To build on liquidocean's point, when a girl says, "I want a guy who is financially secure" isn't she acting in a manner that is pretty much the same as a prostitute? Limiting her romantic affiliations to where she can get sufficient material gain?
It is kind of funny because, as a guy, I think pretty much nothing at all about a girl's income level. Whether a girl is unemployed, flipping burgers, or president of a company really doesn't matter to me in deciding who to date. It seems that men are not more shallow than women in relationships, we are just shallow in different ways.
Poezante:
Okay, so if some one pays for sex they are "dirty." I can see that, within limits. If it is years later, they have been checked for s.t.d.'s and found clean, would that change your mind? I mean, you can objectively understand they are disease free despite the encounter and there is no "hooker germs" still floating on them. But was that your main concern, or is it more a problem with them being the type who would do that?
Also, is your problem the guy being with a professional hooker, since they are generally thought of as skanky, drug-addicted, dirty, trailer-trash that sleep with a dozen guys a night and probably don't use protection a lot of the time? (That is the idea I get from Cops when they arrest streetwalkers.) Because then it would seem your attitude might change if a person paid for sex from a non-professional. I mean, if a guy sees a really beautiful girl and she is not a hooker and never has been, but he really wants to sleep with her, so he offers her $100, and she says no way, but he keeps increasing the money and she really needs money and he is not too unattractive, so she does it, how does that fit in? Better or worse? The person has paid for sex, but they have not come into contact with any of the "filthy" type of hookers.
What is the distinction between some one who goes out and had 100 one night stands in a year and some one else who goes out and hires 50 hookers that year? Which has a greater chance of having a disease? The 100 one night stands did not involve hookers, but on the other hand you can figure those girls were not exactly blushing virgins or they would not be having one night stands.
So is it the number of sex partners, and the sense you get that the sex partners were themselves very experienced that worries you, regardless of whether any money exchanged hands?
I guess I'm wondering if your problem is really with prostitution or with other issues that just happen to ALSO be present in the prostitution situation.
~psychoblast~