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Why do i find sex disgusting while high?

theotherwoman

theotherwoman

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I have just started to become sexually active, with my friend. We both look at it as an activity that you don't need to be dating or in love for. I feel as though we are moth mature enough to handle a relationship like this, though i am 17 and he is 18. So yea i really like our relationship and i think its awesome and it feels so right. I day dream about sex in class just how guys do.

But when i smoke weed and think about sex, i feel the complete opposite about it. I feel like its gross and dirty and wrong and completely turned off by the whole idea of it. And it makes me feel bad and question myself and what i'm doing, which is why i am asking this question, because i am confused and unsure. I've never had sex while high so its not because i've had a bad experience.

What i want to know is why i would feel so weirdly about sex while high. I don't like feeling grossed out by it. And which feeling is right and which is wrong? Is the sober feeling right or is the high one? They both make such perfect sence when i'm in that moment.
 
theotherwoman said:
I have just started to become sexually active, with my friend. We both look at it as an activity that you don't need to be dating or in love for. I feel as though we are moth mature enough to handle a relationship like this, though i am 17 and he is 18. So yea i really like our relationship and i think its awesome and it feels so right. I day dream about sex in class just how guys do.

But when i smoke weed and think about sex, i feel the complete opposite about it. I feel like its gross and dirty and wrong and completely turned off by the whole idea of it. And it makes me feel bad and question myself and what i'm doing, which is why i am asking this question, because i am confused and unsure. I've never had sex while high so its not because i've had a bad experience.

What i want to know is why i would feel so weirdly about sex while high. I don't like feeling grossed out by it. And which feeling is right and which is wrong? Is the sober feeling right or is the high one? They both make such perfect sence when i'm in that moment.
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You're probably thinking too much about the specifics of sex whilst high, whereas your sober thoughts on sex are just manifestations of your natural desires.


Don't think about what sex physically and biologically involves, what with having another person inside you, exchanging bodily fluids.. things like that. Don't focus on them. Instead remember that sex feels good and is necessary (not necessarily for every individual, but for society as a whole).



I think your sober thoughts on sex are the "right" ones, but that's purely subjective. There's a lot of people, especially younger women, that can't stand the thought of having a person inside them.
 
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This is actually a really good question. There seems to be two sides to this story of sex and cannabis; I'll try to explain my experiences with both of them.

When sober and horny, I will often get an urge to go pick up a woman a bar which often leads to sex. When I have this 'urge' to do this, and then smoke cannabis, I find that I don't care so much for going out, I become more reserved and I basically lose the 'urge'. This also holds true for pretty much any random urge that I get. It even helps me from relapsing at times when I want to go out and score some hard drugs, I usually stop caring after I smoke cannabis. It makes me "comfortably numb".

BUT, when there is already a planned evening and I know I am going to be getting laid already I absolutely positively smoke before hand. Sex is 10 times better on pot. Do it. You'll love it.
 
weed does this to me. not in the same way, but in the way that it makes me think about my life and the bad decisions ive made
 
based on what you said, seems like if you were having a sex with a guy you cared for those negative thoughts wouldn't appear while stoned. maybe it's your conscience. dont think of them in terms of 'right' or 'wrong' though, they're just thoughts. weed just makes you think of things on a different level.
 
theotherwoman said:
I have just started to become sexually active, with my friend. We both look at it as an activity that you don't need to be dating or in love for. I feel as though we are moth mature enough to handle a relationship like this, though i am 17 and he is 18. So yea i really like our relationship and i think its awesome and it feels so right. I day dream about sex in class just how guys do.

But when i smoke weed and think about sex, i feel the complete opposite about it. I feel like its gross and dirty and wrong and completely turned off by the whole idea of it. And it makes me feel bad and question myself and what i'm doing, which is why i am asking this question, because i am confused and unsure. I've never had sex while high so its not because i've had a bad experience.

What i want to know is why i would feel so weirdly about sex while high. I don't like feeling grossed out by it. And which feeling is right and which is wrong? Is the sober feeling right or is the high one? They both make such perfect sence when i'm in that moment.
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Are you religious? Or come from a religious background?
 
catholic school can have a heavy affect on your views of sex, even though i didn't believe in religion i found my self constantly just brainwashed into all the ideas that sex are evil and shit


also, cannabis enhances the senses so if you don't get totally into it it can turn out bad, maybe just cuz there isn't that emotional connection
 
TheOtherWoman:

(Let me preface this by stating that if there are any religious people here, I don't mean to abuse your beliefs. I am merely speaking from MY experience.)

Religion is a heavy burden to carry. I was raised catholic and went to catholic schools and all that jazz but never really cared for it nor believed in it. A few years ago I had an awakening experience which purged me completely of those beliefs. I never realized that those feelings were still there. What I'm trying to say is, those ideas of fear, sin, and guilt are planted VERY deeply in your subconscious and is hard to let go of. The only thing I can think of is that you feel wrong because of a religious background. Having impulsive sexual feelings is natural and there is nothing wrong with exploring. Try to put your finger on why you feel "bad" or "dirty" Could it be the guy you are with? Could it be something you don't like about yourself?

If I were you, I'd try to rid myself of feeling sinful and try to understand that no one is "up there" judging you. Only YOU can judge YOU. Live only for fun and love. If you do that, you will never have regrets.

Or.... I could be way off.
 
i don't know about the religion argument, i wasn't raised religiously but i had a similar experience. for me though, it wasn't sex itself that seemed gross to me when stoned, but rather the things that turned me on when i was sober just did not seem at all appealing when i was stoned. they seemed so animalistic and vulger.

i also found myself disgusted by other things when stoned, things for which there is no religious or societal taboo. for instance, eating in a large cafeteria. i couldn't help but be grossed out by the sight and sounds of hundreds of bodies sitting there chewing up peices of plants and meat. in fact, the initial reason i became a vegetarian was because the idea of eating a dead animal, and the feeling of having it in my mouth, disgusted me when i was stoned.

for a long time i was very confused because i couldn't decide whether the way i saw things when i was stoned or when i was sober, was more right.
 
Guilt is kinda common especially with bud that doesn't have a very good thc/cannabidiol ratio. Unfortunately there isn't really any easy way to tell the thc/cbd content without sending samples to a lab. If you want to get rid of that feeling while high then you need to be with someone you actually care about or somehow force yourself to come to grips with the logic behind the whole thing.
 
I am the say way when I'm high. I think it has something to do with over-thinking everything when I'm high. Jwh-018 is even worse than cannabis is this regard. I try never to smoke within 2 hours of my g/f getting home from work....otherwise she thinks I'm cheating not high!
 
Personally, I would respect the thoughts that you get when you are high.
There is a chance you are just getting freaked out for no real reason, but it is equally or more likely that feelings that you normally bury in your subconscious come out to the surface when you are high.

Your situation sounds immature and irresponsible to me.
I do not mean any offense, but fucking someone just for the physical pleasure can ruin the chance of you finding a partner with whom to experience the beauty and closeness of a real, loving relationship. You are spending your time and energy on a guy that you don't have a deep emotional commitment with, and other guys will not be able to appear on the radar, or if they do, they will not fit into your schedule or will be turned off by what they perceive as your previous commitment (or, possibly, your casual attitude toward sex).
Nothing against sex for the physical pleasure, but sex that includes emotional closeness is a million times more profound and pleasurable, at least to me.
To claim that you don't want a relationship because it would "make things complicated" is avoiding the whole responsibility that comes along with a loving relationship. It sounds like you are scared, maybe, or not respectful of the possibility of love.

This, I should probably mention, is nothing more than my opinion, but since you asked, I am happy to try to answer.

Good luck finding the right answer for you!
 
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