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would you still stay w/ your sibling after they get a boyfriend?

zzITCHY420zz

zzITCHY420zz

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Hello SO, okay so I moved in with my little sister (she had a boyfriend, broke up, then was left with all the bills and needed help). we had an understanding that we both would not be having visitors (boyfriends, parties) . However she went to a rave with this dude and ended up falling in love with him i guess. I dont really like the dude, he seemed sketchy when we went out (tried to take my drugs , long story). I am not happy with living here anymore because of the boyfriend situation. Is it out of line to leave? sure i want to help my little sister (rent) but im not happy with the way things are going. Id rather not be living here. Is it brotherly for me to say "okay sis, you have ur bf, you guys do what u guys gotta do" and just leave? cuz thats what i would like to do without any hard feelings. I dont want to leave my sis totally hanging but she basically left me hangin and is leaving me wide open and having strangers (to me) coming around the house and shit. I'd appreciate some advice..thanks
 
Depends on the situation. Is the boyfriend sleeping over or just visiting frequently? How long have they been together? Maybe your sister is looking for a replacement boyfriend. You could remind her of the agreement you had upon moving in and see how she reacts. If he's really becoming an annoyance to you, maybe tell her it makes you uncomfortable living there now.
 
hes coming over very frequent. I dont know but I'm pretty sure i'm not as normal as everyone else ; I need my space like more than people usually would, I am pretty antisocial. I do enjoy my sisters company however most of the time.
 
How exactly is the living situation? Like is it an apartment building where you each have your own room and you share common rooms (living room, kitchen, etc.)? Or is it like a big studio apartment where all the rooms are together (bedroom, kitchen, living room)? Or a one room apartment?
That makes a big difference.
 
Yeah when you're in that type of living situation, you have to stick with those rules. You need your privacy and this guy can't be in your space all the time. Maybe occasionally, I get it. If it was a two bedroom then I'd say ignore it. But when you're in such close quarters like that, it's really difficult to live with someone that close.
 
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