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Why do i find sex disgusting while high?

burn out said:
i don't know about the religion argument, i wasn't raised religiously but i had a similar experience. for me though, it wasn't sex itself that seemed gross to me when stoned, but rather the things that turned me on when i was sober just did not seem at all appealing when i was stoned. they seemed so animalistic and vulger.

i also found myself disgusted by other things when stoned, things for which there is no religious or societal taboo. for instance, eating in a large cafeteria. i couldn't help but be grossed out by the sight and sounds of hundreds of bodies sitting there chewing up peices of plants and meat. in fact, the initial reason i became a vegetarian was because the idea of eating a dead animal, and the feeling of having it in my mouth, disgusted me when i was stoned.

for a long time i was very confused because i couldn't decide whether the way i saw things when i was stoned or when i was sober, was more right.
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I think this is exactly it. because i do tend to over think everything while high. Glad to know i'm not the only one that does it.
 
I don't think there's anything wrong with it in ur case ... Weed is what tames ur horny ass ;-)

just kidding
but seriously I feel the same on weed . I just have no desire to fuck a girl. Noo idea why , and I wouldn't do it .

Weird eh
 
I started smoking when i was 15 and never thought about sex very much in that time, I remained a virgin until about a month after i put down the herb, I never really thought of it like that until reading this thread but when i think about it now i had so many opportunities, my friends may have thought i was gay being 19 and admitting i've never had intercourse. lol. Weed is like a massive distraction in your head that keeps you occupied with thoughts, may not be the same case but i'm sure some of my girlfriends in the past had the thought.. is there something wrong with him/i?
 
theotherwoman said:
I think this is exactly it. because i do tend to over think everything while high. Glad to know i'm not the only one that does it.
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Yea sounds like your problem to me as well. im also one of those people that their thoughts are going a hundred miles an hour when high and sometimes i over analyze situations that i usually would'nt when im sober and then that turns into anxiety which is probably what your feeling. one of the reasons i quit smoking.
 
slimvictor said:
Your situation sounds immature and irresponsible to me.
I do not mean any offense, but fucking someone just for the physical pleasure can ruin the chance of you finding a partner with whom to experience the beauty and closeness of a real, loving relationship.
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IMO This.

I'm no mind reader, but I'm willing to bet you dislike what you're doing deep down, and while you're high, you are being more introspective about the situation.


I mean, or you could just not get high prior to fucking and forget about it. Your choice.
 
chainer3k said:
IMO This.

I'm no mind reader, but I'm willing to bet you dislike what you're doing deep down, and while you're high, you are being more introspective about the situation.


I mean, or you could just not get high prior to fucking and forget about it. Your choice.
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I've never gotten high and then had sex while high. This is only when i'm thinking about in class or wherever.
 
i have had similar issues. pot can make you anxious. it can also negatively affect your libido. i know that sometimes it can make me over analyze situations, including sexual ones, and make me feel uncomfortable. everything effects each of us differently. It MIGHT have something to do with this one guy but who knows. Trust your sober mind.

High paranoia can turn the small amount of discomfort about sex turn into something way more complicated than simple discomfort/weirdness being stoned. especially if you are just now becoming sexually active, which can already be very confusing until you become more familiar and comfortable with it.

anyway, don't worry about it. there is not one state of mind that is "right" and one that is "wrong." just don't get stoned before having sex if it makes you feel weird, and tell your partner that smoking makes you not want to have sex/feel anxious about it/whatever. just because you don't want to have sex with him when you are high doesn't necessarily mean anything about your relationship in general. i know that personally when i am stoned i dont want to have sex with anyone really. and i know other people who become much more horny while stoned. /shrug.

don't let the paranoia get to you. also don't let any of these sexist slut shaming assholes get to you either. do what you wanna do. have casual sex, have a relationship, get stoned, don't get stoned, whatever feels right. just talk to yer partner about your feelings and tell them its nothing personal if you get a little weirded out when you are high.
 
theotherwoman said:
I was totally thinking about that today and i felt like that while i was high.
But i dont think like that now while i'm sober.
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Dude what the fuck is wrong with everyone and you having a friend with benefits. Okay, so let me get this straight, a guy can look cool amongst his peers for fucking *insert number* girls and no hassle of being called a slut or whatever but when a girl does it you guys look directly at her having it? Thats fucking absurd because everyone should have the right to have as many partners, or as much sex with a person regardless only if they are both single and not ruining the others relationship (if they have one with someone else). Don't listen to anyone saying that bull shit girl, seriously you can do whatever don't even think about yourself like that 'cause really the male is the most promiscuous being there is if you look at it technically.
I'm a guy btw.

Back on topic. I use to have the same feeling when I got high and was thinking or about to have sex. I guess it had to do with a little of everything. The act. I couldn't understand why people did it if I felt so weird, gross, guilty, and whatever. My natural instincts made me want to have sex so i did but when I came I instantly felt like what I said and just felt worst emotionally than just trying to think about how good it felt physically. In the end I learned to accept that I'm just a human and that I shouldn't think about it too much and go with the flow.
 
OP there's nothing wrong with being a woman and just hooking up, having NSA sex with whoever, or having a fuck buddy or "friend with benefits" as they call it now just be safe both sexually and physically and don't let people force you into doing anything you really do not want to do at all.

As for why you find sex dirty or disgusting while high maybe you just prefer sex only while sober?

I've had sex drunk a few times. I didn't find it disgusting or anything but I didn't enjoy it as much as I do when I'm sober. I've never had sex while stoned or after smoking, eating herb, or vaporizing it.

I know that for myself I've felt physically dirty while high after smoking/vaporizing herb. I'd wash my hands and even change my clothes and take them off and take a shower while high at times. Then after washing myself I felt clean and fine. I have OCD and I think it centers around cleaning/washing since if I'm anxious washing dirty clothing and doing laundry, washing dirty dishes, my body, or cleaning a bathroom can calm me down.
 
People are complex. For anything you do in life, there will always be some piece of your consciousness that wishes you'd done something else. Drugs reshuffle the importance of different messages coming from your brain and body. So does living. Usually the moment guys finish having a sexual experience they have a completely reversed mentality. Sex loses its appeal and might even become disgusting. Does that mean deep down they didn't want to have sex in the first place? No. Is it possible that some part of them regretted the experience? Sure. But some part of me still thinks Santa Clause is real. I don't spend $100 dollars on cookies to go in front of the fireplace or write a wish list. I just acknowledge that in some small way that idea is in me somewhere, and it just might be the reason I have trouble getting to sleep Christmas Eve. It doesn't bother me and it's more trouble than it's worth to change. If I need to skip Christmas I can; there would be some immediate emotional repercussions, but I would know why they were there, and as soon as they were gone, I wouldn't feel bad about it.

You have a lot of biological reasons to dislike sex. You're just getting past the age where sex seemed disgusting in general. Girls are naturally more selective in partners than guys, as an evolutionary rule. You're going against that by specifically choosing a partner that won't commit to you long enough to raise young. These are all messages that are in you, but probably don't become dominant unless you're high or have the flu. Keep in mind that you have enough ideas and feelings in you to form several different personalities, and they would probably each live completely different lives and choose different mates. The weed gives you a window into a different part of yourself, lets you see something that you can change or accept or ignore. You have a lot of power to decide what you want to be inside. Just do what makes you happy.
 
It's a few days late to respond, but Brass, that was some excellent advice from how i interpreted her situation as well :). Do what feels right, and the open talking with your fwb or partner or whatever your situation is called can only strengthen your understanding of emotional self, as well as the empathogenic bond between you two.
 
theotherwoman said:
I was totally thinking about that today and i felt like that while i was high.
But i dont think like that now while i'm sober.
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Your problem isnt so much with weed, the problem is what's going on in your head.

Marijuana has a way of brining out our true subconcious thoughts. As alot of people tend to forget about marijuana is that it is a low level psychdelic, because marjiuana is such a common part of todays society that it's looked like a very commonly used depresent. An although it is, it still is also a psychdelic which goes past the layers of persona we are made to put on also in this modern society. (or any society really)

In a nutshell, since this is your first "friend with benefit" you are facing the conflict of morales that you have layed upon yourself; Like having to date, and have fairly strong feelings towards someone to have sex with them. And I am sure you think this guys is a good guy (if you didn't, that'd be another problem way worst than your current one), you did admit of having the feelings of being a "slut".

The best thing for you is to not be to hard on yourself. I had a very similar thing. When I lost my virginity it was to a friend. And she is a great person, and we still hang out all the time, but for a time I was trying to date her. Because I felt like just having sex wasn't a thing to be proud of. Infact I don't talk to a girl I know for that same reason. But after alot of though I realised this.

I'm 17 years old (the same age as your problem ironicly), I have my whole life to find true love. If me and my friend, enjoy having sex, and yet stil lenjoy each others friendship...what's so wrong?

If you cant get past these feeling of subconcious guilt however, mabe you should consider either ending the sex, or taking your relation to another level. Just because Im okay with having sex dosent mean everyone is. And it is alot diffrent for you as a woman because you also have the stigma society has set by saying woman who have sex with a decent amout of guys are "sluts", "skanks", "kock nockers", "Old uncle toms recipe" (actually I thought of that one now...lmao)

But you get the point. So those are your two options. It wasn't the pot that made you feel this it's your mind being more open to explore itself under the influence of THC that did. If you want an example of that actually go to my thread in the darkside section called "I don't think I enjoy smoking anymore" which was the same thing you have when yuo smoke, except mine was thinking about my chronic opiate use which finally made me get clean and back to my old self.

Please tell me what decison you make, and best of luck.

-80
 
I know when I'm tripping I find the thought of sex very foreign and weird though not from weed. I was thinking about it one night as I was tripping when my friend mentioned how he wishes this girl was with him. I was thinking how maybe I would like to cuddle or some shit but I would not even want to anything sexual at all. Doesn't help much but it could be related.
 
i had deep revelations while shoving my penis inside a random woman i met at a festival, high on three hits of acid and smoking DMT, while orgasming i had moments you wouldn't even believe. I'm standing there, my nut oozes out of a totempole looking thing attached to my lower body while space and all reality warps around me, i actually thought the chick i was blowing my load on was trying to eat me, and never let me go again.
Then i realized that it only takes one semen cell to make a baby, and that if, for whatever reason, this should happen, i noticed i wanted nothing to do with it. Then i asked myself why i was doing this, but i couldn't think because as i was trying to think i had that girl sucking on my nuts while handing me another bowl of DMT.

It's the fact that random sex IS DIRTY AND GROSS, but it's natures way of conserving the continuation of the human species. Sex only ever felt right to me when i was with a loved one, someone i date and trust completely. Then it's not so much sex, but experimenting.

Either way, as soon as i was done ejaculating she sat up on a chair and spread her legs, expecting me to eat her out. Well, i'm telling you, what i saw was not so much a vagina, but a talking head with a hole in it that seemed kind of like a homeless person, because it looked old, worn out and had stubbles everywhere. Not to mention, i could just not get myself to even go near that thing in my state of mind. Usually i'm down for eating pussy but oh god, it was if it almost scared me. Then the started rubbing her snatch, and i swear to god, i saw her fingers being eaten by the monster between her legs.

Sex doesn't interest me anymore, unless it's with a loved one. I masturbate furiously, for i get the same satisfaction, minus the girl expecting me to show myself appreciative. It's a lot safer, i don't have to worry about pregnancy, and i can stop whenever i want to. I don't feel any kind of pressure opposed on me, i don't have to perform, i simply masturbate for however long i please.

Feels good man.
 
Nib said:
I know when I'm tripping I find the thought of sex very foreign and weird though not from weed. I was thinking about it one night as I was tripping when my friend mentioned how he wishes this girl was with him. I was thinking how maybe I would like to cuddle or some shit but I would not even want to anything sexual at all. Doesn't help much but it could be related.
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rave23 said:
i had deep revelations while shoving my penis inside a random woman i met at a festival, high on three hits of acid and smoking DMT, while orgasming i had moments you wouldn't even believe. I'm standing there, my nut oozes out of a totempole looking thing attached to my lower body while space and all reality warps around me, i actually thought the chick i was blowing my load on was trying to eat me, and never let me go again.
Then i realized that it only takes one semen cell to make a baby, and that if, for whatever reason, this should happen, i noticed i wanted nothing to do with it. Then i asked myself why i was doing this, but i couldn't think because as i was trying to think i had that girl sucking on my nuts while handing me another bowl of DMT.

It's the fact that random sex IS DIRTY AND GROSS, but it's natures way of conserving the continuation of the human species. Sex only ever felt right to me when i was with a loved one, someone i date and trust completely. Then it's not so much sex, but experimenting.

Either way, as soon as i was done ejaculating she sat up on a chair and spread her legs, expecting me to eat her out. Well, i'm telling you, what i saw was not so much a vagina, but a talking head with a hole in it that seemed kind of like a homeless person, because it looked old, worn out and had stubbles everywhere. Not to mention, i could just not get myself to even go near that thing in my state of mind. Usually i'm down for eating pussy but oh god, it was if it almost scared me. Then the started rubbing her snatch, and i swear to god, i saw her fingers being eaten by the monster between her legs.

Sex doesn't interest me anymore, unless it's with a loved one. I masturbate furiously, for i get the same satisfaction, minus the girl expecting me to show myself appreciative. It's a lot safer, i don't have to worry about pregnancy, and i can stop whenever i want to. I don't feel any kind of pressure opposed on me, i don't have to perform, i simply masturbate for however long i please.

Feels good man.
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I have NO idea what you guys are talking about.

OP...you still here?
 
theotherwoman said:
I have just started to become sexually active, with my friend. We both look at it as an activity that you don't need to be dating or in love for. I feel as though we are moth mature enough to handle a relationship like this, though i am 17 and he is 18. So yea i really like our relationship and i think its awesome and it feels so right. I day dream about sex in class just how guys do.

But when i smoke weed and think about sex, i feel the complete opposite about it. I feel like its gross and dirty and wrong and completely turned off by the whole idea of it. And it makes me feel bad and question myself and what i'm doing, which is why i am asking this question, because i am confused and unsure. I've never had sex while high so its not because i've had a bad experience.

What i want to know is why i would feel so weirdly about sex while high. I don't like feeling grossed out by it. And which feeling is right and which is wrong? Is the sober feeling right or is the high one? They both make such perfect sence when i'm in that moment.
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I'm illiterate, have a low tolerance for just about anything, and have not read the rules! Please infract me!
 
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