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mr.buffnstuff

mr.buffnstuff

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Ok as some of you may know I'm a welder and in welding you need to work away to make the decent money.... At present I hate my job! I probably pull 2k a month doing a job that's hardly challenging, if I work away I'll pull 2k in about 8-10 days. Iv got a small pipeline to stick together in Wales in February for 16-17 days and the gf is almost giving me the 'you go then don't expect me to be here when your back' kinda thing!?
I'm fed up of being skint! I'm 25 I want to buy a house a new car etc! What do I do?
 
I'm so tempted just to play it out and see what happens, I can't be skint cuz my gf will get lonely if I'm away for a bit can I? Has anyone else been in this situation?
Iv already said I wouldn't work abroad cuz that's hard for even calling, texting each other etc. but contracting within the UK isn't unreasonable surely?
 
What does 'skint' mean?
If you hate your job and you feel like you're not even making as much money as you deserve, well the logical step is to look for a new one. It's unlikely you'll immediately find something where you'll get paid more but maybe you could find a path that would allow you more space to climb the work ladder. Maybe try going through an agency?
I don't think I can really pronounce myself on your situation with your girlfriend unless you give more details about that.
 
Well if you work in a workshop the money im on is above average (13.50ph) but site work so contracting pretty much is at least double, nearly triple the money I used to do that from 18-22 but then was poorly and couple that with an nhs funded opiate addiction and depression left me doing lower skilled work and no contracting for 3 years... Iv now got some good contracts coming up that I will enjoy and pay well but the gf would rather me stay working where I am which I hate and it makes me hate my life when I should be back on the petrochemical refineries, power stations and drilling platforms doing the top spec work on the top money...
Can I give up my happiness and life to make her happy?
 
Skint = poor/hard up
There's plenty of jobs I can walk into immediately but she wants me doing a workshop based job which I can't stand, I like being on site. But being on site is often contracting away... I won't be away all the time though, mon-Friday maybe? 2 weeks on and 2 off very likely but even that's not good enough for her? What do I do? :(
 
House + new car = just materialism. However this girl - how long you been together? Obviously you haven't been present enough for her, this sounds like a last straw kinda thing...

It depends how much you love her. 2 k in 10 days is kinda irresistable though, I'd tell her to be reasonable, personally, as it's hard to graft a living in this lifetime. you support her financially at all?
 
Is this that girl who has all of the other problems? I think you should go and see how it plays out. I mean, this is your career, it is only for about three weeks....if she is worth keeping around then she will understand that everything is not always about her. It is not like you are disappearing into the wilds of Africa for three months without anyway to contact her. Her reaction is more than a little bit immature.
 
mr.buffnstuff said:
Skint = poor/hard up
There's plenty of jobs I can walk into immediately but she wants me doing a workshop based job which I can't stand, I like being on site. But being on site is often contracting away... I won't be away all the time though, mon-Friday maybe? 2 weeks on and 2 off very likely but even that's not good enough for her? What do I do? :(
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Ooh okay I get it now. That's tough. How long have you been with her and are you happy with her? What matters is your happiness in the end - whether that comes from making her happy is up for you to realize, but you should be your own priority in life (well, unless you have a kid or someone you're responsible for. But I digress). If you feel like you need to get out of this job and try something new that would mean you'd be away a lot, and if you feel like you won't be happy otherwise, I think you should go for it...
 
Exactly, to me compromising is me not working abroad again, last year I was away about 3 weeks in total and even that seems too much?
The car and house is materialistic BUT who wants to rent all their life and drive an old car about that Iv spent more time repairing than driving!? :(
 
It looks like you want something different. I'm going to send this to Education & Careers so as to get responses in that direction.
 
this seems like slr material. you really need to talk to your gf, mr. b.

it's a huge red flag that she's presenting you with an ultimatum like this, especially when the issue is employment and especially in this economic climate. it's 2 weeks for fuck's sake - you're not leaving for a year.

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Beachcat said:
Is this that girl who has all of the other problems? I think you should go and see how it plays out. I mean, this is your career, it is only for about three weeks....if she is worth keeping around then she will understand that everything is not always about her. It is not like you are disappearing into the wilds of Africa for three months without anyway to contact her. Her reaction is more than a little bit immature.
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Yeah, I was wondering if this was the same girl who has all sorts of problems, suicidal, attention seeking, etc.?
Anyway, it's only 3 weeks!! Yeah, it sucks to not see your partner for three weeks. I have a friend whose husband is in another country and he has been for a month and will be for another month at least, dealing with family stuff. She's left all on her own here. It sucks for her! But it's just how relationships work. When you have to do something, or when you have a good opportunity - your partner should not hold you back like that.
 
If I were you, I'd go to the job. This is your career. If she doesn't understand that, she's not good enough for you. Love don't pay the fucking bills. You've gotta be realistic about this type of thing. It's respectable that you want to earn your own house and car. Someone will appreciate that someday.
 
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