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:|I guess I never got it. It seems women are attracted to dominate men, who make it seem show have confidence don't care if they hurt others they're self esteem is fine but maybe just jerks . Aggression is good so football is big realy big in USA Players do pretty well in popularity contests. Often, on the telephone people think I am a woman. My voice is high, I am very thin. As thin as my name pops up if someone is sickly. I lack energy don't make money to live on. things are rough. I think that is why I look forward to taking my pills to go to sleep Need pills to get going the next day. "You got to go out, meet people" I am tired just tired. I am not whining just a social commentary.

Every month I am short with adderall and ritalin. I think depression peaks when I am out. Been treated for depression adult life. I see now how glum I can get. I know it is immature to think it is all about money. I am sure if I socialized more and be a friend, that is a realistic scenario to having a relationship.
Tell you one thing, my best friend from across the street, grew up did everything together. We are still in contact. He was the funniest most popular kid at school. Like Paul Newman, what it was we can't define, he just had it when he walked into the room. He had girls always talking or glamorizing him and a date for the parties and dances.
 
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You don't have to be dominate and aggressive to get girls...

But is this...
BHKTOPS said:
I lack energy don't make money to live on. things are rough. I think that is why I look forward to taking my pills to go to sleep Need pills to get going the next day. "You got to go out, meet people" I am tired just tired. I am not whining...
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something you think is attractive to anyone?
 
to get women all you have to do is talk to them, be friendly and funny.

and pretty_diamonds kind of nailed it there. unless you're going for goth chicks, and if your general attitude is a reflection of your commentary above, you need to lighten up--if you can't then maybe you need therapy or something.
 
lmao i thought this thread was about anal sex with women.

anyway. the whole women liking aholes things is an immature mind-set IMO. i've only seen it among younger folk.

as they grow older, the more down to earth girls i've talked to have actually claimed to be repulsed by the whole douchebag/asshole type of guy.

unless you consider the two different. the whole NFL thing, to me, seems a lot more to do with money than anything 'aggressive'. sure women like manly men but that's like the average woman??
 
negative attitudes are a turn off, confidence and self belief attract others

confidence and being an asshole are not the same though there is overlap

wild generalisations about women wont help you, they are part of your negative bias at present. ideas worth dropping
 
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unless you consider the two different. the whole NFL thing, to me, seems a lot more to do with money than anything 'aggressive'.
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Best of luck finding someone when you have no money, let alone someone who will stick by you through thick and thin. That quality, in both men and women, is dying out. Materialism and greed, bitches!
 
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to get women all you have to do is talk to them, be friendly and funny.

and pretty_diamonds kind of nailed it there. unless you're going for >goth chicks< and if your general attitude is a reflection of your commentary above, you need to lighten up--if you can't then maybe you need therapy or something.
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Thanks for the shout out smacky ;)

Women who like assholes are the most fucked up cause their hearts get repeatedly stomped on, so you're better off without them. Speaking from experience here..

That being said, if you don't at least pretend to have any confidence you're less likely to find a woman. This goes for everyone though.. Not just men.
 
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Thanks for the shout out smacky ;)

Women who like assholes are the most fucked up cause their hearts get repeatedly stomped on, so you're better off without them. Speaking from experience here..

That being said, if you don't at least pretend to have any confidence you're less likely to find a woman. This goes for everyone though.. Not just men.
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i <3 goth girls.

as said a lot here: confidence, OP, self confidence. you should work on yourself before you claim women only like dickheads.

when you do start getting to know women better, you'll be ecstatic to find out many of them are arseholes too.
 
Have you ever thought of changing your "type"? Clearly you are interested in females who share similar traits (being interested in jerks). Perhaps you could look elsewhere. There are soooo many other people out there.

Confidence is important but confidence doesn't make someone a jerk. Positivity. Then each individual likes different traits about others. ** everyone is different **
 
Dont take life so seriously man. We are here for such a short amount of time in the grand scheme of things.(although may feel long at times)

Many people aren't happy with a lot of aspects of their lives, and go to bed every night saying "tomorrow is the day when i change my life" blah blah, all excited and shyt yet they wake up and dont go for it and in bed the next night they repeat.

Dont be one of those people OP. Look at life like a wacky crazy adventure that no matter how bad it gets one day itll end just like no matter how good it gets, itll one day end. Dont live in the past as what's done is done, live in the moment and just relax. Girls are drawn to guys with good positive energy and confidence. They can smell desperateness from a mile away. The less you focus on women, and just do your own thing, happy to be alive knowing life could end in the blink of an eye the better off youll be in life and with women.

I wish you the best. Things will improve when you stop worrying about these 3 things

-the past
-what others think of you
-things you cant control


I know its easier said then done and im guessing your a young guy im just writing shit for some food for thought

I also came into this thread thinking it was gonna be about anal srx or something hahahahahaha

Peace
 
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Best of luck finding someone when you have no money, let alone someone who will stick by you through thick and thin. That quality, in both men and women, is dying out. Materialism and greed, bitches!
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If this is true for you, you're mixing with the wrong kind of people.

I've never had money. But i don't have any problem meeting genuine, wonderful people.
Maybe it has something to do with personality?
Being open, and not projecting negativity on people i meet - or people around me that are socially successful - seems to to have worked out pretty well.
The idea that you need to be wealthy/materialistic/greedy to find love/companionship/loyalty seems to be pretty contradictory.
There is practically always going to be someone that seems (from afar) to be doing better than you, but if you can let go of any bitterness that you feel about this, you'll be far better off.

OP, rather than focussing on people you think are getting the attention of women, i would suggest on working on your own self.
It's going to be less frustrating in the short term and beneficial in the medium to long term.
If you can work through the emotions associated with lonlieness and jealousy, you'll come out of this a stronger and more developed human being - which is both rewarding on a personal level, and attractive to others.

People arent born with attractive personalities - most people have to develop into the people they are, and those that have worked on growing into themselves sometimes seem to have better control over these things than those who grow up with charisma already intact.

Also, i hate football - and so do most girls i've ever hung out with.
Having unconventional tastes can be something to bond with people over...
Not being a sporty macho type can be a strength, not a weakness ;)
 
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