she came..
about 3 months later, she approached me again just to thank me for helping her make the decision to come to the uni.. she was having the time of her life and was so happy that she came here.... and she said she wouldnt have if it wasnt for me...
/end rambling story...
this got me thinking, as uni was a huge part of my life, my growing up, experimenting, living, having fun and making life long friends.... so, my guidance to get this girl to come to canberra uni has determined where and who she will come into contact with these growing points as well... and that kinda scared me.... i mean, that is a big life changing choice...
so it got me kinda thinking again... when i moved to sydney, i chose to live in newtown... here, i met my old housemate who is one of my best friends, almost like a brother to me... what made me like newtown was a footy trip to sydney when i was in yr 12, we stayed in newtown.. up to that point, i had never heard of the suburb in my life... so, if the coach had booked the accomodation in another suburb, i would never have met my mate...
i could go on and on with little stories like that, but i dont wanna bore yas...
so basically, i would like to:
a) thank everyone who i have met over the course of my life who has had an effect in making me the person i am today... these people would probably not be reading bluelight, and would probably not even know the effect they had on my life, cause, like when i was workign for the uni, i was just doing my job...
b) apologize to everyone that i have intentionally hurt through living my life.. just like having a good effect on people, i know just how much i have been effected by people that i have trusted hurting me... i now have a very hard, protective shell around myself, and wont let people get close.... i just hope i havent caused this sort of shell around anyone else through my actions..
c) offer advice to everyone... your actions, no matter how small or minute they may seem will have a lasting effect on people.. even if you dont realise it....
holy shit that was a PLURy post...