Hello Bluelight forums, I am new here, and I come here looking for some honest advice for AFOAF.
She has been in a relationship with this amazing guy, they have been together for around 7 months now. The relationship is strong, and got off to a brilliant start, they would stay up until 5-6am just laying in bed and talking to each other. They have a million things in common, and can't bare to be appart for even 5 minutes.
Unfortunately 3 months into the relationship his father died, he was only in his 40's and the death was completely out of the blue.
This obviously had a massive impact on (lets call him A) A, he was only just coming to terms with the death of his grandfather, which happened a year before, and so he spiralled all the way back down to the dark depths of greif.
The FOAF lets call her D, has tried her hardest to keep his spirits up, she is very close to his family and now lives with A and his mother, and A and D are never appart for a more than a few hours.
The problem is, A is holding absolutely everything in, and it is starting to come out in anger, and unfortunately sometimes D is at the recieving end, she has voiced this a few times, and every time he breaks down into tears and explains he is having trouble handling the grief.
D will continue to grin and bare it, because she loves him so much, even if it means getting hurt by words at times, she knows its not him doing the talking.
D used to take MDMA every weekend, but put a stop to all of her drug activities since she began the relationship with A, out of respect for him and new found respect for herself.
D watched a programme about MDMA, and there were a few people who had taken it as a theraputic thing, to handle grief and to be open, to accept the feelings they were feeling, in a much more gentle, accepting way.
D had the idea of taking the MDMA with A, just once so maybe he would open up and talk about his loss properly, and he seemed relatively keen on the idea, although he has never taken it before.
Although he seemed okay with the idea, D is still hesistant, because she doesn't know wether she actually bring herself to "introduce" him to drugs, she feels it would be corruption in a way, but on the other hand, knows that a huge chat on MDMA, can go a very long way.
So D would like to know, do you think this would be a good idea to help A come to terms with his own feelings? or do you think he should stay away from the MDMA?
It would only be the once, and in a secure environment.
Thankyou for reading, I hope to attain some useful advice, and second opinions.
//DeeDeez.
She has been in a relationship with this amazing guy, they have been together for around 7 months now. The relationship is strong, and got off to a brilliant start, they would stay up until 5-6am just laying in bed and talking to each other. They have a million things in common, and can't bare to be appart for even 5 minutes.
Unfortunately 3 months into the relationship his father died, he was only in his 40's and the death was completely out of the blue.
This obviously had a massive impact on (lets call him A) A, he was only just coming to terms with the death of his grandfather, which happened a year before, and so he spiralled all the way back down to the dark depths of greif.
The FOAF lets call her D, has tried her hardest to keep his spirits up, she is very close to his family and now lives with A and his mother, and A and D are never appart for a more than a few hours.
The problem is, A is holding absolutely everything in, and it is starting to come out in anger, and unfortunately sometimes D is at the recieving end, she has voiced this a few times, and every time he breaks down into tears and explains he is having trouble handling the grief.
D will continue to grin and bare it, because she loves him so much, even if it means getting hurt by words at times, she knows its not him doing the talking.
D used to take MDMA every weekend, but put a stop to all of her drug activities since she began the relationship with A, out of respect for him and new found respect for herself.
D watched a programme about MDMA, and there were a few people who had taken it as a theraputic thing, to handle grief and to be open, to accept the feelings they were feeling, in a much more gentle, accepting way.
D had the idea of taking the MDMA with A, just once so maybe he would open up and talk about his loss properly, and he seemed relatively keen on the idea, although he has never taken it before.
Although he seemed okay with the idea, D is still hesistant, because she doesn't know wether she actually bring herself to "introduce" him to drugs, she feels it would be corruption in a way, but on the other hand, knows that a huge chat on MDMA, can go a very long way.
So D would like to know, do you think this would be a good idea to help A come to terms with his own feelings? or do you think he should stay away from the MDMA?
It would only be the once, and in a secure environment.
Thankyou for reading, I hope to attain some useful advice, and second opinions.
//DeeDeez.
